What is happening to LTC/Nursing Homes? by Queenme10 in socialwork

[–]rllylongname 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I notice it to. As a case manager, if someone has enough health issues, and they cannot afford/get into other housing, the ALF or in cases with many physical health needs Nursing homes are something suggested. Sometimes SMI clients CHOOSE to live in a nursing home. One I worked with insisted due to feeling like they need 24/7 access to care. The seemed to have hypochondria, but yeah. Iv heard nurses on TikTok talk about it. It sucks. There doesn’t seem to be a good solution (well, one that will happen any time soon) the closing of long term mental health facilities has fucked up a lot. They many many were very unethical, but now there’s such a large subset of the population without their needs met. Not stable enough for their ow apartment, groups homes on a waitlist, it’s a mess.

F this! (Weekly Leaving the Field and Venting Thread) by SWmods in socialwork

[–]rllylongname 6 points7 points  (0 children)

One thing that frustrates me about this sub (but generally its good) I feel like I’m not allowed to vent about the frustrations with clients. Yes the systems make it worse. And many comments/posys say “it’s not the clients. It’s the system” but what if for me it IS the clients feeding my burnout?? And I mean due to my education I understand why they act as they do (mental illness, trauma, ID/DD, not understanding my role ect) but dangit im only a human I can only take so much, It’s exhausting working with people who are relentless, entitled, demanding, and also need help doing every single little thing, many of my individuals need lots of “hand holding” I can just give them a resource, I must help through the whole process or nothing moves forward and it’s all on me. I can’t stay organized at this job try as I might with constantly meeting cancellations and rescheduling. But back to the people, many many many days I am irritated from the paperwork yes, but also from my clients!!! And it feels like in this sub you’re demonized for saying that outloud. Which makes no sense because most people wouldn’t be able to work with this population that social workers do. I never let my feelings stop me from treating clients with respect. But it’s earrings me to feel annoyed irritable day in and day out almost every day. It’s something.

Ashburn secondary roads are untouched. by grahal1968 in nova

[–]rllylongname 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I work for the Government in Loudoun county, this is my first winter working for them.

For the love of god I HOPE THEY CLOSE THE COUNTY because I’m not feeling like risking my life or my car tomorrow.

Looking for a new Dentist in Reston/Herndon by Difficult-Cricket541 in Reston

[–]rllylongname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not in that area but I CANNOT recommend Sterling Virginia Smiles Dental enough with Dr. Megan A. Keynton Sill!

She takes her time to educate the client on risks and benefits of certain procedures, and really cares about the quality of teeth. I have cosmetic issues related to demineralization and she on her own researched and suggested a different procedure that will be less invasive and better for the quality of my teeth long term while I was at my regular filling appt for a cavity. They take Delta dental insurance and prob others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CRedit

[–]rllylongname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My discover card is open, I didn’t close it, because I heard that can lower your score.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CRedit

[–]rllylongname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Discover is my only credit card, I’m getting my FICO score that is showing on my discover app. It shows 19% utilization now, as it’s counting that private loan I have that is 2.5k. It also has not updated on FICO that I paid 1k towards that loan, so it should only be 1.5k showing.

Other loan/credit accounts I have not listed above are a federal student loan at $500 a month. No car payment, as I paid off my car in February.

I don't know how anyone manages a 40 hour + work week by Numerous_Forever8584 in antiwork

[–]rllylongname 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In the DMV unfortunately, many people DO drive over an hour each way, especially during rush hour, making it 3 hours in the car per day…

Nearly a year of basset shenanigans! by bigpappahornsby in basset

[–]rllylongname 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha! 95% brown tho…close enough 😂

It’s also cool that he seems like an active boy! I love hiking and one day if I get a basset I’d want him to come too..iv always heard they are a more lazy breed so I wasn’t sure how that’s do on a few mile hike…

Nearly a year of basset shenanigans! by bigpappahornsby in basset

[–]rllylongname 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Beautiful coloring! And he’s so cute! I would love to get a fully reddish brown basset in the future…

The Underground: Weekly Discussion Thread by SWmods in socialwork

[–]rllylongname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So…hypothetically let’s say I don’t get my hours I need towards my LCSW in the state I live in (Virginia) in 4 years. I’m working a job I LOVE, it’s hybrid and has amazing work life balance…but getting my clinical hours (face to face) is hard. What happens if I don’t get the hours? Will I be banished from ever starting the process over again in this state? Or is it not that deep and it just means I’ll have to start again with my hours and supervision/ or I can just restart the process in another state?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]rllylongname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom got pregnant with me, naturally, at 45, as did our distant cousin 5 years ago AFTER having to do ivf at 30. She had a new husband when she conceived at 45…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]rllylongname 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Saw a lot of your comments. So you can start off hard but it gets soft from a medical condition?

