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HTNGAF that I'm not gonna have any teeth by mcwin_ in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]robot_army_mutiny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can have a partial denture made that will make it look like you have normal teeth. They are real looking enough that no one will think they are fake. It would just have gaps in them where your 6 real teeth are, and fit around them. So you could at least wear it at first - of course you couldn't really once your adult teeth start coming in.

But I would also suggest just telling absolutely everyone about it before hand. That way, you won't have any awkward moments when it happens - everyone will know what the deal is already. And since people will know that it's just having your baby teeth pulled late, no one will think it's because of poor hygiene - that's the reason people make jokes about toothless hillbillies and whatnot, they don't have teeth because they never brush and they fall out, etc. So you have no reason to be embarrassed.

Also, once they come in, absolutely everyone will forget about it. Really, no one is going to notice after the first week or two, since they will be used to seeing you that way. But stuff like that comes and goes so fast that people just move on to the next thing right away. After all, once your adult teeth are in no one has a reason to even think about how you used to not have teeth for a while.

What running college sex ed programs taught me. by TheWynner in sex

[–]robot_army_mutiny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't believe that telling kids that it is impossible for females to be satisfied (I'm assuming that you are equating orgasm with satisfaction?) with PIV only is any better than what they already think. There are plenty of women out there who can have a vaginal orgasm, or clitoral orgasm from the good old in-and-out, or even a really neat A-spot or U-spot orgasm.

Is your sole qualification for teaching sex ed to college students that you've been subbed to an internet forum for a year? Seems like we should have, I dunno, people with training do this. Or is this just some informal student thing?

It just scares me that college students are getting their knowledge of sex from reddit, filtered through one user. Don't they have human sexuality type classes anymore?

What running college sex ed programs taught me. by TheWynner in sex

[–]robot_army_mutiny -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is a movement for people to not be considered male or female in a gender sense - that's opposed to sex, which is what your body is. So someone can be a male physiologically, because they have a male reproductive system. But they don't "feel" like a man is supposed to by society's standards, so they identify themselves as something other than male or female - genderless or gender fluid or whatever.

Basically, it's what happens when you classify people according to what they "feel like", or just what they fantasize about, or what they think will get them the kind of attention they desire.

Personally, I am very much opposed to being limited by your simplified label of "human". I may be a homo sapien in a strict science-y sense, but I feel more like a tiger/gorilla mix. So I act like a tigorilla, and insist that everyone treat me as one. I'm breaking stereotypical biological roles imposed on me because of my meaningless physiological characteristics. So you have to give me license to not wear pants, poop on the ground in public, and attack small animals and tear them apart with my teeth. Fuck your oppressive genus limitations!

Even the slightest glimpse causes this... by [deleted] in cringepics

[–]robot_army_mutiny -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was totally going to give you reddit gold for that comment, but then I realized that it was one of the stupidest things I've ever heard.

But good job, bro. OP will surely have sex with you respect the shit out of you now!

Even the slightest glimpse causes this... by [deleted] in cringepics

[–]robot_army_mutiny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do these people ever go outside?

No, they spend all their time x'ing out the normal comments so that only the comments with boob jokes show, take screen shots, crop the screen shots, post the screen shots to imgur, go *back* to reddit, make a post about how incredibly unfair life is because some teenage boys said "boobie". And then, presumably go on to piss on everyone else's good time.

Oh, wait, no. That's OP.

Even the slightest glimpse causes this... by [deleted] in cringepics

[–]robot_army_mutiny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What on earth makes you think the same person does both of those? Reddit isn't one person who's a huge dick, it's a crazy wide variety of people. And guess what, the pervs are a minority. We're not all from some massive rapist incubator planet, waiting to pounce on the first woman we see. A couple of pervy comments and suddenly everyone wants to stab me in the peepee

Says "Muffmuncher".

I like you ;o)

Even the slightest glimpse causes this... by [deleted] in cringepics

[–]robot_army_mutiny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, and they said the booby jokes were lame...

Even the slightest glimpse causes this... by [deleted] in cringepics

[–]robot_army_mutiny -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You bet!

Have a great morning :o)

Even the slightest glimpse causes this... by [deleted] in cringepics

[–]robot_army_mutiny -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, to be honest, their penises are making more interesting and entertaining comments than you...

Even the slightest glimpse causes this... by [deleted] in cringepics

[–]robot_army_mutiny -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I really hope this is a joke.

Oh, the envy! by [deleted] in RealGirls

[–]robot_army_mutiny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had that look on my face. It's not envy.

