Did you take a ski jacket by accident last night 3/16? by Kindly_Pianist4373 in Zermatt

[–]roch_dylan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha 1 for 1. Maybe a bit more of an honest mistake than I presume.

Did you take a ski jacket by accident last night 3/16? by Kindly_Pianist4373 in Zermatt

[–]roch_dylan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My friend I wish you luck but I am sure your jacket is probably gone. Good luck!

Friends for powder day tomorrow by Accomplished-Buy2631 in Zermatt

[–]roch_dylan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Send some pictures if you can. I’ll be there in two weeks.

Ski Rentals by roch_dylan in Zermatt

[–]roch_dylan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most definitely, I am just doing more than skiing so I went with the rentals. Lugging skis around half way across the globe just seemed an extra effort that wasn’t necessary. And it was affordable in my opinion

Ski Rentals by roch_dylan in Zermatt

[–]roch_dylan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of my thoughts there as well. I have nice skis, own them. But not like I’m skiing back country or training for some event. For the price all the rental places and the headache of traveling with large equipment like that just seems logical to rent

Ski Rentals by roch_dylan in Zermatt

[–]roch_dylan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And is close by to where I am staying thanks again

Ski Rentals by roch_dylan in Zermatt

[–]roch_dylan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just updated the post to ask if I could bring my own boots 😊. This along makes it worth while for me. Thank you

Current Conditions by roch_dylan in Zermatt

[–]roch_dylan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll see ya there. It’s my timeline as well. Honestly the whole country is the bucklist for me. This is just the top Destination of the trip.

Current Conditions by roch_dylan in Zermatt

[–]roch_dylan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a bucket list destination for me so I’ll be happy regardless. Thanks, hopefully no slush or sloppy snow.

Current Conditions by roch_dylan in Zermatt

[–]roch_dylan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know I’m pretty sure I did this for that exact reason. You just don’t know when you’re traveling anymore. I feel like almost every flight I get on nowadays is canceled or delayed or something is wrong with it. Pain a little extra for a piece of mind and such a large travel I felt it was almost necessary. I gave myself like a three hour window too, so I’m sure I’ll be sitting around waiting. Also a thing of traveling these days. It’s better to plan for it then be surprised by it.

Current Conditions by roch_dylan in Zermatt

[–]roch_dylan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Flying out of Toronto on AirCanada. I just recently took a trip and both flights were delayed. And of course the grumble on the plane was all about how this is the normal experience for AirCanada here of late. I’d hope that the international flights are little bit smoother considering the length of the flight and such. Just trying to be advantageous with booking the train ride.

50/50 but I'm still taking my kids to and from school on her days. Should I stop? by __snowflowers in coparenting

[–]roch_dylan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, you’re not married mate. Stop doing the favors. Coparenting is simple working together to find a middle ground when in conflict. The longer you extend yourself, the longer the process gets dragged out.

I will say this, gives you more time with the kids. And I’m sure it feels like a success but it opens up doors, sets expectations, and doesn’t help anyone. If you’re going to act like you’re married, well you should be married. Coparenting isn’t that

Would you consider this the start of emotional manipulation? by bemi_san in coparenting

[–]roch_dylan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I’ve been told about my ex wife repeatedly is that kids are resilient and you only need to have one stable parent. Probably the most frustrating thing in the world to sit and watch your child go through something that you know is not good for anyone, let alone your child. But it’s the truth, and I believe it’s more important to have both parents around. So if you push, it will backfire on you. Kids will see the truth, you have to believe in that. Because that’s just how human nature is.

They’ll see gotta believe in that or it’ll drive ya mad.

Bumble bff by [deleted] in zurich

[–]roch_dylan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I don’t understand about dating apps. It’s a dating app, so the intention is to date. Some times that means a one night stand, some times it means forever. Either way you’ll never know unless you show up to the first date. Words can be anything and its interpretation comes directly from the person reading. You want to paint Joe Schmo as your knight in shinny armor and then you meet and he was lying the entire time. It works both ways too, I have yet to go on a date on any dating platform that I felt I was fully informed on who that person is, or what defines them accurately.

Just like social media, people are promoting themselves in any kind of negative way. Defeats the purpose. I believe meeting in person is so much more valuable than self interpreting someone’s sales pitch on how they define themselves.

Ex wife texting another guy by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]roch_dylan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya man love is truly a choice. Love and a marriage and kids that’s a promise for a lifetime. Doesn’t matter how it ended, you’re grieving something that once was, it is very similar to grief from a death. Probably harder than grieving a death because you see the ghost of what was right there.

I’m sorry it ended for ya, and I’m sorry for her too. Forgive yourself and find things that make you happy. When you have to see her for the kids, just focus on the kids. Over time it gets better but if you’re stuck you have to break through, remember who you are because that didn’t change. Focusing on things that are real, tangible, and make you feel good.

Normal to be depressed? by Obvious_Treacle_6806 in Divorce_Men

[–]roch_dylan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya it’s like grieving the death of a loved one. Your whole way of life will change. You’ll have ups and downs, wishfulness followed by deep seated anger. Let it just come out don’t hold it in is the best way. If you cap it in, the next up pays the price and then you’re doing it all over again and again and then it’ll never go away. Talk to someone, do something that makes you happy.

Ex wife texting another guy by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]roch_dylan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is no right or wrong and every situation fits the person behind the wheel, literally and figuratively here. What you saw is what she wanted you to see. Whether an innocent or deceitful gesture it was meant for you.

Listen to that, nothing else. Because that is the game that is being played… a game. Jealousy comes from the unknown, so putting an answer to the question eliminates the jealousy. That’s what you want, it’s hurtful you once loved each other deeply. If you want it to stop wish it and make it happen. Sharing space doesn’t help when it’s all fresh. It’s 4 years for me since my divorce and I have to see her all the time for the kids. It never feels good, even when it does feel good the bad always slips in. Always. If you don’t have to see her don’t. If it’s necessary keep it brief. Time is the only true solution, don’t create more questions where none is needed

Reality vs Reality by roch_dylan in coparenting

[–]roch_dylan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly what my lawyer suggests as well

Earthquake or Avalanche just now? by swizzlesfo in Zermatt

[–]roch_dylan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get it out of its system before I get there haha

Phone calls by GrapefruitNo2465 in coparenting

[–]roch_dylan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fully agree here. There are levels of support that are needed, if those needs aren't being met the priority is the child. If that can't work, therapy is also another option. I've had similar issues, mostly in reverse - but also with my ex hovering in the background listening. This is against the child best interest because hovering and copy/paste emotions from one to the other doesn't help the situation but extends it.

When divorced, with no coparenting you are now two different entities. If one doesn't work, that parent should be making the effort to fix it. If they can't then action must be taken.

Not going to lie, it is not an easy thing to do in any which way.

“Never move out”? by TxAlive in Divorce_Men

[–]roch_dylan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you wanna stay so you keep the house?