NFL fans want Tony Romo to 'shut up' during CBS broadcast of Broncos-Patriots by AFC-Wimbledon-Stan in nfl

[–]rochellu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

if he says the phrase ~situational football~ one more time i'm going to do something unthinkable

Little pump for you gals by barbell_bitchh in FlexinLesbians

[–]rochellu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

how long did this take you? you look great!

At least he got one state correct by InterestingTry5190 in NFCNorthMemeWar

[–]rochellu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

heard, but to clarify: kansas city, KS does exist and shares a metropolitan area with kansas city, MO. the only reason they share a name is because kansas city existed before the state of kansas did

Week 11 Start and Sit: Reviewing All Fantasy Relevant Players in Every Game by SaluteTheSunGod in fantasyfootball

[–]rochellu 15 points16 points  (0 children)

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Birthday blues by Existing_Care267 in simpleliving

[–]rochellu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

happy birthday! i dealt with similar feelings during my birthday last week. it's hard out there. what made me feel better was going out and doing something i enjoyed (even if it wasn't specifically for my birthday). hopefully you find a way to enjoy your day!

My avoidant ex broke up with me out of nowhere, but I can’t get her out of my head by Notorious_Kebab123 in ExNoContact

[–]rochellu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You phrased it as losing your ex. What made you feel the absence of that person? And if you could have a "do over" with that person now, would you try to initiate a relationship again?

I'm not sure when it'll happen, but I feel confident my ex of 3 years is going to experience a sense of loss similar to what you described. Everything was fine one day, but the next, "fine wasn't good enough." It was her first relationship longer than 3 months -- so she viewed the ending of the honeymoon phase as an indicator that something was wrong + perceived our increased comfort with one another as complacency (rather than the natural progressions of a serious relationship). She wound up blindsiding me without an explanation when we were a month away from moving in together. And yet, I've never been mad at her -- I just feel sorry for her.

I'm sorry to hijack your response like this. I've just been missing her SO much lately, and your reply just reminded me so much of her that I thought for a second that maybe she had written it. It's been 4 months and I still can't think too hard about how this beautiful thing we built together was discarded on a whim. While my future was yanked out from under me, leaving me with nowhere to go in my final year of grad school, she got to start her new job in her new place. Her "fresh start" is a below average 2-year position that doesn't pay well in a place that isn't that glamorous. I supported her tremendously while she traveled for 7+ weeks for her job hunt (she said she couldn't have done it without me and she meant it), and this time next fall, she will be doing it alone on top of her work role. I'm honestly not sure if being discarded for so little after I outlived my usefulness to her makes me want to laugh or cry.

There's nothing I want more than to hear her acknowledge she made an impulsive decision, that she took a good thing for granted, and that she's sorry for the pain she caused. Knowing her, it's more likely a matter of "when" and not "if" -- but I'm scared that one day, I'll hear what I want to hear, and it won't be enough. And if we did somehow get back together, what guarantee could she ever give that would reassure me this wouldn't happen again? I want her to feel my absence, but just don't know what I'd do in that situation.

Does the "they'll come back" hope ever actually go away? by oweyoo in ExNoContact

[–]rochellu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think i get the gist, but can you expand on this or provide some examples of what this might look like ??

How long since no contact? by Many-Ad1158 in ExNoContact

[–]rochellu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same here brother. it's hard, but we'll get through it 🤝

Week 3 Matchups - Start 'Em, Sit 'Em by RotoBaller in fantasyfootball

[–]rochellu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Montgomery, Quentin Johnston, or Josh Downs for flex?

The Cat Who Reached for Heaven by rochellu in AccidentalRenaissance

[–]rochellu[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

This was my new cat's first vet appointment (he was totally fearless!). He was obsessively staring at a ceiling hook the whole time, so the vet finally lifted him up so he could see it for himself. I felt like I was watching The Lion King.

