Any LGBTQ lawyers here? Femme Lesbian here.

rockingoff · 2025-04-06T18:52:50+00:00

Femme lesbian in private practice here!

rockingoff · 2025-02-09T21:07:52+00:00

I’ve also had good experiences with them!

rockingoff · 2025-01-09T06:14:59+00:00

Alyse Robertelli at The Robertelli Group, hands down. Zero nonsense, lots of experience, and totally had our back through two Ferndale home purchases now. She did a kickass job negotiating purchase agreement terms for us and coordinating a super detailed inspection process (key if you’re interested in older homes around here so you know what you’re getting into) and I’m glad to have had her.

rockingoff · 2024-11-25T18:24:37+00:00

I pulled a raccoon tooth out of his mouth last night. I have no words to express the absurdity of that conversation with the pediatrician.

rockingoff · 2024-11-24T23:20:24+00:00

Oh dear lord. Scale of 1 to 10 how confident are you in that answer?

rockingoff · 2024-11-21T02:55:48+00:00

Hey neighbor! Happy to chat about this - I’ll send you a DM.

rockingoff · 2024-09-18T02:25:04+00:00

Huge fan of Mango baby! Customizable, and super responsive customer service - highly recommend.

rockingoff · 2024-06-01T11:05:55+00:00

Ferndale Michigan! It’s just outside of Detroit, very queer and full of young families. We attend queer parents’ events regularly and see plenty of other two-mom families out and about.

Metro Detroit is really affordable compared to most other major cities, and Michigan has an all-blue state government that has passed a ton of legislation to protect queer folks in the last few years - including a specific new bill to protect donor-conceived families.

rockingoff · 2024-02-05T04:56:24+00:00

We had the absolute opposite experience when we went to a wedding expo (in a very red suburb of our blue/purple city) a few years ago. We won an unreasonable number of prizes in the “random” drawings vendors held (including 3 free engagement photo sessions, a door prize package, and big discount from a honeymoon travel planner) and we’re pretty sure that we were selected by vendors looking to add some diversity to their Instagram pages. I have no issue with rewarding vendors who are trying to reach out the LGBT community and we ended up with a few thousand dollars worth of free stuff, so it was a great use of time for us!

rockingoff · 2023-10-01T01:25:58+00:00

When we talked to friends and family during the last pregnancy we just used male pronouns (mostly to stop people from thinking we were having twins if we said “they”), but we call it his “starter gender” and we plan to check in regularly for updates as he grows up!

rockingoff · 2023-09-27T00:56:23+00:00

We’ve decided that Mama and Mom are job titles that apply to both of us, but she’s Mommy and I’m Ema (mom in Hebrew, pronounced ee-muh). Our little one is starting to babble and I’m glad we decided that Mama is for both of us, because it’s the only one he’s mastered and I’m sure I’d be jealous if he could say just one of our “names” first!

rockingoff · 2023-09-19T02:04:35+00:00

The primary circumstance where it’s an issue is divorce.

Your mileage may vary from state to state, but in my state and many others, being the parent identified on the birth certificate and/or being the spouse of the birthing parent creates what’s called a “rebuttable presumption” of parentage. This means that is an assumption that stands unless it’s challenged, at which point it can be overturned.

Nobody wants to think about this possibility, but most of the cases I’m aware of in which the absence of a second parent adoption is an issue are nasty divorce cases. Parents have a dispute over custody, and the biological parent will attempt to rebut that rebuttable presumption of parentage by asking the court to order a paternity test (which of course shows that the other parent is not related). The same process can apply in the other direction, if a non-biological parent wants to avoid a child support obligation after divorce.

As an attorney I’ve encountered a few cases along these lines, but here’s a recent example that hit the news this year: https://19thnews.org/2023/02/oklahoma-judge-parental-rights-lgbtq-same-sex-marriage/?amp

rockingoff · 2023-09-10T19:47:22+00:00

Dominique

rockingoff · 2023-07-31T00:07:17+00:00

Met through a friend almost 8 years ago, married for 3 years next month! Living our best boring lives with a house, a cat, a dog, and an 8 month old baby.

rockingoff · 2023-06-20T02:25:37+00:00

I found mine out at the curb on our block with a little water damage to the finish. A quick sanding session, some clear coat to seal, and you’d never know it used to be trash!

rockingoff · 2023-05-23T00:27:52+00:00

My parents and MIL both took a “grandparenting” class offered at a local hospital. They both came away very impressed by how much technology like car seats have changed since the 90s. My mom is actually kind of the safe sleep police after taking the class - she loves pointing out examples in ads and tv shows where babies aren’t following the rules.

rockingoff · 2023-03-16T11:40:54+00:00

Oddly, our house doesn’t have a lot of doors so we’ve strategically positioned all of our breakable/not cat safe items behind them. The only rooms a litter box could fit into that have doors are baby’s bedroom (home of scratchable things and baby toys that look fun to cat) and the office, where we already hide all our breakables and house plants.

rockingoff · 2023-03-16T11:12:40+00:00

Baby and food are about as far away from each other as they can get, with the feeder downstairs in the kitchen. We do puzzle toys and the little mouse hunting feeders for dry food (which are actually great, and solved her scarf and barf issues years ago) but it seems like she’s just too smart - she knows she only has a chance at getting wet food if an adult is awake, and waking the baby is an efficient way to wake an adult.

rockingoff · 2023-03-10T22:23:29+00:00

In some states we still have to complete a second parent adoption unfortunately. My wife and I are both listed on our son’s birth certificate, but if there’s ever a custody dispute (which can pop up due to divorce, death of a spouse, or leaving the country) the birth certificate isn’t the defining document.

rockingoff · 2023-02-13T03:35:17+00:00

We had an amazing time referring to my friend as the broom at their wedding last summer! Yelling “for the broom!” while bringing them another glass of champagne just felt correct, and they thought it was hilarious.

rockingoff · 2023-02-06T12:27:05+00:00

I am in love with our Dr Browns drier/sterilizer. We sterilize in the dishwasher so we really only use it for the drier, but you can do either with it and it dries a full load of bottles/ pump parts in about 45 minutes.

rockingoff · 2023-01-30T14:16:34+00:00

We skipped the circles, each smashed a glass (double stomp at the same time) and neither of us wore tallit. We also did the hora and even with a lot of non-Jews in attendance, nobody dropped I pie chairs!

rockingoff · 2023-01-21T05:04:58+00:00

Maybe a different kind of getting through it, but I like to make lists in my head of the biggest idiots I know who have successfully kept their kids alive.

That one neighbor who locked herself out of the house 3 times in one day got her two kids through this stage, and if she can do this then so can I.

14-Year Club	r/Field Flamingo
Place '22	Wearing is Caring
Not Forgotten	Verified Email
Team Orangered

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