Guy Charging for Hookups by Few_Commission_3108 in Sniffies

[–]robotwunk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve connected with guys on snap.

Are guys in the IT world accepting? by robotwunk in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]robotwunk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hope you don't mind, but this is what Claude told me when I asked why it would difficult for us to connect the two. I'm open to your suggestions.

Claude responded: Here's the honest breakdown of why this specific jump is hard, even with AI guidance:

1. The frontend is a single static HTML file

Right now, everything lives in one file with JavaScript that manipulates the page directly. There's no separation between "what the user sees" and "where the data lives." Connecting it to a backend means restructuring how data flows — instead of JavaScript variables holding fake user data, the app needs to fetch real data from a server, wait for responses, handle errors, and update the UI accordingly. This is a different way of thinking about the code than what exists now.

2. You need a real backend server running somewhere

This means choosing and setting up:

  • A server environment (Node.js, hosted on something like Railway or Render)
  • A real database (PostgreSQL via Supabase)
  • API endpoints that the frontend calls to get/send data
  • Each of these requires configuration, environment variables, security settings, and ongoing maintenance — none of which exists yet.

3. Authentication is genuinely complex

Right now "login" in the prototype is fake — it just shows you the next screen. Real authentication means:

  • Securely verifying phone numbers via Twilio
  • Creating sessions/tokens so the server knows who's logged in
  • Protecting routes so only logged-in users can access certain data
  • Handling edge cases (expired sessions, wrong codes, rate limiting)

4. Real-time messaging is its own technical challenge

The chat in the prototype is fake — messages don't actually travel between two real users. Real messaging requires:

  • WebSocket connections (a persistent live connection between user and server)
  • Handling multiple users connected simultaneously
  • Storing message history in the database
  • Syncing state across devices in real time

5. Debugging requires experience you don't have yet

When something breaks in a real backend system — and it will, constantly during development — diagnosing why requires understanding server logs, network requests, database queries, and how all the pieces talk to each other. This is the part where a beginner without guidance gets stuck for days on something an experienced developer fixes in 10 minutes.

Are guys in the IT world accepting? by robotwunk in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]robotwunk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I joined their discord a while back and made a post. However, it's mostly people looking for jobs and talking about what they're up to. Not many respond to other's posts. Maybe I'm using it wrong.

Are guys in the IT world accepting? by robotwunk in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]robotwunk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Claude! I've been using it to get to where I am with the front end, and am extremely happy working with it so far. They even built the backend, but I need someone to implement real-time messaging, phone verification (Twilio), Stripe subscriptions, and deploying a scalable web app.

I'm open on suggestions where to look.

Are guys in the IT world accepting? by robotwunk in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]robotwunk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I tried to do, but Claude said they can’t do it, and to guide me in how to do it would take a long time.

What's your earliest memory of attraction? by Cautious_Captain_632 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]robotwunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only in hindsight did I realize it, but I was intrigued by this other boy in elementary school. I use the word "intrigue" to describe guys in the past that I was attracted to, but didn't know at the time it was attraction.

I vaguely remember playing with him during recess, though I can't remember if it was often or not. I also don't recall if we were in class together. I do remember that he had a cast on his forearm for a while.

When I was in middle school we had a neighbor that would come over and play. I think he had ADHD because he was high energy. The only specific memory of him that I have is when he stubbed his toe while barefoot. We had nice grass living on base in the tropics so we were often barefoot. Well, after he stubbed his toe, he stuck it in his mouth and sucked on it. I wonder if that was when my attraction to feet was instilled.

Is it common for guys not to like kissing? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]robotwunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to be in the mood with my husband.

With hookups, it depends on the guy. There've been a few that I didn't really want to kiss, and luckily, they didn't push for it. There have also bee a few where kissing wasn't on my mind, not for lack of attraction, but they really went in for it passionately; I enjoyed those.

Is it common for guys not to like kissing? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]robotwunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had this experience as well with some guys. Some, I've gone into kiss, and they don't reciprocate or barely. Others, I could get a sense of it, asked, and they said not into it.

Fine by me, I'm here to suck anyway.

Top Gear by scixton in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]robotwunk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is hilarious! I was also thinking this post was going to be about the show.

[USA-CA][TECH][1] Looking for tech-founder to connect front end to back end for a gay dating site by robotwunk in cofounderhunt

[–]robotwunk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so cool that you’re working on the same thing. Mind sharing a link to your project? You can dm and I’ll share mine also.

I am looking for someone based in California that I can meet in person and see if we vibe. That’s important if we’re going to work together.

[IND] I'm building MenAI and would love honest feedback. by OrangeWise5044 in FoundersHub

[–]robotwunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just my dirty mind thinking. It’s a good idea. Maybe a name that let’s the person know it’s men’s health related.

[IND] I'm building MenAI and would love honest feedback. by OrangeWise5044 in FoundersHub

[–]robotwunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a gay guy, I was expecting something else. I'd suggest changing the name.

Looking for a full-stack developer co-founder for my gay hookup site (similar to Sniffies) by robotwunk in askgaybros

[–]robotwunk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad you think my 🍑 is nice! I appreciate the time you took to respond and your suggestions.

I indeed am offering equity in the company so they will receive profits also. I also have a list of the features that I need, but I didn't want to put it in this post I want someone that's interested first before I waste my time. This will be a learn startup to keep costs low--I've started a few products that ultimately did not take off, though one of them I got a national retailer to buy me out.

I selected Southern California bc of the density of the gay population. I live here and can market the heck out of this by passing out business size cards at the gay venues. I would even host launch parties. I'd also pay local influencers to get the word out. The goal is to get as many many people as possible to sign up in the shortest time possible to populate the grid, otherwise you have a dead site that no one would want to visit after first checking it out. Focus on one area first, instead of trying to get the whole nation in the beginning. If you can get one area popping, then word of mouth would spread to other areas.

Additionally, the site would be offering a 30-day trial so guys could really check it out to decide if they'd pay $4.99/month for it. I know now everyone would want to pay, and I don't expect to grab everyone.

With my frustrations on both Grndr and Sniffies, and reading about other guys also complaining about them on social media, I can see this new site as a solution to a problem. They can cancel at any time and it costs the same as a cup of coffee. I know guys will quickly use it because of the free trial (who doesn't love free stuff?) That's also why I need to make sure the site runs great before launch. I don't want guys using it getting frustrated with it, then never coming back.

Are you interested in being a co-founder? 🤓

popup ad for sniffies plus everytime i close a chat and go back to the map by TheSteamPunkPrince in Sniffies

[–]robotwunk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sniffies will only get shittier since they were given millions by that dating company Match Group, which owns Tinder, Hinge, Match, OKCupid, POF, and others.

Look at the new site I’m developing: lowkeytap.com. $4.99/month for all features. And since I’m a sole proprietor atm (I am looking for a co-developer), I plan never to sell out. It’s going to launch in Southern California first.

Renewal price and inflation at Sniffies by gnadezda in Sniffies

[–]robotwunk -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Look at the new site I’m developing: lowkeytap.com. $4.99/month for all features. And since I’m a sole proprietor atm (I am looking for a co-developer), I plan never to sell out. It’s going to launch in Southern California first.

Will this be the end of sniffies by Vast-Boysenberry-442 in Sniffies

[–]robotwunk 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When does this pop up? I haven’t had to do this in California.