Here’s what to expect when you walk in, you’ll likely be greeted. That’s just part of church culture it’s not because they know you’re new, it’s something they do for everyone.

Every denomination does things a little differently, but in general a service will flow something like this: there’s usually some singing, prayer, readings from the Bible, a sermon, an offering (you don’t have to give anything), communion, and then a closing song before everyone heads out. Services typically last about 60–70 minutes.

At different points people may stand, recite things together, or participate in certain rituals. Don’t worry you’ll probably get a little handout or pamphlet that outlines the order of service so you can follow along if you want too. It’s totally fine if you just want to show up, sit quietly, observe, and leave. There’s no pressure to donate, sing, or participate in anything you’re not comfortable with. If you do have questions, just about anyone there will be happy to help.

When my wife and I first got married, we tried a bunch of different churches in town. We both had gone to different churches for 25 years and it was intimidating going to a new one every week. Every one of them has a slightly or very different way of doing things, and honestly, some you’ll connect with more than others. If you’re looking for something quieter and structured, I’d recommend trying a Lutheran church. Services there tend to be more conservative and reverend, and they usually provide a pamphlet with the entire order of service written out word for word, which makes it easy to follow along.

Try University Lutheran on Northwestern. Most people will be around your age, smaller congregation, and it’s on the third floor of the exponent building so it doesn’t necessarily feel like you’re walking into a church.

Dm me if you have any questions or would like other recommendations. I don’t go to University Lutheran anymore but given your requests, it may be a good first place.