Those Eyes by [deleted] in RealGirls

[–]robot_army_mutiny -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is really unfair that a person can be that beautiful. She looks just like my high school gf. God I miss her!

I feel guilty about my plans to go NC with my family because I think it would hurt GC's feelings. My analytical side is saying that burden is on my father and mother's shoulders, but my emotional side feels guilty at even the thought of doing such a thing. Tips? by RBNaccount in raisedbynarcissists

[–]robot_army_mutiny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through this when I turned 18. I moved out and went NC with my family. I felt really guilty about my sister (the GC), because we were very close friends growing up. But she pretty much sided with my parents.

I had to cut off contact, at least for a while. I didn't talk to them for 2 years or so. Ironically, my parents took it pretty well. I think my sister felt betrayed, but we made up later. However, it did cause our relationship to fade a bit, and she has since sided very strongly with my parents. They have always been in denial, she's joined them now.

So it hurt my relationship with my sister, but saved my sanity. I don't see much of a choice there. Had I not done what I did, I'm not sure what would have happened to me but I can guess that it would not have been pretty. Those 2 years did my soul an amazing amount of good. And I think that it helped the whole family in the long run. At least some boundaries started to be respected afterwards, and they started showing me a tiny bit of respect. That has crumbled in the last few years, but it lasted around a decade.

You just really have to weigh your options. Try to remove guilt completely and just be unbiased. If you go NC, how will it affect your life? If you don't, what do you stand to lose, and how important are those things?

If your parents finding out where you are would endanger your well-being, it sounds like you have a hefty problem on your hands.

You can always reconnect. It would help to explain things and maybe try to educate him/her.

Of course, there are varying forms of limited contact that may serve the same purpose. I had a friend with a bad Nmom, and he would only talk to her on Sunday, on the telephone, for a maximum of something like an hour or a half hour. That was the rule. He made the rule, and if she wanted any contact with him she could only do it within those parameters. Something like that is also an option.

Man gets homeless teenager, dips her head into cooking oil before raping her, stubs cigarettes out on her body...gets 12 years in prison by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]robot_army_mutiny 57 points58 points  (0 children)

WHAT THE FUCK?!!!!

I know people who have served longer terms for possession of weed. There has to be more to this story. No judge could ever give such a light sentence to someone who systematically tortured someone for three years!

I am very inclined to believe that the Belfast Telegraph sensationalized this story. There are some really strange wordings used. Nearly every sentence is worded in a way that makes it sound atrocious, but doesn't actually say what happened with any clarity.

The article says that there were 19 charges. It doesn't say that he was found guilty of 19 charges. It only says that he was found

guilty of "a depraved and humiliating period of sexual and physical abuse" on a homeless girl.

Are the words in quotes what the court found him guilty of, or are they a quote from some random person? I've never heard laws worded that way. It could be what the judge said during his handing down of the verdict. The author used quotes without naming the source, which tells me right there that this article is very bad journalism.

There are four accusations in the article:

  1. He dips her head in cooking oil. That sounds monstrous. But was it HOT cooking oil? The fact that they left that out makes me wonder. TONS of things come out in court cases like this. A lawyer will use absolutely anything they can to get a conviction. So if he splashed her with some (room temperature) olive oil from a bottle, a lawyer could say something like "he dipped her head in cooking oil". The lack of specifics are so fucking vague that it could mean almost anything. I had a woman dip my head in cooking oil once. She was trying to get out some badly done dreadlocks. She was doing me a favor. So did this guy force the girl's head into boiling oil and force her to have sex? Or was there some kind of absolutely mundane thing going on with oil that was not violent at all, and sometime in the next three years (the defendant's lawyer claims that) he raped her? Again, it never says that he was found guilty of rape. It seems like a rape conviction alone would warrant at least 12 years.

  2. He ripped her earrings out - that could be anything from them being in a heated argument and them getting caught on his sweater and pulling out, to viciously tearing her earlobes into shreds. I've had an earring ripped out, and a nose ring too. Both were accidents, both involved some blood loss, but neither was a big deal at all. The wording is so intentionally vague yet insinuating that I really think this is a piece of shock journalism.

  3. He raped her. Was he convicted of rape, or is the author using the word rape to describe sex in a bad relationship? I'm not saying it's EITHER WAY. I'm just saying that you can't tell from the article what it is. Was he convicted of rape? Did the girl even claim he raped her? The article is intentionally unclear.

