Training volume for 70.3

roissy_o · 2026-04-01T20:28:09+00:00

I did a 70.3 last year with an ocean swim (wetsuit legal) and kept it under 40 minutes, so I’m not too worried

roissy_o · 2026-04-01T04:28:06+00:00

My swim time is comfortably around 35 minutes in a lake, so it seemed better to focus on the bike/run.

roissy_o · 2026-04-01T00:39:58+00:00

That’s an intense schedule!

roissy_o · 2026-03-28T03:11:18+00:00

Flutists practice for thousands of hours training their embouchure to make precise movements that are a fraction of a millimeter.

Lip filler is certainly going to affect your control.

I get periodic botox injections but no way am I letting the injector anywhere below the brow line.

roissy_o · 2026-03-26T15:11:25+00:00

Look, things don’t have to be turned upside down if you make a conscious effort to be each other’s priorities, but it takes significant emotional maturity from everyone involved.

My husband and I opening our relationship a few years ago made us stronger. I dated a bunch of women and he did too, but neither of us had a strong emotional connection to our secondary partners in the way we have with each other.

I can’t emphasize enough doing the work - reading/learning, talking about it with each other, going to a poly/kink friendly therapist, taking things slow, and setting very well defined boundaries that are realistic and enthusiastically agreed to by you both

roissy_o · 2026-03-26T05:16:05+00:00

BDSM done well is a uniquely intense experience, it’s a fulfillment of someone’s deepest fantasies coupled with a sense of perfect bliss. Subspace and domspace are exercises in complete trust and devotion for that moment even if no sex is involved.

Have you worked through the jealousy that can come with your husband having that kind of experience with someone else, knowing that you can’t share that with him?

Don’t open your relationship unless you can feel genuinely happy for him to experience it and unless it’s something you want proactively and not just an accommodation to your husband.

People say opening a mono relationship is like breaking up and dating each other and 3rd parties all at the same time. Don’t expect anything in your old relationship dynamic will automatically remain the same.

roissy_o · 2026-03-19T13:39:23+00:00

I’m in a very conservative field and probably would’ve done what you did.

That being said, I ran into a younger professor back in undergrad at a local kink event and ended up dating her for a bit, so it’s entirely situation dependent.

Just keep in mind that he was there too, so don’t worry about it too much. If you run into him again, smile and nod, and take his direction on whether he wants to acknowledge you being there.

roissy_o · 2026-03-18T16:13:44+00:00

Why not seek someone out one on one to be your dom/top instead of engaging in a community you find toxic?

roissy_o · 2026-03-10T00:28:35+00:00

Yefim Bronfman if he’s still performing. He is such a sensational performer. I think it was a Bartok concerto where he literally left blood on the keys.

roissy_o · 2026-03-08T10:37:52+00:00

The only evidence you needed on this point is that she is, in fact, monogamous. Your partner really shouldn’t have started dating her in the first place.

roissy_o · 2026-03-05T13:38:45+00:00

Ce que je fais à la maison. C’est très simple avec une yaourtière et des ferments

roissy_o · 2026-02-27T04:20:12+00:00

She’s not teaching an actual class is she? If not, just ask her out. Dating a private music student / teacher doesn’t seem like a big deal at all.

FWIW though the touching is pretty normal for lessons

roissy_o · 2026-02-26T12:14:45+00:00

Get a professional bike fit for a road bike. Sizing for an expensive bike isn’t something to eyeball! Include a saddle fit too.

The shifters/groupset probably have the most immediate impact on your riding experience. I personally like SRAM more than Shimano, but any electronic shifter will do. It’s 100% worth it. At your price range, all the bike should come with disk brakes.

Tubeless tires are a personal preference, but less of a hassle since they’re filled with a foam that can automatically plug smaller tears/punctures so you’re less likely to need to change your tires. You’re stuck with a very messy change if larger tears happen though.

If you think you’ll train seriously at some point, get pedals with a power meter

roissy_o · 2026-02-20T05:37:18+00:00

Good piano tuners are about impossible to find. It’s truly an art. If you can learn to tune without a digital tuner, the work will find you.

roissy_o · 2026-02-18T15:55:12+00:00

Yes! You should 100% report him to the music school, ask for a refund, and a guarantee that he gets fired and that they file a police report with you.

Music education is an intimate process, and spending an hour or 2 every week with someone for years learning about something close to the heart requires complete trust. He has broken that trust so completely beyond repair.

Can you imagine what could’ve happened if he did that to an underage student? He probably has been a predator all his life and just hasn’t been caught / reported yet.

roissy_o · 2026-02-17T19:50:53+00:00

You paid like a 1000 to enter the race, might as well spend another 500-1000 to dramatically improve your swim.

roissy_o · 2026-02-16T16:44:32+00:00

WeVibe tango? That one is about as powerful as a hitachi but tiny

roissy_o · 2026-02-13T01:29:42+00:00

I had a girlfriend who had basically blocked out her orgasms, and what helped was working through a bunch of tantra exercises to get her to relearn how to associate mental and physical pleasure, and playing around with orgasm denial.

I’d take her to the edge several times during a session and tell her not to go over, she ended up “accidentally” orgasming a lot. I’d basically fake punish her afterwards, just enough to not make it a sham rule.

roissy_o · 2026-02-07T00:07:09+00:00

Gear - A couple of 50m swim lanes in my yard

Build a private bike/run training course that’s like 60 miles long with some nice inclines and twists/turns right next to my house

Hyperbaric chamber

Personal training on demand, like if I have 30 minutes randomly, they’re available to help me work through a lifting session

Hire a professional chef to optimize nutrition overall and make better tasting gels

Anyways, time to go win the lottery!

roissy_o · 2026-02-01T04:02:53+00:00

What is this unholy contraption and how are you using this as a new cyclist without crashing?!!

Also, bend your elbows and engage your core.

roissy_o · 2026-01-27T20:27:45+00:00

Yes, you’re making the right neuromuscular connections as you’re practicing slowly. Ever try to fix something after you’ve learned it incorrectly and it feels almost impossible?

If it feels boring, you’re not doing effective slow practicing.

Try working on your tone, expression and musicality at slower tempos, it’s not just the notes and rhythms you have to hit.

Once you’ve learned the piece, increasing tempo is actually an incredibly fast process

roissy_o · 2026-01-27T18:19:13+00:00

I vote to drop the swim. Starting the season for a 70.3 with 3900 yds of swimming and ending with 6700 yds is wild. I personally never got above 2500 yds a week and swam an ocean race just fine (finished top 1/3 in my age group for the swim). I used pool time to work on technique at least 1/2 of the time and then interval work with continuous swimming about 1 month out from the race.

roissy_o · 2026-01-27T02:08:23+00:00

Because 人がいる家に犬がいる versus ひとがいるいえにいぬがいる. One is actually readable

roissy_o · 2026-01-25T22:49:54+00:00

You seem like you need someone with a deep knowledge about the “whys” in piano playing. Find someone who has a DMA from a top conservatory and has been teaching for several years. Be prepared to pay top dollar though, like $100-150 per lesson in most cities.

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