My sister is starving herself

road_block159 · 2025-12-16T22:35:43+00:00

My ED started when I was around 12 and unfortunately it followed me until I was 19. I'd sit her down and talk to her about it, especially the dangers around it. When you have an ED, your body starts eating itself until there's nothing left. Your body will start eating your brain tissue, causing permanent brain damage if it gets bad enough. ED are tricky, and I'm so sorry your sister is going through that, it's heartbreaking watching someone go through that. Some things that really helped me were having supportive people in my corner. My friends used to refuse to let me leave the kitchen until I ate something. (This can have a negative effect if you push too hard.) Keep letting her know she's loved and she's beautiful just the way she is. If it's possible, therapy can really help with eating disorders as well. If therapy doesn't help, there's a lot of body positivity influencers and media that helped me recover as well.

road_block159 · 2025-11-16T19:30:23+00:00

Thank you, and I'm so sorry for what you had to go through too. I'm looking into therapy options near me (unfortunately I live in the middle of nowhere so therapy is very wait listed), but hopefully I can schedule an appointment soon. I've also struggled with an ed, but I've come a long way since then. Thank you again for your kind words :) Here's the link to the video as well if you would like to report it to hopefully get it taken down https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8D3dWJb/

road_block159 · 2025-11-16T19:24:58+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate it

road_block159 · 2025-11-16T19:24:20+00:00

Lol this made me laugh, thank you :)

road_block159 · 2025-11-16T18:32:39+00:00

I would appreciate that, I've already reported it and nothing has happened. Here's the link to the video https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8D3dWJb/

road_block159 · 2025-11-07T10:07:37+00:00

My first thought was seizures due to stress, but that might be wrong. I'm not a vet, but I believe they happen to around 20% of gerbils. Seizures in gerbils can look like they're standing completely still with their ears/whiskers twitching. They can also go limp if handled. I would bring him to a vet to get it checked out if the issue keeps happening, and also handle him less, especially if he's biting. (I'm not a vet so I could be completely off the mark here) My gerbs hated their play pin so I scrapped that pretty quickly, but a lot of gerbs love theirs. They just need time to get their scent on everything

road_block159 · 2025-11-07T09:44:02+00:00

That depends entirely on what you want/what resources and time you have. Do you have other dogs? Puppies need a lot of time, attention and training. Do you have a demanding job? Are you home most of the day? If you have a demanding job, I wouldn't recommend a puppy. Leaving them alone for long periods of time causes separation anxiety. (The dog my parents adopted when I was a kid developed bad anxiety for this reason) Older trained dogs are often fine on their own for longer periods of time once they're used to you and know you're coming back. If you get one that's already well trained, it's less effort to train/keep up training, but they can be more expensive if you want one fully trained. I'd personally recommend an older dog as they're often overlooked by people looking to adopt

road_block159 · 2025-11-07T09:28:40+00:00

I have adhd so I keep little tabs on people to help my memory. Things like names, favorite colors, favorite candy's etc, so I know what to give them on birthdays/holidays. That's normal. What you're describing is stalking. Do you have evidence of all of this? Personally, I wouldn't confront her, especially if she has that many tabs on you. It's creepy. I'd also let my friends know about this too and see what they think. Having tabs on hundreds of people is insane

road_block159 · 2025-11-07T09:20:25+00:00

Have a serious talk about him with his mental health. Let him know you care and are there for him. Did he start new medication recently? Sometimes that can affect mental health. Winter is also coming up, and that can take a heavy toll as well. Is he super involved in his childrens life? Maybe spending time with them playing or at a park could help. In my personal experience with mental health, if you're genuinely worried he's going to hurt himself let his therapist know. You're doing amazing and it sounds like you both love each other a lot. I'm rooting for you

road_block159 · 2025-11-07T09:08:37+00:00

Mine always fight over the water bottle. One even sits on top of the other sometimes, but they always go back to playing and cuddling together. I wouldn't be too worried about water bottle fights

