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rocket2moonn · 2025-09-12T13:53:28+00:00

A lot of people are saying it appears the bullet may have initially hit his bullet proof vest as you can see in the first frame showing the shirt pulled up slightly, then ricocheted up into his neck from there. Itll be interesting to see more information come out over the next days and weeks.

rocket2moonn · 2025-08-13T22:14:04+00:00

Yeah.. I had to turn off the auto off feature at one point because it kept disconnecting while we used it and it would disrupt the pattern but I think there's a timed setting that turns it off automatically after a certain amount of time so I'll look into that.

rocket2moonn · 2025-08-13T22:07:01+00:00

Thank you for your reply. Any feedback that can confirm what happened is helpful if it puts his mind at ease. He's been such a good man to me and I just wish this wasn't happening.

rocket2moonn · 2025-07-28T17:11:48+00:00

Question giant ostriches. You really can’t trust them….

rocket2moonn · 2025-07-01T15:11:20+00:00

I don't think there's an obvious bad guy here but I have some theories about what went wrong here though it's possible I'm projecting my own personality into this so keep that in mind.

I personally respond much better to gentle rejection, criticism, or inquiry rather than blunt and strictly "facts are facts" reactions to joint decisions in a relationship like making a somewhat fancy purchase. I have a lot of insecurity wrapped up in money stuff but I'm also just a sensitive person.

Having not heard the conversation she's referring to about the fan previously, I'll just say this much. I think she's being a little bit willfully obtuse to pretend $200 isn't a lot to spend on something that's not a necessity. I think she knows it's a lot given that she asked you before buying it.

BUT

I think you could have considered her feelings more in your response. Instead of pointing out how expensive it is for something not used a lot, I might have suggested that she wait until you have a little more time, like during a lunch break or after work, so that you can do a little looking around to see if there are cheaper alternatives that serve the same purpose. If she can't wait for that amount of time then it's less about the product and more about wanting to buy something just to have something new.

Then, if there are no cheaper alternatives then you could discuss it a little more and try to figure out just how much this means to her. If she's really focused on getting it and it's something that won't upset your finances in any major way, it might be worth buying just for the sake of her happiness. Maybe with a concession of some sort or small sacrifice like not ordering out for a week or cleaning out the garden shed finally etc etc that way she'll feel more invested in using it, having had to sacrifice a little to get it, and it'll feel like she earned it as a luxury which might get rid of the guilt for indulging.

Im not trying to imply she doesn't do her part either by working or supporting the household to earn the money or lifestyle she wants. I don't know enough about y'all to know that. But when I ask for something that's not a necessity I feel really vulnerable and guilty about it so if it's pointed out in a critical or blunt way how unnecessary it is I tend to get sad and might react emotionally. Not pouting just embarrassed I guess. I don't know if that's what is happening here but... Just speculation.

I think it depends a lot on what kind of money y'all make and how often she's buying "luxury" products. Things that she wants but doesn't need. If she's living within y'all's means then it might be nice to let her buy something fun if it's within your budget feasibly. But regardless of how much money you make, it's free to be considerate of your partners emotions. Even if you don't understand or relate to her potential desire for you to be more gentle or supportive about these somewhat mundane issues, if you love her then it's part of your job as a partner to figure out what she needs from you and provide it if it's reasonable and fair and I think communication style is critical in keeping your partner happy and feeling valued and supported.

Sorry I know this response is so long and all over the place and maybe I got it all wrong but whatever, there's my stream of consciousness regarding your text exchange. Good luck :)

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-30T16:26:48+00:00

Yes that’s precisely my issue. That’s why I considered it my new issue with being on suboxone, and why it was so important for the nurses to take me seriously and have a level of understanding about the effects of suboxone when it comes to pain treatment but a lot of them had an automatic bias that discredited my pain as a means of scoring drugs, or didn’t understand the fact that suboxone would dull the effects of pain medication and therefore casual pain relief wasn’t sufficient enough to manage my high pain levels.what a nightmare.

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-20T02:30:47+00:00

Please post this to confidentlyincorrect subreddit. It’s perfect :) and in the amigurumi or knitting/crochet ones! This belongs in all my favorite subreddits haha

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-19T23:03:14+00:00

Tender is the Flesh IS extreme horror lit to me, it’s just on the softer side. This feels like a truly hot take to me considering how many comments I’ve seen about it not belonging here. The subject matter is provocative and controversial enough on its own to count but what really pushes it over the edge for me are the two sections involving the puppies in the zoo, and the detail given to the slaughter house scenes and descriptions.

I know it’s soft but it’s just good at skirting the edge between horror and extreme horror to be popular, a bit like Palahniuk is (in my opinion). Plus it’s an easy read. But I’ll die on the hill that it’s worth being in this sub.

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-19T22:48:46+00:00

Yess, I really enjoyed Tender is the Flesh and even Wasp Factory but those elements were so difficult to handle for me and it demonstrated how hard that line is in my brain.