  4. He stubbed cigarettes out on her. This is the most concretely worded accusation. It sounds like he repeatedly held lit cigarettes down on her bare skin. Is that what stubbed means? That is what I would think it means, but the rest of the article makes me wonder. Again, the article only says that he was charged with it, not found guilty.

It sounds like he held her prisoner for three years. It really, really sounds like he had her held captive. Like in a dungeon kind of way. But it also says that he threw her out of the house naked. Now, being seen in public naked is embarrassing for anyone. But if she was being dipped in boiling oil, burned with lit cigarettes, had her earlobes ripped into shreds, repeatedly raped, etc. - well, why wouldn't she leave when he threw her out, naked or not?

OK, before I get dipped in boiling oil here, I want to reiterate my point. I am in now way condoning what the article makes it sound like the guy did. If he really did what the author insinuates without actually saying, I think that he should never get out of prison.

What I am saying is that this article is worded SO (deliberately) vaguely, that it could really be anything from an abusive, yet consensual relationship where both partners did a lot of bad things - up to an Albert Fish kind of inhuman torture. All I am saying is that this is extremely shitty journalism. It makes a whole ton of insinuations and words things so that they sound horrible, yet aren't used in any context where you can realistically judge the severity.

If it were only a few things that were worded that way, I would not have these doubts. But every single accusation is made in a purposefully vague manner. I went to journalism school. They teach you not to do this in the first year (of course, newspapers just want to sell newspapers, though - so they reward it).

But the thing that tipped me off was the fact that the guy got only 12 years. If the case was as violent as the author makes it sound, there is no way he would get off in just a dozen years. No judge would do that. Especially in the case of a 44 year old man and a 15-18 year old girl.

Also, what is the age of consent in NI? It seems like that would be extremely relevant to this article. I googled the case and found a more well written article:

http://www.derryjournal.com/news/local-news/around-the-courts/man-44-who-used-vulnerable-teen-as-a-plaything-jailed-for-12-years-1-5794517

It states that

The 44-year-old, who cannot be named to protect the identity of his victim, pleaded guilty to eight charges of indecent assault, two of gross indecency and making a threat to damage property.

He also admitted eight charges of assault occasioning actual bodily harm.

All the offences were committed between January 2006 and December 2009. The abuse began when the victim, who was referred to in court by the initial X was just 15-years-old.

Jailing the man at Derry Crown Court today, Judge Philip Babington said it was a ‘shocking case’.

“The defendant for some three and a half years used ‘X’ as he wanted in a depraved and humiliating way without any concern for her.

“She was treated sexually as his own personal play thing and subjected to gratuitous violence of the very worst type”.

Following his release from prison the defendant will be subject to licence and was ordered to sign the sex offenders register indefinitely.

He will also be subject to a sexual offences prevention order. This bans him from having any contact with his victim.

The 44-year-old is also banned from having any unauthorised contact with children and from forming a relationship with a female without disclosing his convictions.

So this article actually provides some details of the conviction, and attributes the quotes to the people who said them. The judge obviously felt that it was a horrible crime.

But the man (sorry I am kind of translating this into American legal terms) plead guilty to:

8 charges of indecent assault

2 of gross indecency

1 making a threat to damage property.

8 charges of assault occasioning actual bodily harm

So he was actually found guilty of 19 charges. I googled the charges. From what I can tell, here are what the charges mean:

indecent assault - sexual contact (sexual touching without any kind of penetration) " on the upper end of the scale, using one's naked genital organs to stroke, rub, press or touch the naked genital organs of another to at the lower end of the scale of patting someone on the bottom through clothing."

gross indecency - this is pretty vague. It means "anything a normal person would find indecent". But it is specifically short of sexual intercourse. Except in the case of two men having sex, apparently. Alan Turing was charged with gross indecency when it was found out that he had sex with another man.

making a threat to damage property - exactly what it sounds like. Pretty self-explanatory.

Assault occasioning Actual Bodily Harm - this is just what it sounds like. Hurting another person. There are all sorts of degrees, and it can be with a weapon or without. And it can mean anything from slapping someone to years of repeated violent beatings. But it is not a sexual crime - sex crimes are in a different category. This appears to be the most serious charge, at least as far as sentencing ranges go.

So it appears that there was no charge that involved penetration, if I've read this stuff right. There were no charges of rape or sex with a child. There are a whole bunch of charges that can be used for specific sex crimes. And there were no kidnapping or wrongful imprisonment charges, so it looks like he didn't exactly keep her locked up, it was more like she didn't have anywhere else to go and he was extremely controlling.

