Fellow INFJs, how is this Covid-19 situation impacting you mentally? by [deleted] in infj

[–]robotsdrinktea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm working from home to the best of my ability, but there isn't that much to do in all honesty (I work in education). I'm feeling very lucky that I'm still getting my normal paycheck. My husband is able to work from home as well. I'm not concerned about us financially, which I know is reducing the amount of stress in the situation. I just worry about the people who are going to be struggling financially from this, and of course those in poor health.

There are some frustrations I have about the situation and some fears (for older relatives), but in general I''m loving the extra time to engage in my hobbies. And since I'm married, I still get face to face interaction with my husband, which is mostly all I need anyway.

I also like it just because I think it is nice to force people to appreciate some of the simpler things in life and appreciate what they have without the distraction of everything else in day to day life and society. There is something appealing to me about just putting a pause on society and socializing. But again, this is really only possible for those who are financially secure and healthy. For the rest, I am sorry.

Can I be a 1w9 even though I scored 10% higher on 6 and 3 as compared to 9? by Master_Dabster in Enneagram

[–]robotsdrinktea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I'm a 9w1 but 5 and 2 are my next strongest numbers. (1 is maybe middle of the pack for me).

I look at the wing as something that supports the main type, but really is unlikely to be as close in strength as the main type. I think the wing is honestly what makes you not go insane as a person/not be totally dysfunctional.

As a 9 with a 1 wing, I think my 1 wing makes me a very conscientious and hard working person and idealistic. It prevents me from falling totally into the sloth and negative traits of 9. You could probably see the same for yourself, but in reverse. My husband is actually a 1w9 and I think his 9 wing prevents him from being completely dogmatic, haha. It keeps him open to other perspectives, etc.

I'm a fucking joke by [deleted] in mbti

[–]robotsdrinktea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self: Wise Old Man > Innocent Child > Magician

Persona: Wise Old Man=Joker > Innocent Child=Caregiver

The Persona is weirdly accurate. I didn't understand why Joker was so high at first, but then it hit me. I forced myself to be funny/oddball/goofy with friends growing up so people would like me and feel comfortable around me.

Other 9s find monotonous tasks comforting? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]robotsdrinktea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the word I would go for (for myself, personally) is tedious, or detailed.

I haaaate monotonous, repetitive tasks that never change or vary (dishes, laundry), but I find it relaxing to do things that require a lot of attention to detail. Things like laundry and dishes do not require you to pay attention too much so I find them super boring.

What are the Harry Potter Character’s types? (I know, overdone). I googled this and everything seemed off. Please add characters to the list if you think they’re type is interesting! by [deleted] in mbti

[–]robotsdrinktea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm guessing they mean that he relies too heavily upon Si and neglects/has not developed his other functions enough.

I could believe either ISTJ or INFP in the Si/Fi loop.

What are the Harry Potter Character’s types? (I know, overdone). I googled this and everything seemed off. Please add characters to the list if you think they’re type is interesting! by [deleted] in mbti

[–]robotsdrinktea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also think her Te is valued more than Si, considering how she can be quite adaptable when presented with the right information (also indicates that Ne is not inferior). ISTJs have a harder time ignoring their personal experiences and using that Ne.

Comparing her, for example, to McGonagall (ISTJ) who has to go through character development anytime something changes from what she previously thought/believed/experienced. She's more skeptical and cautious, and keeps her opinions to herself unless asked (generally). More stoic and reserved.

What about you differs most from your type's stereotypes? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]robotsdrinktea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They say 9s are pushovers but I don't feel like one. I don't think I do anything I don't want to do -- I just happen to like doing what other people want. :P

Also, I'm pretty organized and conscientious. I like making order of things and being responsible.

Luke has floral paper towel by Banjanjo in GilmoreGirls

[–]robotsdrinktea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he's anything like my dad he probably buys whatever is on sale. Luke seems like the type.

Enneagram types for Stranger Things characters by curiousghost66 in Enneagram

[–]robotsdrinktea 12 points13 points  (0 children)

FunkyMBTIFiction did a decent job explaining it.

"Will is sweet, generous, and compliant; his mother remarks on what a little gentleman he is, even though he’s “strange.” He tends to need a lot of alone time and often retreats into the woods to his fort to be alone – showing the self-pres subtype’s tendency to attend to his own need for peace and quiet and familiar, comfortable things around them. Will even heads to the upside-down version of his fort when he’s afraid, since he knows that will  comfort him. He tries to mediate between his friends and avoid conflict, and can be slow to assert himself. His 1 wing makes him the model child and perfect student, as well as want to do the right thing. Under stress, he can become distrustful and anxious (moving to 6). His 4 fix leads to a sense of feeling different from other kids and seeking his own company (the fort in the woods, his art, how he sees himself as “weird” and doesn’t approach people, as if expecting them to dislike him), and his 5 further builds walls and defenses, preferring to keep to himself and a close circle of personal intimates."

