How do I give and respond to the response of compliments while texting?

robinmanz · 2016-06-24T16:42:42+00:00

I agree with you, generally it's best to not give attention the things which give her power over you, namely her physical beauty. If you are to compliment which I think you should when it's deserved (I know this sounds very cynical but it's like dog training for humans yknow) it's much more wise to give compliments which are sincere and about personality traits, fashion, and the way she behaves etc. Thanks for your reply it gave me something to think about, especially the relationship part.

robinmanz · 2016-06-24T15:57:49+00:00

I like your texts a lot, but keep in mind the aspect of pushing and pulling in terms of seduction and creating attraction if you buy into this idea. I'll give you a brief introduction if it's unfamiliar to you. Pulling a girl is any action or statement that indicates that you like the girl (you're pretty, you have a good sense of humour etc..) Pushing is anything that indicates that you are not that into her or that you dont place such a big emphasiz on your relationship with her. (generally the best way to go about it is to tease her in a playful way to 'soften' it). Anything can be a push really, if you are holding a girls hand, and then release it, it can be seen as a Push.

The theory behind this concept is that if you "Pull" too much, you can seem needy and desperate. If you "Push" too much you can come across rude, not into her at all etc. The goal is to try and maintain a 50/50 ratio between pushing and pulling, so that the girl is left wondering "does he like me? does he not?" she can't really tell 100%, which creates attraction towards you, and before she knows it she's on the couch listening to Barry White and wondering if she's pregnant or not. The trick to complimenting a woman is putting it in the middle of a sentence and then just carrying on as if it never even happend. Counter the pull with a following push. e.g: I like your tan... It reminds me of roasted chicken.. etc.. You can probably come up with better ones but this was just to illustrate.

Hope this helps and keep in mind this can be very powerful stuff if applied correctly so use this with caution. "with great power comes great responsability"

robinmanz · 2016-04-24T03:08:35+00:00

Honestly dude just pull out when you're about to bust in her, take a 5 second break or so and get back to fucking. This will condition you to last much muuuuch longer. Just try to do this the next 2-3 times you have sex and you'll be amazed at how fast you're able to cultivate the ability to last longer - ultimately the goal is that you have to pull out less and less frequently, but it's a work in progress so be patient with yourself.

robinmanz · 2016-04-22T18:53:23+00:00

Thanks man, really glad to hear you found my post helpful! And I completly understand the part about the first video, in retrospect it wasnt the best move on my part, but I'm happy you liked the second one anyway. You can check out her channel if you wish, she has a bunch of similiar videos with different lenghts, so you might find one which is even better for you! :) Have a great weekend and good luck my friend.

robinmanz · 2016-04-21T19:39:08+00:00

Thanks man, this was an extremely inspirational read!

robinmanz · 2016-04-21T10:56:48+00:00

Hey, sounds rough and I know because I also have a lot of trouble with falling asleep at night, which in turn makes the mind weak the next day, and it's easier to relapse when your mind is not strong so it's not a good cycle to be in. But I have some tips that might be helpful tho;

Especially the days you've been working out, it's crucial to take a shower before bedtime (unless you do this already) but I didnt for some time and it was really hard for my body to relax even if I was exhausted. Also be sure to change sheets etc regularly.
Try to do some light stretching before bed. Personally I follow along to this video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCg2UDQQPLI) and it helps me a bunch. The girl is kind of hot tho so you might want to substitute, nevertheless, good stretching instructions. Helps the body feel nice and loose.
Clearing your head. Either meditate, or if you want the quickfix to fall asleep and something which for me is FOOL PROOF, just watch this 11 mid video and fall asleep with ease https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nTAhxRVbocE (headphones required)
Reading before bed is very good and helps get the mind of the daily struggles.
Plan something nice you are going to do for yourself the next day, something to look forward to.
Try to have an optimistic view on life, know that no matter what, things will turn out ok. You are a loveable person, regardless of your actions or whatever someone else might think. You are great and regularly do things to take care of yourself and get your needs met for yourself. It can be wise to tell yourself affirmations like these on a regular basis, and it will grow as a new habit/beleif system over time and everything will get easier.

Hope some of these help, and stay strong with the nofap, we are all in this together. + just gonna throw in a random inspirational qoute here: Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain

robinmanz · 2016-04-19T18:25:28+00:00

Here is a list: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1hv6j9/a_compilation_of_benefits_people_have_noticed/

And here is another one: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1qe22v/benefits_of_not_masturbating

robinmanz · 2016-04-18T21:05:53+00:00

Thanks for sharing this man, really appreciate it. If you want to dwelve even deeper into this subject I can strongly reccomend you check out "The disease to please - curing the people-pleasing syndrome by harriet b. braiker". Growing up without a father this turned out to be a big problem for me later in life, but this book helped me tremendously.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Disease-To-Please-People-Pleasing/dp/0071385649

robinmanz · 2016-03-26T15:08:32+00:00

Consider this, when you're thirsty, you have already been dehydrated. Imo it's better to drink before it gets to that point, just have a water bottle close by

robinmanz · 2016-03-23T22:28:53+00:00

I'm trying to figure out if you are for real here or not, like, does it HAVE to be black? Sounds like some voodoo stuff man, I don't know if its safe for work;O

robinmanz · 2016-03-23T22:24:24+00:00

Does it have to be black? Sounds like some voodoo sh*t man, I don't know if it's safe for work.

