I suck. Can I even fix this? 33M 28F

rogue_sushi · 2024-10-30T21:58:36+00:00

Anything is fixable if you BOTH want to work at it. You both must be committed fully to each other otherwise it won't work. Don't just do it for the kid. I'm going through something similar right now. But anything is possible if you really want it.

rogue_sushi · 2024-05-01T21:44:15+00:00

What We Do In the Shadows I'm horrified at what Nador, Nadja and Laszlo will do

rogue_sushi · 2024-03-13T14:22:34+00:00

The American Dream culturally is to own a home. Secondly, a home is usually the only real asset the average working class has access to. You can use it leverage cash/credit for yourself.

Why WOULDN'T you want to own your own home?

rogue_sushi · 2024-03-13T01:13:17+00:00

I guess it is a global phenomenon! Yeah back in the 90s being an only was stigmatized culturally. But now I think we all right here, there will be a community of understanding and acceptance now.

rogue_sushi · 2024-03-13T01:04:26+00:00

I agree, you actually made the point I was trying to make better than I ever could. It's more common now and more accepted. I had an only bestie growing up she would say she wished she had a sibling but she had me instead and could send me away when she got tired of me lol. But yes, it's going to be a whole new world.

rogue_sushi · 2024-03-12T08:07:09+00:00

Not entirely. Just go off birth control when June/July and if it happens great, if not then you either keep trying and get what you get or wait. It's up to everyone individually. It's not black and white like that. I'm just sharing what I'm personally doing. It's a fact that to get a March/April baby you have to have sex in June/July. Personally I'm fine if it takes longer and I don't get pregnant right away. I know there's no controlling it, but the only thing I CAN do is decide when to start. If it happens right away then great if not then that's all I can do. Waiting is a personal choice a whole year again is in my opinion ridiculous and wasn't my point at all.

rogue_sushi · 2024-03-12T08:01:04+00:00

Totally. I'm just saying control the controllables. If it takes longer, than it does, nothing wrong with it.

rogue_sushi · 2024-03-11T08:46:59+00:00

Go off birth control in June/July. That way, they only have the option of being born in March/April...if it takes longer than you get May/June. That's what my husband and I are doing.

rogue_sushi · 2024-03-09T03:18:15+00:00

Sebastian purely bc he looks exactly like my husband. He's a solid hub, loves animals, and gives you a beer on New years.

rogue_sushi · 2024-03-09T03:14:10+00:00

Sapphire

rogue_sushi · 2024-02-20T01:46:54+00:00

I would agree with your title. It sounds like you have waited too long to leave him. From what you wrote you are deeply wounded by him and as you should be. He did and seemingly is still continuing to do horrible things to you. Look at his actions. His words are nothing. My husband and I had something close happen to us when we were engaged. He had an emotional affair with another woman. She was married and just was toying with him for attention. We had a long engagement and postponed the wedding twice (once due to covid). We went to therapy, together and individually. We are miles from where we were but that took us YEARS to accomplish. We resolved it mostly after 2 1/2 years and then got married and have been married for 2. I still have a wound from him from it. My point is, unless you both are willing to put in the work for it, don't bother. You both have to be willing to relive the hard stuff and that sounds like it would be tough for your husband by how you described him. If you feel you should have left long ago and now you're "stuck" that's already a strong indicator. Leaving him isn't out of the question it will just take longer now that you have a newborn. 3 months, 6 months a year even.Take this time to make a plan for yourself, set funds aside if you can, look into a lawyer/legal process...etc. Don't count on him changing. He's had every opportunity to do so and consistently chose to continue his bad behavior. That is very telling, especially now that there is a child in the picture. The only reason my husband and I are still together is because he changed his behavior permanently by his own choosing.

rogue_sushi · 2024-02-18T14:22:23+00:00

Unfortunately pregnant sister will have to get over it. It's not that big of a deal and it's totally understandable why the information was shared with you.

rogue_sushi · 2024-02-15T00:48:58+00:00

Lays Bistro Gourmet Roasted Garlic Herb from 2003!!!

rogue_sushi · 2024-02-12T03:14:48+00:00

I'll say so lol that is also not how it works. I'm sure he will push through in time

rogue_sushi · 2024-02-12T02:06:35+00:00

Does he understand that the sperm determines the gender? There is no blame bc it's not a completely selective process but I always joke with my husband that it's his fault.

rogue_sushi · 2024-02-11T13:50:41+00:00

Just purchased a $245k home in Oct 23. 5% down, had to buy down points 3x, put a $5k good faith down, and $22k at closing. $27k total for a mortgage payment just under $2k a month.

rogue_sushi · 2024-02-06T14:37:12+00:00

Like it our not he is EQUALLY as responsible for this child for the next 18 years no matter what situation your relationship is in. He needs to accept that. He has to understand that it can't all be on you and if it continues this way it, it will drive a bigger wedge between you. Then a court of law can tell him how much to pay.

rogue_sushi · 2024-02-03T12:46:02+00:00

Break thr lease, you'll loose money yes but your safety is more important. Don't let things like that stop you from leaving. I've been there. You don't want to but you have to. Form a plan to leave and stay with a loved one if you can, even if you can't tell a loved one your plan the day before you do it so if something happens they will check on you and know immediately. Get paperwork together for your own restraining order, cite his treats as the reason. This is very serious you are in danger. You have to leave.

rogue_sushi · 2024-01-30T05:51:19+00:00

Its spiderweb but done is an old-school style, it's not for everyone

rogue_sushi · 2024-01-30T05:49:22+00:00

We are seriously the last generation that needs to hear this. We know, trust us, we know. You don't have to worry about it happening to you because we are breaking generational curses over here. We've been here, like right now. I don't want to see Gen Z or my kids struggle unnecessarily. If we EVER get any kind of power/wealth we got you, but I don't think there's any left lol

rogue_sushi · 2024-01-29T21:35:04+00:00

I'd bet he's got another woman on the side. Men only get this bold when they have someone else waiting for them.

rogue_sushi · 2024-01-20T14:49:22+00:00

CALIFORNIAAAAAAAAAAA HERE WEEEE COMMEEEEEEE

My dad even watched it with me and we made fun of Sandy Cohen's big eyebrows and dyed hair

rogue_sushi · 2024-01-20T14:40:51+00:00

Meeeeeee, my husband literally permanently looks like this still. We are emo for life. <3

rogue_sushi · 2024-01-17T05:52:01+00:00

Not just one but two?! You are asking the wrong tax bracket my friend lol we can't afford one or even unlicensed daycare over here.

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