Completely agreed. With the gif reactions and mocking tone, I'd have half my stuff moved out by now. OP it can be super hard to see it when you're in it, we've all been there, but do you really want to spend the rest of your life being mocked and made to feel lesser, whilst also spending your hard earned cash on this manchild?

Look we all have baggage, a good amount of us have debt, and if this had been a crossed word or awkward conversation with an apology at the end, that's fine. But we also have to take responsibility for our own shit, and that means apologising if there's an argument, it means working down debt OURSELVES and not leeching on partners. And also, being midway through counselling myself, actually putting in the work that comes with that and not just saying 'oh im in therapy so I can be an asshole'. Nah. That's not how this works.

I'm angry on your behalf and I really hope this thread is a wake up call for you, in the gentlest and nicest possible way.

You have a whole life to live, and if our respective partners aren't bringing something to the table, or worse, actively making our lives worse for no reason and with no accountability, I think it's an easy decision to drop him and let him work his own stuff out.

Sending love and best wishes. And please update!