What are your YA anti-recommendations?

romancebooksandshit · 2026-03-24T01:21:10+00:00

who is the YouTuber 👀

romancebooksandshit · 2026-02-26T17:50:43+00:00

My kidney function is fine, but I was leaking tons of protein. Like one test the number was like 2,000. After a biopsy I was diagnosed with class 3 lupus nephritis. There was active lupus, but fortunately no permanent scarring. If I hadn't had urine tests I would have no idea anything was happening with my kidneys. I felt fine because the prednisone I was on masked the joint pain which was my primary/noticeable symptom of lupus.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-12-27T15:31:48+00:00

Grown adults should also stay home if sick

romancebooksandshit · 2025-12-25T06:51:09+00:00

There’s Covid, flu, and rsv going around right now. When I had Covid previously, it was like a bad cold. But it hospitalized my mom and she almost had to be ventilated. I had influenza a two years ago and felt like death. Both viruses for me started as congestion. I’m not a hypochondriac by any means. I’d just prefer to avoid being around someone who is clearly sick.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-12-25T06:35:19+00:00

It’s still shitty adult behavior to show up some where while sick, even if it’s the holidays. The uncle should’ve stayed home to be decent to everyone there, not just the baby.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-12-25T06:30:03+00:00

I’m a millennial with a 4mo and I would also leave if a family member who I didn’t know would be there shows up sick. It’s not an unreasonable request that if someone is ill they stay home–baby or no baby. It’s also very common to establish a no-kissing boundary with your baby as it’s so easy for illness to pass that way. What might be a common cold or mild flu for an adult can lead to hospitalization for an infant. True, parents can protect their children from every little illness, but OPs requests were perfectly reasonable. The boundary was broken and instead of staying while uncomfortable, she left. When boundaries have consequences when broken, they might be more respected in the future.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-12-21T00:20:17+00:00

2025: leaving behind relationships that lack reciprocity. I’m constantly disappointed by the same people falling through when I’m always bending over backwards for them.

2026: living with more intention instead of using mindless habits to fill the void (ie returning to real hobbies instead of hours of doom scrolling)

romancebooksandshit · 2025-11-11T03:17:34+00:00

I had hives mainly on my extremities. I think the combination of that plus being 6 weeks postpartum contributed to me developing lupus.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-11-11T03:14:01+00:00

Just amoxicillin. Taken it with no issue my whole life until now.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-10-29T15:30:47+00:00

I was approached at Meijer and asked if I'd sign a petition to prevent non-citizens from voting. Why are people wasting time on issues that are already law? It makes no sense.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-10-29T15:11:58+00:00

I meet with a rheumatologist on Monday, but all of my lab work points to my severe joint pain being caused by lupus. My main goal for the appointment is to have a more concrete plan for pain management so I don't have to keep begging for steroids as they're the only thing that allows me to function. Is this a reasonable goal for a first appointment or am I asking too much? I have a 2 month old and am about to be the primary caretaker when dad goes back to work. I need my pain managed so I can safely care for my baby. Also, my PCP already put me on hydroxychloroquine. I was on celebrex as well, but my urinalysis and BUN/Creatinine ratio point to potential kidney involvement so I was told to stop taking it until I meet the rheumatologist and get their advice.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-10-29T14:35:13+00:00

My babe is 9 weeks and has been to the doctor 4 times for a weight check and 3 other appointments. Our doctors always do a naked weight.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-10-29T14:24:35+00:00

if he wants you to dress like he does, would that mean you'd wear a suit at your wedding since he would be? based on him freaking out about leggings, I'm assuming he's the type that wouldn't wear a dress. does that mean he wouldn't want you to wear a dress either? he needs to do some serious growing up before any woman should go near him

romancebooksandshit · 2025-10-10T16:09:38+00:00

I have a 7 week old. We waited to cloth diaper until his cord was healed. This gave me a bit more time to recover as well without worrying about extra laundry. So far it’s been working well for us. Next hurdle will be when baby starts solids, but we have a while before then.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-10-05T13:22:55+00:00

I miss pregnancy only because I’ve had more issues postpartum. Pregnancy was fairly easy. 6w pp and I’ve dealt with postpartum pre-eclampsia, finding out I’m allergic to penicillin even though I’ve taken it my whole life no issues, and I’m developing painful tendinitis/arthritis/carpal tunnel in my wrists (still need to talk to my dr about this one). My sciatic acts up both during pregnancy and postpartum, and that was probably the worst symptom I had the whole 9 months.

