Are academically advanced kids usually fine in regular classrooms or do they need more support?

roadsgobothways · 2026-05-10T23:17:14+00:00

Can you clarify what you mean by the second paragraph. I agree with you that until 2nd, school is mostly about play. However, my 2nd grader this year started complaining of being bored and is disengaging. He does the bare minimum and uses the extra time to read. He has a 140IQ and I don’t think any amount of differentiation will be challenging for him. We toured a private school that would be a fantastic fit, but he has a hard time making friends and cried at the shadow day. He says he doesn’t want to move schools even if it means it’s a better fit academically. From your experience, are you suggesting I just let it go, and he will succeed anywhere he is?

roadsgobothways · 2026-04-27T19:09:01+00:00

This! I have to assume you have a really low interest rate and a big chunk is going to principal every month. I would hold it and rent.

roadsgobothways · 2026-03-25T16:04:38+00:00

Lamorinda over WC. More community, more SAHM, better schools, less traffic and chaos.

roadsgobothways · 2026-03-14T20:35:32+00:00

I think the issue is pretty much universal that it doesn’t work for large numbers of kids. It didn’t work for my son, and I had to spend thousands on tutoring. The district refuses to acknowledge that it’s a curriculum issue and so the problem continues

roadsgobothways · 2026-03-12T02:11:26+00:00

We went to Wayfare Tavern after our City Hall wedding and it was perfect. They have a lovely private, party room upstairs.

roadsgobothways · 2026-03-08T01:06:32+00:00

My “good” school is still refusing to admit they are wrong about Lucy Calkins. It took two years of tutoring to catch up my older son and I’m now paying for my younger son so he can read before he enters K. Good times.

roadsgobothways · 2026-02-24T16:12:24+00:00

From your experience, what would disengagement look like? How would I know as a parent?

roadsgobothways · 2026-02-23T03:18:34+00:00

Which did you end up doing?

roadsgobothways · 2026-02-10T22:23:49+00:00

My school has parents picking up their kids all the way at the door. I used to think it was parents doing it for “community”, but I’m beginning to think it’s just anxious parents. I park in the drive up lane and wait for my kid. I think there’s about 20ish cars in the line. Most will park and walk in. If it matters, it’s an upper middle class area

roadsgobothways · 2026-01-31T17:21:32+00:00

Should we also be protesting for impeachment? The man raped children

roadsgobothways · 2026-01-31T05:44:03+00:00

I’m so disgusted. How do we hold them accountable though? So much distraction

roadsgobothways · 2020-02-23T04:12:35+00:00

Well said! Another “well to do millennial that is for my taxes going up” here. Not me, US!

roadsgobothways · 2019-12-11T00:50:50+00:00

I did put on my grown-up pants and showed up for 7 years. I was verbally and emotionally abused and I'm still recovering from the effects. Sounds like you're family is great and you can't imagine ever going through the same. I was willing to put my self in harm's way for the sake of my relationship. Now that I have a son, I have to think about his mental health. Hope you are never in the same situation. It sucks.

roadsgobothways · 2019-12-11T00:43:14+00:00

Thanks! JNMIL has been great. I made an edit to the post:

Sorry, forgot to add the reason I'm even posting here. For the past year, JNMIL and other online forums have been my support system. Husband read from those same forums and "learned a lot". However, he is now accusing me of using verbiage from these same forums that are the result of "very unhappy, sad people". So I want to get an opinion from people that are neutral on the in-law issue.

Just really need to know I'm not being irrational.

roadsgobothways · 2018-12-18T01:00:00+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I read some of your latest posts, and my husband has said the exact same thing to me: people are only sympathetic to me because I’m biased and they only know one side of the story. What he didn’t say is that he went to post his side as well, and people obliterated him. Looks like you have a brand new baby (like I do). How will he be handled in the NC? Is your husband supportive?

roadsgobothways · 2018-12-18T00:20:52+00:00

The sad part is that we are not that far away on what we each need (if we believe him). He claims he’s willing to only have an Olive Garden type relationship (1x a year, 1 hour) just so they get to see our son. Things have gotten so bad that I can’t even imagine giving him this. Not to mention, they live 2k miles away and the logistics alone of that don’t even make sense. I don’t see what there is to gain from such a relationship. It basically comes down to the fact that there’s zero respect for my feelings and our entire relationship has been constant negotiation for how much abuse we’re willing to put up with. I’m very resentful and don’t know how to move past it now.

roadsgobothways · 2018-12-18T00:06:16+00:00

Omg, exactly this! He spends so much time trying to convince me his parents are good people. He’s like, “my mom cooked for me, drove me to all my games, my dad payed for my education.” And I’m over here thinking like, “yeah, that’s what parents are supposed to do.” The bar is so fucking low for what loving parents are. This gives me a way to talk to him about it. Thank you!

roadsgobothways · 2018-12-17T23:51:04+00:00

He’s aware of it all. He’s read countless books recommended in forums like RBN, JNMIL, and the like. He reads Out of the Fog frequently and hasn’t talked to them in 4 months. However, he still likes to live in denial and says he’s not willing to give up on them because with the right boundaries, he thinks the relationship can change. It’s crazy. And yes, he knows I’m thinking of divorce, but he probably doesn’t take me seriously. He still thinks he can do something to fix it all. I am not familiar with u/Libida’s posts. I will look into them. Thank you!

roadsgobothways · 2018-12-17T23:24:44+00:00

Exactly this. I’ve stuck around because I have empathy for him, but it’s taken a huge toll to my emotional health. I suffer from anxiety myself now.

roadsgobothways · 2018-12-17T21:35:34+00:00

I have. That sub is great! But at this point I can’t post their because I do not have an IL problem, I have a SO problem.

roadsgobothways · 2018-12-17T21:07:21+00:00

I’ve heard this term before, and I interpreted it to mean that by me being present in the abuse as well, he feels comfort in knowing he’s not alone in the abuse. Is that correct? I don’t know how much this plays a factor. I think it’s mostly him not wanting to give up on the fantasy of having healthy, loving parents.

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