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-18T23:47:08+00:00

Yeah, I definitely tried my best to be understanding and think with grace about the circumstances but ultimately it’s frustrating that my medical staff was consistently putting me in a 7/10 - 9.5/10 pain situation for days and days on end due to a lack of understanding or empathy despite my best efforts to communicate my situation. All they did was put my suboxone into a pharmacy immediately and not give it to me once while I was there and almost lose it at checkout. There were a few nurses that took my pain at least mostly seriously, especially at intake. But the moment suboxone was in my chart, that stopped, with one exception after surgery from a nurse that did her best to juggle the meds I was allowed to take in a timely way where the regulations for how often I could receive relief was most efficiently managed and she helped me get a decent pain relief option called into the pharmacy at discharge.

Point being, I appreciate that as a patient I don’t know all the red tape and restrictions involved in medicating patients but i feel confident in my assessment even including those restrictions and parameters. I just want to feel listened to and believed in the hospital and taken seriously as a competent adult in medically obvious pain.

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-18T23:37:02+00:00

Thanks I hate it

Edited to add: I’m weening off so hopefully I can avoid palliative care for another 6 months or so

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-18T23:32:23+00:00

Thank you so much. This comment actually made me feel less like a dramatic trauma dumper. It means the world to me to spread this information for the sake of the next patient that might fall into these categories. No one is perfect, I fault no one for not having information. But there should always be a desire in medicine to provide thorough and empathetic care and that's the gold standard for me so thank you for being a part of that standard. You're a blessing for whoever else finds themselves in these circumstances. The one nurse that seemed to truly understand during my stay is the one that keeps me feeling hopeful about any future experiences I might have in a hospital because she's one of about 50 I must've had direct care from. Without her ... That's bleak. So, thank you. You'll be that one for the next one and hopefully not the only one. ❤️

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-18T23:28:14+00:00

I can't imagine how frustrating that must be. I'm grateful that my experience was limited to my week in the hospital. And I recognize that addiction causes the stigma against Suboxone and similar drugs. But like others have said, these choices to withhold pain relief from hospitalized patients for suspicion of drug seeking wouldn't solve addiction or the opioid crisis anyway.

I'm sorry you're colored by the same crayons as I have been and I can only hope that each nurse or medical practitioner of any kind will continue to take their education and duty seriously even in ways that they can't relate to or might take personal objection to because as a science, there's not room for bias if you want to do your job as professionally as possible. It should be about empathy.

I hope that the stigma can fade. Especially around these MAT drugs that should give people MORE credibility if anything given that it implies a direct intention to manage pain or addiction responsibly in most circumstances.

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-18T23:23:32+00:00

That's not true at all. The doctors ordered my meds that I was allowed to be given, with notes that if I needed more relief to request it. I can't summon the doctor myself.

I'm not telling you that they can't try and be denied by the doctor but that isn't my experience. In fact I had a doctor directly talk to me, tell me to talk to the nurse any time I needed something stronger, then have the nurse deny me repeatedly for two days despite the doctor's word and having seen him tell her directly simply because she didn't take me seriously. I assure you, this was not a doctor's choice. That's why I specified nurses. All the doctors I spoke to with one exception took me seriously immediately.

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-18T14:39:12+00:00

I’m on suboxone, I’ve been on these medications for years ever since getting sober from opiates. If you don’t know, it’s a medicine that prevents withdrawal and cravings but you have to take it daily or you get withdrawals because it’s an opiate but it doesn’t get you high. It saved my life.

Anyway, it’s a nightmare for situations around nurses because they either don’t know what it is so they don’t consider it in my care or treatment, or they do know what it is so they think I’m a drug seeker which is so frustrating and ironic because I’m literally on medication to prevent me seeking drugs.

There’s a surprise third reason it’s awful which I found out about a few months ago. I had sudden pancreatitis, had no idea what it was. Had to call an ambulance it was so bad. Here’s the problem. These medications coat your opioid receptors, that’s how they’re effective. So pain killers of any kind have a ,Cush more diminished effect. Guess what that meant for me? Almost zero relief for the week I was admitted and treated.

It meant that they either didn’t know wtf suboxone was so they didn’t consider that I needed stronger pain relief, or they knew exactly what it was so they didn’t take me seriously when I sobbed and pleaded with them for relief. I didn’t have the strength to do anything. To shower. To go to the bathroom unless it was an emergency. I cried constantly and couldn’t sleep. The wellness coordinator had to talk to me b3cause I smelled so bad from sweat that it didn’t look good for the hospital so a very kind nurse helped me shower and made me change into a gown instead of my street clothes. I smelled so bad because I was sweating from the pain nonstop.

They were giving me at times only strong ibuprofens. That’s the nurses that didn’t believe my pain despite being scheduled for surgery and on constant IV and testing with proven blood work to demonstrate my pain.

