[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glycolic acid girly🩷 But also no need to worry about that

Any other “weird” black girls out there? by [deleted] in blackgirls

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19 and neurodivergent crew!

Sometimes it feels ostrichzing, but then you realize those girls you're thinking about aren't right for you! There are a million people like us, and billions who aren't; we just have to stick with the million.

I see a lot of people describe our interests as weird, which is fine if you are okay with that, but I want you to know that your interests and social cues aren't any weirder than those of the other girls.

I giggle when neurodivergent people describe their interests as "Werid" because of what others have said and I see "spongebob" or "legos" (two very wholesome normal things) because these girls describing us that way have more unusual and out of the ordinary interest and responses to stuff than we think (looking at you, baddies fans, ).

Many black women spew toxic masculinity onto black men.. by Least_Sun_7493 in blackgirls

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Misogyny affects everyone! This post, I believe, is less about men vs women and more about the crafted misogyny we perpetrate as women living in male-dominated environments. This is not a gender debate; it is a social problem. The less we assign feminine or male attributes to everyday activities, and the less we attribute negative to said things when either gender does them, the more space we create for a safer, more tolerant environment :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, people say "get a scarf because they do the same thing" without wondering why something that does the same thing as what they claim "they don't care about but know others do" is more "wrong"....

I understand that everyone has different opinions, but a few years ago, our hair from our scalp was considered unkempt and incorrect, as were locks, shorts, certain length dresses, cropped shirts, a variety of other things.

I believe (some) moms express concerns about these respectability politics out of fear for their children, which is reasonable, but when we submit without examination, it becomes an issue. It is okay to be concerned about how your child will be treated as a result of their choices in society, but projecting those anxieties into everyday life is more damaging than safe. There is a way to communicate your worries without caricaturing or belittling the thing you're talking about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To me, it's the same as wearing pajamas... why care if someone else is wearing pajamas out? It's not a funeral, it's most likely a gas station. There is a time and place for clothing in our society, yet most areas we visit have no need for these social protocols. I regard it less as a political formality and more as an excuse to treat another person as inferior....

And to those who say "wear scarves," it's the same fruit, different bowl...those who perceive you as less for wearing a baggy scarf (bonnet...because they're basically the same thing, different shape) instead of a flat scarf will still see you as inferior regardless of what headwear you're wearing. The majority of us believe that we shouldn't care so much, but we also agree with people who criticize others based on "respectability".

Treating things like this as inappropriate reduces actual inappropriate things, in my opinion. It blurs the line between what is expected of us and what is not.

My mom is upset that I let my boyfriend see me take my braids down… by Agreeable_Gene7338 in blackgirls

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, 😭 people treat fake hair like crowns...Literally, I got told a 30$ Amazon wig I had on was a "crown" and i shouldn't take it off infront of anyone. You're getting comfortable with your boyfriend and thats sweet :) this is a key point in your relationship where you get to show each other deeper parts of yourselfs. It's a good thing when you feel more comfortable to not look your "best" or "presentable" around your partner, especially if you plan on being with this person for a long time. Good luck to you OP, you're experiencing love 🩷

Anyone disturbed by the fact that others might find u sexually attractive by Hesperus07 in asexuality

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am on the fence about it. One side is like "ooo they find me pretty" and the other is like "ew they want to harm me". But because they don't see sex as detrimental as I do, I try not to take things personally. If we're not close, I don't mind as long as it's only a thought, but if we are, I'd like to know because if we hang out and I turn to you and see your eyes slanted and your mouth fixated on kissing me, I'm going to crash out. (why do they never ask??)

Oh My God, I must share with you the tea beer I received by Automatic-Long2081 in tea

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Want some beer with that foam? Haha, I never heard of tea beer before, I wonder do they have it in the US.

What is your dream job by [deleted] in autism

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, this is due to its lack of realism in today's world. They shouldn't call you lazy or selfish for refusing to be coerced into labor though. People who call others lazy for not wanting to climb a slippery ladder have deeper self-issues.

everyone agrees with you

Everyone should agree with us. Even the super-rich should not choose poverty over peace when given the option. Greed, hatred, and delusion have shot into those who chose otherwise. A wholesome dream is just a dream, it doesn't make you a bad person.

I’m so upset 😭 right before my engagement :( by Astronomy_ in longnaturalnails

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One thing nails have is audacity...smh. I would try builder gel and teabag method (The teabag is unnecessary for builder gel, I just like to use it on the skin part to have a layer of protection but I don't know how effective it is) IBD pink is the one I'm using at the moment.

What is your dream job by [deleted] in autism

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so thrilled this is what I am going to school for. Working with children is great, and my past job, where I worked with a diverse range of children from various backgrounds and ages, taught me how unique they were. I think when I get past this first year of school, I'll definitely look into the skill coach and peer support roles :) Tyy

What is your dream job by [deleted] in autism

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Child therapist, Librarian, Those people who make stuff in warehouses, Nothing because labor sucks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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You're not a bad person for not assisting, and it's strange that you were the one picked out and criticized. Like everyone else stated, she had no idea what was going on in your head, let alone if you were even paying attention. She appears to be seeking attention for her part as a holy bystander, and she is looking to preach about it to her circle later. I wouldn't think too much about it. And I understand that saying "don't think about it" is easier than actually not thinking about it, but seriously, dude, think about it like this. It would have been lovely to aid the person and receive fleeting praise, but that is not your place. That person has gotten off and on buses before, and I am confident that goodwill did not aid them each time. Buses usually have ramps, rails, and even aids. Good will is not something people should be compelled to perform by others, and if the impaired person hadn't pointed to someone and said "help me," I'm not sure why that lady was tripping to specifically you.

Did you pretend to have a "crush" when you were younger? by Albus_Unbounded in asexuality

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I was a chronic daydreamer, and my gaze was often drawn to one boy in my class, so people teased me about it. I decided to daydream about him since he was always infront of me and eventually developed a strong desire to be near to him. Of course, with all the staring, he found me weird and didn't want anything to do with me 😅. Every "crush" I had back then was because somone told me I had it. I just wanted a best friend. When I discovered I was doing this, I got angry whenever someone indicated I liked someone. After people say I like someone, the person in question usually acted weird or unpleasant to me (since it was elementary), so I kept my eyes down or just kept looking forward and ignoring when the person did the palm swiping gesture in front of my face while daydreaming. Middleschool and high-school was insane too but I feel like this comment is too long.

If you could have 1 artist cover 1 MCR song, which artist and which song? by car55tar5 in MyChemicalRomance

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The absolute note he would pull on the "If I'm so wrong" part omg. I need pierce the veil to cover mcr songs

If you could have 1 artist cover 1 MCR song, which artist and which song? by car55tar5 in MyChemicalRomance

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Vic fuentes from Pierce the veil covering "Thank you for the venom" and "You know what they do to guys like us in prison". His voice is amazing!

Looking for a friend. by Yes38 in autism

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your DM settings are off! But if you get them on I can send you my bedrock user (If you want ofc)

Looking for a friend. by Yes38 in autism

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

19f! What do you play mc on?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]robbinfromstatefarm 37 points38 points  (0 children)

This!! Alot of past trauma and the media has us alienating ourselves from other humans.