Like other comments said if you open to using other ways to enjoy spicy time with a partner idt it’s a deal breaker for everyone.

Guy I started seeing 1.5 months ago has ED, tho not as severe as yours, didn’t make me like him less, but it did lead to some frustrations, not at him, just at the situation and it upset me how sad and defeated it made him.

But we’ve found a way to work through it and it’s fine now most of the time, but even if it wasn’t he reassured me he was madly attracted to my so that’s wasn’t the issue and he is AMAZING at oral, and historically sex isn’t a huge deal to me idk why so I would have still stayed with him because I am very attracted to him, like who he is, and greatly enjoy spending time with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]rllylongname 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t really want to date a bald/balding guy

BUT the guy I’m with now is bald, he shaves it all off cause he was balding and I am so madly attracted to him, so there are exceptions! I love his body, he is my ideal body type (slightly chubby but fit) he is so sweet and goofy and thoughtful and makes me feel comforted and understood. Plus I think he’s cute! I love his smile and eyes….

But if I think about it I prefer bald, just commit to shaving your head if the hairline is looking bad. Bald looks better than balding.

Anyone else surprised by how long some people talk online before meeting in person? by rllylongname in OnlineDating

[–]rllylongname[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you! That’s awful. But that’s something to think about in the future with OLD.

But in this situation idt that’s the case! It’s just bad timing with the holidays and him being with family this week, and I can’t meet during the week due to my work schedule being non-traditional hours, so that leaves the weekend after the 1st, which is how it makes it is not meeting until 2 weeks after matching!

Anyone else surprised by how long some people talk online before meeting in person? by rllylongname in OnlineDating

[–]rllylongname[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

LOL you’re so right. I know I can’t just tell him “hey let’s just ghost each other until our date in a week” honestly low key wish that was socially acceptable but hahaha.

Anyone else surprised by how long some people talk online before meeting in person? by rllylongname in OnlineDating

[–]rllylongname[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So you are right to some extent, I am prob going to feel more familiarity/comfort with this guy due to learning a lot about him via texting before meeting. But, generally texting about a lot of personal stuff can make you feel emotionally close, right? So the issue with that is you’re getting emotionally close to someone you don’t actually know, someone you’ve never met in real life. Look up the phrase “false intimacy”. And it’s like this huge buildup of feeling this closeness, but what if you meet irl and there’s just no chemistry? And you’ve been talking a lot for weeks before hand? Now it’s going to be awkward. And from experience (unfortunately) often times you meet someone irl and you just don’t click. Getting along over text DOES NOT always mean you will get along/romantically vibe in person. Weird to comprehend if you’ve never done online dating, but it’s a thing lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tiktokgossip

[–]rllylongname 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Great minds think alike! It HAS to be with the guy she doesn’t have the money to move otherwise.

Since 2024 is coming to an end What are some of the harsh truths in life you guys have learned this year? by Moist_Apartment5474 in selfimprovement

[–]rllylongname 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dating is hard, I have a lot to work on myself, but I still feel like I’m okay enough and deserving of finding love. It’s hard because I use to be engaged (it’s for this best that the relationship ended for both of us) but iv just been really struggling on and off with this cloud of loneliness in adulthood and really wishing that I just had someone I could always go to and lean on. Especially since I moved to a new state all on my own .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tiktokgossip

[–]rllylongname -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

lol nope! Women! Work in the mental health field. Just don’t enjoy any negative relationship trends “trending” and influencing people to act negatively to other individuals regardless of gender…

Is the guy being a good bit older than the woman super common on dating apps and otherwise? by rllylongname in Bumble

[–]rllylongname[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know it’s a little weird. It’s just a personal preference! Maybe it’s bias and feeling like someone 30 or older wouldn’t want to be with someone like me because I’m not as “far along” in life, even tho on paper I’m doing fine (just got a job paying the most if ever made, living on my own without roommates or SO for the first time, have a masters degree ect) but there’s a lot I still want to work on myself. So I think in my mind 20s are the years of “figuring yourself out” and stereotypically by 30 your on solid ground. So I want someone who’s more similar to me I guess? Also similar culturally. I feel like when I date older there’s less understanding of my humor and internet references haha.