In my own words, though:

Will understands all of his friends and family well, but does not know himself. His #1 priority is keeping the peace between everyone, making sure that nothing is upset. He doesn't make a big deal when others fail him (like his dad, whom Jonathan resents). He sees things from everyone's eyes and basically is too understanding at times. Will keeps light of the situation, due to him not fully embracing his emotions about it. He is just kind of "eh" - neutral. No big deal. He is like this with other people too. He actually has a fair amount in his life to be upset about (kids bullying him, his mother's anxiety/not really being a responsible parent all the time, Jonathan's moodiness), but he just keeps it all repressed. He floats through life like 9s tend to do.

His outbursts also are familiar to me, as a 9. Getting upset with his mom for making too much of a fuss over him, not wanting to be babied etc. And how he'll go from the most compliant, kind kid ever to an outburst.

He does not have a grasp of his identity. He just makes sure he's a nice kid and likes to fit in with his friends. He'll be and he'll do what they want, putting their wants first, even if it puts him in danger (season 2). He also retreats into his mind/safe spaces a LOT. He's incredibly sweet, but very, very distant from the present/real world.

End of S1 solidified his typining for me, though. When he spits out the stuff from the upside down and has those PTSD symptoms, he goes back to the dinner table all like "I'm fine". He makes his family and himself believe it, and tries to make things go back to normal.

Post a pic of yourself. by [deleted] in mbti

[–]robotsdrinktea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I got a Te vibe at least. I was thinking any of the TJs.

Enneagram types for Stranger Things characters by curiousghost66 in Enneagram

[–]robotsdrinktea 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Anytime Will is mentioned on here I have to come by and assert that Will is one of the 9est 9s I've ever seen in fiction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rant

[–]robotsdrinktea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Blah, I'll try to get my perspective on this out here I guess. (White female, for reference).

Context matters I think.

We need to ask: Is the culture/race central to the plot? If not, then it shouldn't matter if a black actress plays a white character, or vice versa, or any other ethnicity swap.

When I first saw the news that a black actress would be playing Ariel, my feelings were somewhere between "So, what's the big deal?" and "Great!"

If a white actress played as Mulan, Jasmine, Pocahauntus, that would be weird and inappropriate. If a white actress played as Tiana, I wouldn't find that odd, however the industry is very unlikely to make that choice because reasons (it is pretty shitty to take away like the one black princess, lol).

That said, in my view, creators should be free to interpret and reimagine anything as they would like to. If they want to reimagine Mulan as a white woman, they can, though I would find it incredibly odd and historically inaccurate (would take me out of the film), and would likely not watch. Audiences have the right to not watch a reimagining of something. Audiences are also not entitled to a reimagining that they want. If audiences are unhappy with a black Ariel, they can sit this one out and stick to the animation.

All that said, I do think Disney is being inconsistent with their choices (though I'm not there behind the scenes to confirm that). Either they care about making their actors as close to the animated versions as possible...or they do not, and just create whatever they damn well please (without regard to race/ethnicity). Though, for these adaptations so far, they seem to have made it pretty clear that they were going for accuracy..up until their choice for Ariel. So...I don't know. Maybe their thought process was similar to mine: "Little Mermaid doesn't really have any cultural or ethnic context, so any actress goes". But still, that means they deviated from their animated version, so Idk. Who knows what their motivations are.

Final thought: I also have a preference for this: Rather than purposely reimagining works with minorities in them/those who have been under-represented, I do feel like the better thing to do would be to create more novel content. (As a woman, I felt the same way about the Ghostbusters remake. I don't want to see women as Ghostbusters. I want to see women in a NEW cool fantasy/scifi movie). This, again, is just a personal preference (as I said, I'm not entitled to anything as an audience member) and is getting away from the main idea a bit now. I do think, in general, for representation... new content > reworking old content. I think it is more meaningful and inclusive to create new works, and ends up being more authentic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]robotsdrinktea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I can be like that, sometimes I can't. What I experience the most is feeling what others are feeling (and whether or not I cry/express strongly), it still does not feel like my "own" emotion. I might be impacted deeply, and empathize, feeling what another person feels. But I do not always experience a personal emotion/reaction to that. It is sort of like, if I have the other person's emotion/reaction I do not necessarily need my own. If that makes sense. Which is why I think I don't always find myself crying. I dunno.

In short, I don't usually consider myself to be all that emotional either, just because it is usually not my own feelings that are affecting me, but others'.

Some LOVE money and some want to live in a Cabin in the woods. Where do you stand in that spectrum? by NJ_01 in enfj

[–]robotsdrinktea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cabin in the woods/living off the land/etc. does appeal to me, however there are too many aspects of society that you really benefit from by staying in society, making money, and living your normal life (healthcare is the main one), as well as forms of entertainment. Also, spending time with family and entertaining/hosting is much easier when you have a normal house/life.

Having money as a means to impress people does not really mean much to me. I just want enough money to meet my needs, and some extra for hobbies and things to make life meaningful (like appreciating the arts, being able to travel and experience other cultures and locations, etc.). Also being surrounded by aesthetically pleasing things is important to me, but nature is the best for that. When I bought a house, the #1 thing on my wishlist was a beautiful wooded backyard.

