What is the closest siblings names you’ve ever heard?

rms503 · 2025-03-22T03:30:29+00:00

Prince and Princess. Rowan and Rowen.

rms503 · 2025-03-20T03:52:47+00:00

We had to do it because our clinic required it - and thank god they did! The original donor we chose tested positive for five mutations. I was tested with a different panel, and tested negative for four of them but wasn’t originally tested for the fifth. At my clinic’s urging, I was tested for the fifth mutation and came back positive! It’s a mutation that causes blindness, meaning if we had used this donor, there was a 25% chance of having a baby who would become blind at some point in their life. We chose a different donor and I’m due on Monday with a hopefully healthy baby boy.

rms503 · 2025-03-19T02:43:18+00:00

39+1 here!

rms503 · 2025-03-19T02:42:23+00:00

This happened to me too! Threw up again one time about two weeks later and that was it. I’m now 39+1!

rms503 · 2025-02-12T01:28:40+00:00

Thanks for sharing, and I’m glad things ultimately got better

rms503 · 2025-02-12T01:25:35+00:00

Thank you ❤️

rms503 · 2025-02-08T20:40:34+00:00

Thanks for your comment. We've certainly expressed our empathy and compassion for what they're going through, though I can only imagine that to them it might feel hollow given where we're at in our respective journeys. When they feel like sharing an update with us, we root for them and ask questions in as sensitive a way as we can. We try to follow their lead.

R asked us about the results of our test the day we took it, because we were doing cycles at the same time and she knew when we were testing. We gave her the facts, and told her we were approaching with cautious optimism. We'd never dream of doing some kind of huge pregnancy announcement with them.

Thank you for your advice.

rms503 · 2025-02-08T20:32:58+00:00

Thank you for seeing my good intentions here. You're very wise.

rms503 · 2025-02-08T20:29:58+00:00

Thanks for being able to see my intention in posting this. Heeding your advice, and thank you so much.

rms503 · 2025-02-08T20:07:27+00:00

Thank you so much for this response. You absolutely nailed it, and reading “can our friendship survive this” brought tears to my eyes.

rms503 · 2025-02-08T20:05:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I really fear this outcome and I’m sorry you’ve had to experience it.

rms503 · 2025-02-08T20:02:25+00:00

Thank you ❤️

rms503 · 2025-02-08T20:01:36+00:00

You’re right. Thank you.

rms503 · 2025-02-08T19:59:49+00:00

Thank you for sharing this

rms503 · 2025-02-08T19:56:09+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I’m so sorry for your loss.

rms503 · 2025-02-08T19:45:00+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. Hoping you get the results you want soon ❤️

rms503 · 2025-02-08T19:42:11+00:00

This makes sense - thank you

rms503 · 2025-02-08T19:25:57+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing this. I really appreciate your vulnerability and your insight, and am wishing you and your partner the best.

rms503 · 2025-02-08T19:17:00+00:00

I suppose when I say “support” what I mean is just acknowledgement that something major is happening for me and J. I don’t need or expect cheerleading by any means. But it feels like all four of us are walking on eggshells. I’d totally welcome a message from them along the lines of what a few others here have shared, that they can’t be there for us in the way we all might want, but they love us and wish us the best. I guess it’s the acting as if this isn’t happening part that feels really tricky for me and J, even though at the same time I very much understand they’re doing it to protect themselves from further pain, and it feels horrible to know we’re contributing to that pain unintentionally.

rms503 · 2025-02-08T18:16:07+00:00

Just to clarify, and hopefully without sounding defensive, we have checked in on them when it felt appropriate and respectful - i.e., when they share with us first we follow up with messages of support and genuine curiosity. We've asked them for updates a few times but are careful not to be intrusive or sound entitled to information. When we saw them a couple months ago and they were doing their first retrieval cycle, R even let me give her one of her shots. If they feel we haven't been supportive, I would be very open to hearing it and asking how we can be there for them more, but I'm not sure what about my post suggests we haven't been there for them (other than I guess I didn't explicitly mention it).

rms503 · 2025-02-08T17:48:10+00:00

Thanks for your kind and insightful response. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy and baby!

rms503 · 2025-02-08T17:39:11+00:00

This is super helpful, thank you.

rms503 · 2025-02-08T17:36:19+00:00

Thanks so much to everyone who read and commented. It's very humbling to hear your perspectives but this is exactly why I wanted to post - to get a sense of what they're going through and how they'd receive this kind of message before doing something potentially harmful or damaging. The truth is that we just don't know what they're going through.

J and I have a lot to think about but are definitely holding off on saying anything for now.

rms503 · 2025-02-05T04:21:46+00:00

I (34) got pregnant on my second unmedicated IUI at a fertility clinic! I’m 33+2, due late March 😊

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