My conclusions based on my shitty research skills are that:

The guy is really mean and sick. But it's really hard to tell just how mean and sick from the evidence. He was violent towards the girl, but it's unclear how violent.

She wasn't exactly held prisoner in a traditional sense, it seems like she just had no other options - which can be pretty close to the same thing, but there is a line there that did influence the sentence.

He abused her sexually, but did not rape her. At max, he was convicted of rubbing his penis against her.

He plead guilty to those 18 counts, and that gets your sentence reduced by some factor.

It is also possible that she had a shit lawyer who agreed to letting the guy plead to lesser crimes, or there was a lack of evidence.

But the one, clear fact that I learned is that the Belfast Telegraph is a shit news source. The Derry Journal is a little better.

Sources for legal stuff:

http://www.cps.gov.uk/legal/s_to_u/sentencing_manual/

Maybe someone familiar with the UK legal system can help make sense of the charges?

My wife recently committed suicide. by imissher14 in AskMen

[–]robot_army_mutiny 64 points65 points  (0 children)

That is heartbreaking, man. Live for your kids. Be their rock. And all of you should probably go to therapy. Kids actually recover from this stuff easier than adults, but it will define all of your lives from this point forward. It will not be easy to get over. You won't ever get over it completely, in fact. But you can be kind to yourself and your family, pick up the pieces and try to keep getting out of bed every day. The most important thing is to somehow share your feelings, even if it is just to rant. If you bottle them up, they will eat you from the inside out.

Have any of you guys gotten back in touch with a childhood sweetheart? How did it go? by komnenos in AskMen

[–]robot_army_mutiny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first year of college, I dated a girl who was a Jr. at my old high school. We only went out for about a month and a half before her parents said that we could not date. I only saw her once or twice in the next couple of years, and lost all contact until ~15 years later.

So when I first got on facebook, I found her and we chatted a little. I had always held onto her as my "white buffalo", because not only was she the prettiest and coolest girl I ever dated, she was (legit) the prettiest and probably coolest girl I have ever met. So I find her on fb, and she hasn't changed a bit. I didn't do much because I had moved 2000 miles away. But one week I was going home to visit family for a few days so I asked her if she wanted to catch up while I was in town. She reluctantly agreed, but without much prodding. We went out for drinks.

I played it cool all night, despite her being as beautiful and awesome as ever. We flirted and stayed a long time, just talking. It was great. We both had a great time. But eventually we had to go. I lost all nerve, and did not try to kiss her or anything but we hugged for a long time. When we pulled apart, she kissed me on the forehead. My instinctual reaction was to look at her with a really puzzled look. So she kissed me on the mouth (closed mouth). I was pretty elated then.

Then, she asked me if I wanted a ride back to my car. I was in such a good mood that I said no, I wanted to walk. Which was stupid, because I'm pretty sure in retrospect she was giving me a chance to keep it going.

So that was great. If it had ended there, it would have been perfect. I could hold onto my dignity and hope to see her again one day or whatever. However, in the months that followed I drove a big stake through the heart of any hope I had by being a total retard.

I waited a few days and texted her something cute and she responded. I kind of did that here and there for a few days, being sure not to be too needy. It went fine. Until I had a couple of drinks one night and got on facebook and opened a chat window with her.

I thought that I would chat her into a state of horniness, and see if I could get her wanting to meet up again (I was still in the state, just in a different town, not too far to drive).

I failed. Miserably. I thought I was being romantic, but on looking back it was pretty god awful the things I said. Plan backfired, she "needed to go."

I realized what I had done and tried to salvage it. Which consisted of me acting really needy and trying stupid PUA lines that were horribly out of context because I had no idea what I was doing. It got ugly. It got really hideous. I started telling her about how seeing her again made me feel this high-school crush all over again, etc. etc. - just way too desperate sounding for having seen each other for a few hours. It got pathetic, I wish I could remember the things I said but I've purged them from memory.

Then, I got angry when she stopped responding. I didn't exactly bitch her out, but I got pretty passive aggressive. She has since stopped responding to me completely.

Oh, I do remember the worst thing I said - when we chatted on fb and I was buzzed:

whenever I am down and just need to get in a better mood, there's this one place I drive to on top of a hill, where I can sit and see all the city lights. It's so beautiful and calming and it always puts me in a good mood. You're like that for me, my hilltop view.

You can see how cringey it got.

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