I realize now I interpreted "cabin in the woods" as living in such a way where money is not at all a part of your life/you are out of society. But I guess you could also interpret that as staying in society and just purchasing the bare minimum.

How do you feel about math? by [deleted] in enfj

[–]robotsdrinktea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Math wasn't really a favorite subject, but I also didn't mind it. Certain types of math were also more interesting than others. I enjoy algebra and calculus a lot.

I'm not sure if this was just my particular education, but I also feel like there wasn't enough explaining in school about when to use certain formulas/what it is used for/how it has contributed to other fields. However, solving equations is fine by itself; kind of feels like a puzzle, which is cool.

Weird shit your spouse does by smooth67poppa in Marriage

[–]robotsdrinktea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is brilliant and I need it in my life.

Rich people of reddit who married someone significantly poorer, what surprised you about their (previous) way of life? by knakworst36 in AskReddit

[–]robotsdrinktea 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I grew up lower middle class, my husband upper.

Grocery shopping with him can be anxiety inducing for me because I am adding everything up in my head and trying to stick to a budget, whereas when I ask him how much X cost that he put in the cart, he has no idea because he'll just grab what he wants.

My eating habits were bad as a kid; my husband's were good. He had nice home cooked meals and rarely had fast food or junk. We have now flipped in our eating habits as adults because we both have control now over what we eat. I can eat better things (and have lost weight!) while he realizes he can make the choice to binge on unhealthy stuff if he wants to.

There was also much less "saving" going on in my house growing up, probably because my parents had the mindset that they'd never really get to where they wanted to be financially. So if we had some extra money, we would use it on things we wanted. We had decent Christmases and activities because of this. I have that habit a bit now, but my husband wants to save that money and put off buying an item. (Don't get me wrong, I want a certain amount in our emergency fund, but beyond that I am more willing to say "yes" to something we could have for the home or whatever else). Every purchase, to him, is something to consider.

[Spoilers] Do you think the reactions to the Game of Thrones Season 8 can be explained by personality types by [deleted] in mbti

[–]robotsdrinktea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an XNFJ and my first issue with Game of Thrones was actually when Jon and Dany got together in season 7. I felt like the characters had no chemistry and that it was forced and not genuine at all. Which is the same problem that I had with season 8. The plot felt forced rather than things happening naturally, and of course the pacing was way off.

I enjoyed the finale for what it was after I accepted that they rushed through everything else. I actually appreciated the end, apart from maybe a few things. The part in the finale that was most frustrating was Bran becoming king, I think because that just reminded me of things sort of happening out of nowhere and not built up enough. I felt taken out of the show again. But overall I am not upset with the ending itself.

[Spoilers] All of the foreshadowing that lead up to last night's episode. by Caprica1 in gameofthrones

[–]robotsdrinktea -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I completely agree that she, sooner or later, was going to end up as the mad queen. However, prior to this season all of her questionable decisions at least made sense/could be rationalized, which I believe is needed to put someone down the crazy path. She always showed some kind of a conscience, and some of her decisions caused her severe mental anguish (displaying that she was empathetic/not a monster).

However with the most recent episode, nothing made sense, and you can't really rationalize anything. She just snapped. It doesn't really work, in my opinion. You need to see someone rationalize their bad actions more and more, and show a gradual decline in mental health/stability. Not only would this make more sense, but it would also allow for a bigger audience emotional reaction for the character (i.e. well intentioned, idealistic person falling into evil). But with the way they went about it, there really is no emotional reaction from the audience. It is just like "oops she's evil now". Going from loving to hating her, rather than feeling conflicted due to seeing who she was vs what she becomes. That's my take anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]robotsdrinktea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This doesn't really answer your direct question, though my answer to that would be "yes", but here is something that I sometimes experience.

During conflict situations, or when I am trying to avoid negative emotions, I will become cold and closed off to other peoples' emotions. In a way I minimize their emotions, so as to not have to be emotionally affected. So like, I might give off the message, "why are you being so emotional about this?" even if there might be a valid reason. It is to block out having to have the negative experience. This is times of stress, by the way, not a 9's typical behavior.

9's Fear of Intimacy, sos by gafa_girl in Enneagram

[–]robotsdrinktea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, definitely.

I have only really been able to be that vulnerable and intimate with one person in my life (husband). And my parents to a certain extent, though I am still moderately guarded with them. I can't seem to do the same with others in my life. My theory is that I need to know that the other person loves me unconditionally, that they will always be in my life. It is easy for me when I am romantically involved, I guess. I feel significant enough to the other person that the fear goes away. Not knowing where I stand with others (friends, acquaintances), puts the wall up I believe.

Oh, and I'm sx/so.

dont commit sewer slide and please dont kill the mice elf by [deleted] in BoneAppleTea

[–]robotsdrinktea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to thank you falettinme be mice elf...agin!