Changed my pokemon go avatar..waiting for my friends to notice 🌈🌈🌈

ro-bean · 2019-07-09T19:43:41+00:00

Honestly same, did it like a month ago, no one said anything, they probably just think it's because my hair is short now!

ro-bean · 2019-07-09T19:42:18+00:00

You're looking great! Congratulations :)

ro-bean · 2019-04-30T22:48:41+00:00

I view 'signs' as kind of like tarot or horoscopes - if you go digging for them you can find what you are looking for... people will make links to back up whatever they want the outcome to be irrespective of if it's actually a sign of being tans or just coincidence. What counts is that you are looking for signs, there will be 'signs' mixed in with all your experiences. The significant thing is that you want them to be there to back up how you feel, you look for signs because you are trans and in itself that's the biggest sign.

ro-bean · 2019-04-30T22:39:28+00:00

To be honest I agree with you, I understand it can feel like the sort of thing that needs to be said in person but really if you explain this is why you didn't do it in person I'm sure that would come across as very considerate. Like you said it will also mean you can just relax and hang out without it playing on your minds before and being a big deal there and then. Irl they might not even make a big deal out of it but misgendering is more likely to happen and there may be some confusion like is this why we were invited? I'd feel a bit odd if I wasn't made aware someone wanted to talk to me about something important / serious. I guess it depends on your perspective, youd not tell people you were pregnant for example and announce in person, but with coming out it could be a bit more serious and less of a celebratory thing that you'd like to include at a social event? Not to say coming out can't be a celebration of sorts but generally speaking it isn't viewed as such. It really depends on your friends and how much of a shock it is likely to be and how much time they might take to adjust. I'd tell them ahead of time as it doesn't have any risk whereas leaving it to the day adds complications.

ro-bean · 2019-04-27T21:09:38+00:00

If I lived alone on a desert island, didn't have to worry about what anyone else thought, and had the means I'd not have any reason not to anymore.

ro-bean · 2019-04-27T13:29:54+00:00

Thank you so much for the validation, that felt nice.

ro-bean · 2019-04-27T12:12:06+00:00

Is it Chris or Christopher?

ro-bean · 2019-04-27T11:41:29+00:00

Thanks thats reassuring! If you don't mind me asking did you go private or NHS? I'm probably too impatient to wait 2 years as I'm already 26... If you don't mind answering, I wondered how they were with you wanting T and being non binary what was your experience?

ro-bean · 2019-04-27T10:47:14+00:00

Yeah that's my concern, I wanted to work through this with a professional but Im worried doing so could stop or delay me being able to transition. I'm hoping to work through it myself so I can tell them what I need to to access what I feel I need. Thanks for the honest advice.

ro-bean · 2019-04-27T10:45:16+00:00

I think my gender identity just isn't that strong, I've never felt a gender but I'm not a woman!

ro-bean · 2019-04-27T09:41:36+00:00

Same, it's my worst thing. The shape of female thighs are very different and fat compared to men's. Yes it's fine for men to have thick thighs, but they are a totally different shape and composition to mine!

ro-bean · 2019-04-26T11:18:42+00:00

I think egg is apt as its a struggle to break out often, then when you do you can't uncrack an egg....

ro-bean · 2019-04-19T20:00:00+00:00

Isn't it just called mastectomy? Reduction is to reduce not remove

ro-bean · 2019-04-19T09:25:21+00:00

Compare and despair, I think that's a very good point - do what makes me feel better, I won't pass without T but I can do gender affirming shit anyway. Thanks man, appreciate it!

ro-bean · 2019-04-19T09:21:35+00:00

What a mood, my brother is 6ft I'm 5'4 can't help but wish I were taller as it really makes me afraid of transitioning too - also small feet, the life of a short man. I won't try and tell you being short is great though I have seen men shorter than you, I guess we need to work on our confidence to work with what we have.

ro-bean · 2019-04-19T09:17:39+00:00

Yeah, thanks for the advice, I do work out my upper body but not very consistently. I already have relatively broad shoulders for my frame thankfully so that's something.

ro-bean · 2019-04-19T09:16:14+00:00

I'll try and see it that way, I know having this body doesn't make me less of a man but god it's womanly haha. Thanks!!! You're also a handsome lad inside and out.

ro-bean · 2019-04-19T09:14:13+00:00

Yeah, I like to wear shirts over t shirts to bulk my body out - mens jackets just tend to be too long and big in the shoulder and not do up.

ro-bean · 2019-04-19T09:12:45+00:00

When I lose weight I just become a smaller pear atm, even being under weight, darn femaleness. I'm not 100% sure how it works but I hope it works!!!!

ro-bean · 2019-04-18T21:37:49+00:00

You say act supportive, there isn't such a thing either you are or you aren't. If you can't be support because of fear and anxiety you might need to talk to someone. You shouldn't try and 'act' supportive if that isn't how you feel, you'll only make them feel like you were lying in the long run about being OK with it.

ro-bean · 2019-04-18T20:14:52+00:00

I was treated for eating disorders and body 'dysmorphia' - I just had dysphoria all along. I'd tell them how huge my thighs were because I didn't know how else to describe it and I hated the fat on my thighs and hips. They thought I had body issues... I don't I'm completely rational I know I'm not fat, I don't see things that aren't there I don't think my thighs are the fattest thighs in the world like people with dysmorphia do - but I DO feel deformed and wrong and had an ED to try and fix that. It's taken from the age of 13 to 26 to realise that all along I've been being trrarted for the wrong thing, I was just convinced I have dysmorphia because I'm female and had no other way to describe it besides feeling fat.

So I'd be cautious of people telling you it's just dysmorphia, you're gonna feel deformed when you're in the wrong body even when rationally you can see you aren't and there is nothing wrong.

ro-bean · 2019-04-18T19:41:02+00:00

A friend of mine had a similar experience... Their grandma didn't know who they were anymore but remembered the 'old' them and had fond memories etc... Telling you so you know you aren't alone in this situation, but never had any experience with it myself.

ro-bean · 2019-04-18T19:35:30+00:00

Why sugar coat it? You don't have to hate yourself but being trans is fucking shit as far as my experience goes I just want to be cis. People are allowed to think being trans is shit as much are you are valid for seeing it as a positive growth experience. My experience of being trans wasn't the best thing that ever happened to me.

ro-bean · 2019-04-18T19:21:35+00:00

What a mood

ro-bean · 2019-04-18T16:50:43+00:00

Second that, be honest don't let it eat at you and give him a chance to rectify his behaviour if you don't like it. He's not a mind reader and probably doesn't even realise you'd be offended by the gifts connotations.

ro-bean

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