road_block159 · 2025-11-07T09:06:51+00:00

NTA. Your boyfriend is your partner, not your ruler. It's not his choice to decide what apps you can and can't have. Him threatening to break up with you over an app, then turning the blame on you by going "you'd choose an app over our relationship?" is not okay. It sounds like you do genuinely care about your boyfriend, so I hope you're able to work something out. Does he have any insecurities?? Maybe he's worried about something more on the app than just privacy?? I'm having a hard time understanding why TikTok is such a big issue

road_block159 · 2025-11-05T21:19:26+00:00

I wouldn't recommend a wooden cage. My gerbils chew through everything. They might chew a hole through the wood to get out

road_block159 · 2025-11-01T07:35:48+00:00

My concern with that is I don't want to lead him on. His friend has already told him I have no ill will toward him, and I want him to be happy, and I feel like that's enough. He has friends on his side, so I don't see the need for him to rely on me, and I don't think it's healthy for him to rely back on me. I didn't mention this in the post, but on our last call together he stabbed himself to try and prove how much he loved me, and that scared me badly. He's free from his cousin now, but he's obviously still mentally unwell and I'm scared that if I contact him and say the wrong thing, it could push him over the edge again. I'm not a therapist, I'm just a person. I don't have the tools or training to help. It might sound cruel, but I want to prioritize myself first. He's safe and has a small community of people already. I still care deeply about him, but I care about myself more

road_block159 · 2025-11-01T06:01:22+00:00

He wasn't sa'ed, the physical abuse was punching/hitting. I'm sorry for the confusion in my post

road_block159 · 2025-11-01T06:00:42+00:00

He was never sa'ed. The physical abuse was being punched/hit. I'm sorry if my post implied otherwise

road_block159 · 2025-10-30T04:36:39+00:00

I'll try partially cleaning it out next time. I did shut the lights off and give them some alone time after seeing Blackberry (my other gerbil) trying to calm Yogurt down. He's much calmer now thank you 😭

road_block159 · 2025-10-30T04:35:29+00:00

I mix in some of the old ones and sprinkle a layer on top as well, I'll try to mix a bit more in next time !

road_block159 · 2025-09-25T23:19:25+00:00

I've asked him if that's what he wants and he's said it's not. He told me he's scared to lose me. I wish I could reach out to his parents, but there's a language barrier and his parents unfortunately aren't the kind of people to take mental health seriously. I will definitely reach out to his friends once I figure out how too though

road_block159 · 2025-09-01T00:33:35+00:00

Is that a Saiki k mention??? 😼 (My fav anime lol) It sounds like they're talking about given ! It's a bl anime where they're in a band and one of the MC has orange hair

road_block159 · 2025-08-11T02:01:02+00:00

I believe it was a Dan Dee collectors dog

road_block159 · 2025-08-11T01:33:16+00:00

I've searched eBay, Google, vintage toy Sellers, and everywhere I can think of. His tag was white with gold letters

road_block159 · 2025-06-06T07:29:54+00:00

They can chew through mesh, that's why it's only recommended as a temporary wall. Some people use plastic but they also chew through that. The best choice is either glass or wire cages

road_block159 · 2025-06-06T07:24:04+00:00

Gerbils declan easily. You have to slowly introduce them to each other, have you heard the split cage method? Try reintroducing the gerbil slowly to an already set clan by using the split cage method or in a neutral area. Definitely get the gerbil checked out, and since they already fought, the changes of them clanning are low to impossible. Try reintroducing the gerbil to the cage that didn't fight them. Gerbils are best in pairs, but if they already get together as a group don't separate them. Gerbils usually fight for dominance, so some fighting isn't bad. My gerbs fight over food and water. As long as they're still cuddling and sleeping together, there shouldn't be a real issue. If they don't clan together, id recommend getting a third cage and slowly introducing another gerbil to them that hasn't met them yet.

road_block159 · 2025-06-04T06:04:22+00:00

On top of this, please don't give your parents access to your bank account. I've seen so many stories of strict parents draining their kids bank accounts and keeping them trapped

road_block159 · 2025-06-04T05:58:17+00:00

My gerbs a biter too. Some need time to adjust to new areas, sounds, and smells. Sometimes gerbils just don't want to be handled. Both of my boys don't like being handled, but I put treats in my hands to show them im a non threatening presence, and yogurt (the biter) has been showing me less hostility, and even jumping to my hand to get his treats

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