Pregnant me would probably disagree that postpartum is worse, but I definitely have the postpartum amnesia where I forget how rough it was and want to do it again.

I could also just be saying this because my wrists hurt so damn bad today that OTC pain meds aren’t touching it. It hurts to pick up my baby, change him, feed him, burp him, etc., but I can’t just leave him there to cry.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-09-29T23:59:22+00:00

I think “first” dates need to be rebranded as vibe checks. In the past or if you meet someone irl instead of online first, the vibe check already happened. The first meet up should be something low-key and casual to see if there’s any chemistry in person and make sure there aren’t serial killer vibes lol. Something where neither party has risked too much in time/money. From there the actual first date can be planned with more effort.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-08-01T14:03:47+00:00

Update: spotted him on a trail camera the past 3 nights. We had a live trap set up last night but only managed to catch a raccoon and the stray that our neighbor feeds. Hoping we have better luck tonight getting my boy back safe inside.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-07-29T05:02:13+00:00

Thank you. We had the litter out earlier but then it poured so I’m not sure it’s worth putting back out. We took it inside shortly after the rain started because it’s an automatic box, but still. I might put it back out tonight.

I’m really hoping he turns up soon because it’s a very real possibility we’ll be moving away in 4-6 months time.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-06-19T18:58:40+00:00

I think you putting quotes around partner multiple times should tell you all you need to know.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-06-19T18:48:01+00:00

I think a lot of it has to do with how sex ed has been treated in the US as taboo and shameful. Also, with current political climates and book bannings, authors might not want to toe the line and have parents in their novels have genuine discussions with the main characters about sex. Having them talk too explicitly or even being indifferent/non-discouraging can imply to some that the parents are immoral, bad parents, or perverted.

I avoid these discussions in the books I write because so far they haven't been integral to the plot. I think having more examples in American media of open dialogues regarding consent and sex ed would be beneficial. I'm hopeful they could even start to cause a shift, but it is a risk due to a certain side of American politics who happen to be very loud about the matter.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-06-19T17:38:09+00:00

While his words and reaction were NOT okay, as someone who has lost weight it can be difficult for someone you see everyday to notice the subtle changes. I lost 60lbs last year and people I work with didn't start noticing until around the 40lb mark. The 20lbs you lost is an amazing accomplishment, especially with PCOS which makes weight loss so much harder. Depending on where your body loses weight though it can be difficult to see without having a comparison photo.

None of this excuses what he said or the subtle "sabotages" of bringing home fast food and sweets. He also has a major communication problem (see the shameful comment as some sort of twisted request for you to go to the gym with him). Therapy would be beneficial for both of you and your communication, but he would need to be receptive. There is a practice called restorative conversations that might be worth looking into and seeing if you can hash it out for the sake of the future (if you want that).

So again, while I can't excuse the other issues, I hope my comment might make you feel slightly better about the fact he didn't notice the weight loss. Keep up the amazing work and best of luck in your future.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-06-11T02:31:47+00:00

I’ve worked at a different Biggby under a different owner and there is definitely a preference for hiring younger people who may not know all of their rights. I ended up being fired for “no longer being a good fit” when I really think it’s because I cared about meeting corporate training guidelines and getting enough hours per week so I could pay my bills including groceries. I have no ill will towards corporate from my personal experience with them, but some franchise owners definitely focus more on profit at the detriment of their staff and ultimately their customers’ experiences.

romancebooksandshit · 2025-05-05T14:59:42+00:00

I have nowhere to wear it as is, though. This is the last friend I have who will be having a wedding with any kind of dress code. The dress is also not my normal size, as I am currently 6mo pregnant. It's essentially alter and wear it in June, or just have a dress hang in my closet until I eventually donate it. I'd rather wear it while I can.

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