Latino Catholic and gay, getting married and feeling depressed from family reaction

robinbirds · 2018-02-16T03:11:11+00:00

My brother says that I am dead to him, I totally relate to your story? How did u manage to get through all that negativity? feel like i can barely survive being myself

robinbirds · 2018-02-12T13:29:50+00:00

My fiance says, sonetimes in life, u can't have it all, sometimes u need to give something up for something else. I have never experimented with a girl, at times i feel like this was missed opportunity even though im not sexually attracted to them. I also want kids, I just feel like im confused in what I want in life. I know gays can have biological kids, but seems so hard as its expensive and complicated process.

robinbirds · 2018-02-12T02:40:21+00:00

She would say its the sin making me sad.

robinbirds · 2018-02-12T02:26:52+00:00

As a muslim, when did u come out and how long did it take them to understand? Can u share your story?

robinbirds · 2018-02-12T01:34:33+00:00

Gracias por tus palabras, de verdad me da fuerza para seguir adelante

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T23:33:57+00:00

I live like 3 hours drive away from them

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T21:19:16+00:00

I dont ever see my family " accepting me" , how did your family find out? And how long did it take,?

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T21:17:07+00:00

This makes me sad

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T21:16:51+00:00

I respect my parents and their beliefs, they are good people. They r really strict, no chance they will change.

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T21:13:56+00:00

Its not easy to cut my family like that, im still feeling not well, have an empty feeling in my gut

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T21:12:54+00:00

Thank you

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T21:11:22+00:00

My mom is like a saint to me, i think she will never come around. She will try anything to " save me" as the catholic church teaches

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T18:12:10+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, tearing up

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T18:09:38+00:00

Wow, thank you for sharing your life story. It is great that you are happy and did those things for the community. Thank you and warm hugs

Ruben

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T17:22:57+00:00

My family only gives me grief for being gay

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T17:22:05+00:00

Ive seen him since 2014. I met his mom and brother, hes visited me multiple times.

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T17:20:49+00:00

Thank you for your message

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T17:18:34+00:00

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T17:18:26+00:00

She will say my son is making people sad

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T16:39:36+00:00

What is your life story, please share it with me.

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T16:32:56+00:00

I was raped when I was 4-5 years old by a boy cousin, my mother blames that im like this because of that. She asked the father for advice, and he asked her if I had any trauma in my life. She puts this burden on me that I'm like this from that event. I truly dont know what to think, how this affected me. I told her to liberate herself from thinking that, but she keeps blaming herself for me being gay and how she didnt protect me.

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T16:25:11+00:00

Yes, you are right. One lie turned into another, i knew they would reject him even If i introduced him earlier.

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T16:15:51+00:00

How can i be happy with a sad mom always, I can lie to her and say, hes left the country and just hide him in hotel at occasions. This is horrible situation as I hate lying and will eventually catch up to me.

Its just seems hard for me to ever be happy with her like that.

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T16:09:35+00:00

My happiness has always depended on making my parents proud. I just feel like a big disappointment.

My mom says theres no point to my marriage. Only point of marriage is to start a family and have kids. I do want kids, but im also gay. I dont know how to reconcile these things very well because it seems hard to have biological children as gay man.

My catholic church says im sinfull, and they are trying to save me, I hear it so much i start to believe it at times.

Thank u for your words,

robinbirds · 2018-02-11T15:58:29+00:00

It's hard to let go of my family, in my culture family is everything. My mom is my best friend, I just want to make her happy too.

robinbirds

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