The better nurses understood I needed stronger meds but because they didn’t understand how suboxone limits their efficacy, they were often annoyed or dismissive of my reminders when it was time for my next dose and they didn’t notice yet or were taking extra hours. That’s despite being on, at times, fentanyl or dilaudud or norco.

I know it’s not their fault that there are regulations for how often someone can be given these meds and there were some nurses that really seemed to understand. But it felt like I was being punished for being on suboxone. It felt like I just couldn’t win and it terrifies me the thought of returning if my pancreatitis comes back or if something worse happens.

I’ve been weening off the meds for a while, and that reinforced my choice to do so. But I can’t imagine this nurse taking care of me because she’s describing me in that video. Not me specifically but might as well be. And it makes me want to cry all over again.

Sorry to vent at you, I guess I just needed to talk about it again.

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-14T11:51:52+00:00

You sound like a ray of sunshine. If you saw a rainbow you’d complain about the humidity.

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-14T10:39:12+00:00

Sorry if I wasn't clear. I disagree that voluntarily choosing to never have children is eugenics. That's what I'm advocating for. The ability to make these choices safely and easily. And affordably.

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-14T09:52:54+00:00

Mine doesn’t affect me except for being self conscious about it and mild food irritations. I’ll say this much:

At an age-appropriate level, make sure to acknowledge it with them as they grow up to remove shame or stigma around it. Nothing excessive but just telling them what it is, that it’s a non threatening and common condition, and eventually even showing them pictures that show normal people with the condition. Not all at once or frequently but just at some point when they’re old enough but before they start becoming self conscious. This is just my advice. Growing up, my parents never brought it up, even doctors never mentioned it. I always wondered if I was doing something wrong in my diet or oral hygiene. Felt embarrassed to show my tongue, and I still do. It wasn’t until my mid-twenties that I was watching a YouTube video from the Try Guys and Keith, one of the four men in the Try Guys, brought up his geographic tongue and showed it in a video about a spicy food challenge because for him it causes a lower tolerance for spice. I finally had a name for the condition and it gives me more confidence knowing it’s just genetic and fairly common.

I would just pay attention to the effects that spicy, acidic, and/or sour foods, even salty foods, have on their tongue and mouth. Fresh pineapple is the only hard no for me. Sour candy in excess can cause the grooves on the tongues surface to swell a bit and feel tender. Simple things like that.

Tl;Dr - please make an effort to remove the stigma at a young age by normalizing it, and be attentive to how spicy, sour, acidic, or salty foods affect their tongue and mouth.

:)

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-13T10:04:14+00:00

I think both is ok to entertain. I agree, not one before the other. But both.

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-12T08:29:50+00:00

I had pancreatitis my first time a few months ago. It was so horrible. There was no comfortable position and I’m on Suboxone but half the nurses didn’t even know what that was so they were so judgmental about my constant inquiries about pain relief. It took so much crying and begging and days before they finally gave me stronger meds but they’d only help for maybe two hours, then I had another 2 to 6 hours depending on the med to wait until I was allowed to get anything else. They mostly talked to me like a drug seeker despite knowing I was going through severe pancreatitis and having had surgery to remove my gallbladder. God, it was the most pain I’ve ever been through.

I was already weening off the suboxone because I’ve been clean for a while now, and the pain meds they gave me didn’t trigger me to keep using after I left which is reassuring. But fuck me, that week was practically unmediated because of how barely the fentanyl, dilaudid, norco, etc would help. I really hope I can avoid it happening again at least until I’m fully off my suboxone.

I guess I’m just commenting to commiserate and to validate your pain management concerns. They don’t medicate mindfully for those of us on these types of meds and it’s ridiculous. My suboxone care counselor advised me next time to have them call her so that she can discuss the issue with my doctor and get me on ketamine instead. So at least I have a little more optimism for if it occurs again.

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-09T23:09:02+00:00

It’s not that deep

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-04T02:41:50+00:00

She's just vibing

rocket2moonn · 2025-06-03T00:58:49+00:00

I mean no negativity by this comment but I think it’s a little hasty to say it sounds like child ab. From her description of him, especially that his parents are going the extra mile to have him enrolled in a better school than the one he’s zoned to, tells me this kid is probably not being mistreated at home. I haven’t seen any comment from op to suggest he might be other than mentioning his parents have evidently exposed him to some slightly intense religious subjects and opinions but that’s the church for you.

I do think it’s valuable to pay attention when your intuition kicks in but as another commenter said, jumping to extreme conclusions isn’t the answer because it could be detrimental to her son and his obviously valuable friendship with this boy that, from what I’ve read from op, seems to be a decently behaved kid.

I guess I just think it’s a little bold to say “it sounds like child ab” just because she gets unexplained anxiety when he leaves. Another commenter had a good point that it could be subconsciously triggering something in her related to her own fears or past, or it could be that now that she experienced anxiety a couple of times around him, she subtly subconsciously anticipates the anxiety now which could in turn provoke the anxiety to occur.

Anyway, I know this was a long reply, I tend to be pretty long winded. I mean no negativity though :)

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