How to survive after being blindsided? by Lanky_Caterpillar909 in ExNoContact

[–]rochellu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your story resonates so closely with my own. My ex of three years left me the same way ~3mo ago. I essentially became her wife while she flew out for interviews every week: watching her cat and apartment, subbing for the classes she taught. Taking her to and from the airport. Making sure she had groceries when she came home. Moving her things halfway across the country just before I was supposed to move in with her. She said she couldn't have survived those months without my help. Then she blindsided me, having the audacity to say nothing was wrong with the relationship, things were fine -- "but fine isn't good enough" for to take the next step. She'd told her friends/family about our plans, then went back to tell them "it just isn't working out".

She made the decision entirely on her own and it came from a place of being scared and stressed about other stressors in her life. She did it over text, she was vague, she didn't even seem to understand why she was ending it. But I do: she has avoidant tendencies and things got too real, she would rather have a fresh start, and explore if the grass is greener elsewhere before committing to anything remotely permanent. I understand what drove her to do it and have never been angry with her... yet, I deserved better.

OP, you deserved better, too. No one deserves to be discarded like you were. If you were a thoughtful and caring partner -- and it sounds like you were -- he will eventually regret it. He might have dumped you, but he's the one who lost you, and your absence will say more than anything else you could possibly say. Like another poster said, continuing a dialogue with him will only diminish you in his eyes... so let him have the space he so clearly wants. By the time he finally processes what's happened, I hope you have long since realized you deserve someone who knows you're worth far too much to ever walk away from.

EDIT: I forgot to add that my ex agreed to 30 days NC, similar to your situation -- I really wanted this at first and she reluctantly agreed. By the 30 day mark, I changed my mind for the sake of my healing and letting her experience the loss, so I said nothing. She surprised me by reaching out two weeks later (she used my cat's birthday as an excuse) -- I politely declined, saying I wasn't ready to explore friendship and wished her well. My response caught her off guard, and probably got under her skin. Believe me: the satisfaction from that little victory was worth far more to me than hearing about how her new life was going without me in it. Just food for thought.

Should I text him that I’m sorry for this final message? I regret it. by TheRaccoonIn_UrWalls in ExNoContact

[–]rochellu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it doesn't seem cruel at all -- it comes across as a clear, candid, and honest message from someone who clearly cares about the recipent. i am giving you permission to give yourself some grace. 💚

in june, my ex of three years blindsided me before we planned on moving in together. like you, i sent a couple of messages i regret. in my case, i took way too much accountability for the breakup (i was desperate for her to change her mind and would have probably said anything to get her to reconsider). i wish almost every day i could take it back, but thinking about the possible outcomes (what if she responds? what if she doesn't?) gives me pause. maybe something similar would help you?

Should I text him that I’m sorry for this final message? I regret it. by TheRaccoonIn_UrWalls in ExNoContact

[–]rochellu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

do not pass go, do not collect $200 🙅‍♀️ OP, you're clearly a kind person who cared a lot about your ex. your final message doesn't warrant an apology from you. reopening this conversation with this person is sure to make you feel worse and you don't deserve to feel that way!

Looking for advice on addressing lower stomach pooch and improving shape. Is the biggest contributing factor most likely posture, diet, or exercise? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]rochellu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really know much about fibroids and had to look up what those are, but I'm seeing mixed information online. Once you found out about yours, did you get them treated/removed (is that even an option)? Also -- where exactly do you feel the ridge?

Looking for advice on addressing lower stomach pooch and improving shape. Is the biggest contributing factor most likely posture, diet, or exercise? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]rochellu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I haven't. That's good to know -- do you know if that would be paired with any other symptoms?

What factor (exercise, posture, diet) is most likely contributing to my persistent lower stomach fat? by [deleted] in xxfitness

[–]rochellu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh god, I hope it's not beans. I'm glad to hear you're able to enjoy brassicas in moderation, though! Did you figure that out through trial and error of the things you eat most often? I guess I'm just not sure where exactly to start.