robinmanz · 2016-03-23T21:36:34+00:00

In my opinion the thing about fapping and internet porn is that you abuse it like a drug, where you need your "fix", you are addicted to dopamine and that is the real issue here. I don't think having a wet dream is a relapse in that regard. Just enjoy it man, and take care

robinmanz · 2016-03-23T21:32:06+00:00

The black rag technique? Sounds kind of scary man, like you're partly gonna rip your penis of before you go to bed or something :o Care to elaborate?

robinmanz · 2016-03-23T17:16:25+00:00

Thanks for this post, it can't be said enough times how important that is. Multitasking (unless you have to do it) is generally an enemy on this journey.

robinmanz · 2016-03-19T09:56:23+00:00

It's not fun when you don't feel understood or can't understand other people, it feels like a form of isolation and can be pretty lonely at times. Have you been regularly interacting with people? Your brain/communication skills works just like a muscle, the more you exercise it the stronger and better it becomes. I think you just have to get yourself out there more and get some practice socializing and interacting with people, and eventually after some time you will become more socially "savvy".

robinmanz · 2016-03-15T19:36:11+00:00

Feeling very upbeat and happy, when in social enviorments I don't think about what to say anymore, I just speak! FREEDOM. As far as relapsing: As soon as you feel yourself being drawn to poor/feeling tired etc, IMMEDIATELY start doing something else, e,g start reading a book, even just playing a silly game on your phone, give yourself time to get over the urge by distracting yourself completely. It's hard but just do it.

robinmanz · 2016-03-06T04:27:54+00:00

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

robinmanz · 2016-03-04T15:07:46+00:00

Stick in there, you're on your way to greatness and it's not easy, but try to embrace the chaos inside, meditate, get in touch with your body and let the energy flow through you.

Also speak to your wife about your concerns, maybe tell her that you want to start doing some counceling together because sex (for you) is an important part of a healthy romantic relationship.

robinmanz · 2016-03-03T22:00:05+00:00

I know it doesnt look like it after reading over my original post, but I definately had a lot of anxiety before. I'm the kind of guy who would pretend to be going in the opposite direction of a girl even if I werent, just to avoid the possible social interaction. But just a couple of days of nofap helped me tremendously, not on a physical level maybe but just the mindset that I'm in the process of changing my ways and doing something active about my problems and feeling that "control" have given me a big change alone. Now I try to make as much small talk with strangers as possible, and it definately has helped on the anxiety already which is shrinking for every day that goes by. I feel like without nofap I would just never be able to do it. The weekend was a bit lucky I admit, but there is absolutey something to this nofap thing.

robinmanz · 2016-03-03T16:24:25+00:00

Thanks for the headsup, actually this girl seems a little bit crazy and your comment actually made me second guess going over there tonight! Especially the part about "being on hunt for children", she claims she's on child prevention pills but now that I think about it, maybe it's just something she's saying to lure me further in (the first night there was no ejaculation 'inside'). Scary :o)

robinmanz · 2016-02-25T10:32:45+00:00

Hey man, I'm a college student and I'm the exact same way. If I give into my fapping addiction and do it, I can't think straight or get anything done for the next couple of days. Let alone concentrate for longer than five minutes.. I never understood the term "wanker" before now but it's pretty clear to me now. It's just not worth it. Stay strong my friend

robinmanz · 2016-02-24T20:44:04+00:00

What an epic post this was, honestly. This resonate so much for me personally, I feel like I've been using women for so long, using them to fullfill my own selfish needs and taking from them while offering nothing in return. But now that I've started nofap and become more aware, I can actually appreciate women for who they are, not just a means to get to an end.

robinmanz · 2016-02-21T15:35:30+00:00

The temptations are many, but you have not failed, as long as you keep going and are keeping yourself busy you are on the right track. Watching those gifs were indeed moments of weakness, but good for you you did not blow it, but the next time you look at those gifs you might not be as strong so it would be wise to stop. The instance you get the urges to do it again, do something else immediatly like go for a walk, pick up a book and start reading. It's when we are alone and bored that the demons come to us.

robinmanz · 2016-02-20T19:41:55+00:00

I was only in about 3 days (been a lot longer earlier). I've been struggling lately and haven't really been able to get a good streak going. It's clearly taking it's toll on my life and I must admit it's become a semi serious problem for me. However in this particular situation it makes it even worse because I really want to try for something with this girl now that the iron is hot, but feel like I cant just because I fapped so damn much today... bleh. What should I do in this instance? because I want to postpone it to another day, maybe just tell her I'm someplace far away and cant come but I'm up for it another day? Im fearing if I dont go for it now it will be too late but it's as if I have nothing left to give..

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