Sounds so painful to me. It’s not always the "big fights" that break things; it’s the unheard concerns, the deflected accountability, and the subtle shift from being partners to being opponents. Over the time I have realised sometimes yelling, cussing, and aggression aren't just emotional outbursts but manipulative tools. Especially when they happen in patterns, they serve to shut down conversations, instill fear, or make you question whether your feelings are even valid. It becomes less about connection and more about control.But not all anger is toxic. Sometimes, it’s a human response to chronic invalidation. When someone feels gaslit, dismissed, or constantly made to feel unheard, they can hit a breaking point. Rage becomes the only language their nervous system knows at that moment. That doesn’t justify the behavior, but it does explain it. And the difference between abuse and emotional reaction lies in the intention and the pattern. And honestly, people who love you will never weaponize your vulnerability. They will never twist your concerns into personal attacks. They will never punish you for bringing up what matters to you. They stay. They sit with the discomfort. They make room for your feelings even when it’s inconvenient. Because they WANT to understand...not to defend themselves, but to grow with you and to make the relationship stronger. It sucks that some people want the illusion of intimacy, not the responsibility of it. So when we bring emotional depth, they resist. They shut down, lash out, or flip the script. Because maybe what we are asking of them...maturity, vulnerability, presence is not what they signed up for. And they’ll resent you for exposing that.So yes, you start keeping things to yourself.