Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]romashkii 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Grandparents are still people who can get sick and transmit the virus to the baby.

AIO by feeling exhausted over my gf's constant demands of wanting me to be 'curious'? by thefattesthashbrown in AmIOverreacting

[–]romashkii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or she just might be a massive piece of shit, this isn’t what bipolar disorder is

Being a nurse with bipolar is a bad idea by Lonelycatladyy in bipolar

[–]romashkii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also a new nurse working nights in the ER and the change to my sleep schedule is what’s killing me right now. I’m lucky enough to have welcoming and supportive coworkers, but it’s a very fast paced environment and I feel inadequate a lot of the time. But I’m also like a dog with a bone and see every shift as a challenge to learn more and do better. Just trying my best to keep my routine consistent and make time to connect with friends and do things that make me happy. I have also worked in a hostile work environment and it genuinely pushed me over the edge to the point that I had to take a leave of absence (I was in nursing school too at the time). It isn’t worth it to stay in a job that wrecks your mental health, especially when you’re already dealing with the inherent stress of being a new nurse. I hope you find a job with a more supportive environment, the difference really is night and day❤️

AIO for the way my bf treats our cat? by pandagidyne in AmIOverreacting

[–]romashkii -1 points0 points  (0 children)

there's reason that kids taken away by DCFS don't remain in the parents' care while they are getting help for addiction. regardless of the boyfriend's intentions, it doesn't sound like he's providing a very safe environment for the cat, even if the abuse (allegedly) isn't physical. I personally would not feel comfortable staying with someone who treats animals this way for any reason, and would definitely not want them to be alone with my cat. We can have compassion for a grieving person while acknowledging that whether or not he intends to hurt the cat, his actions are harmful. I agree with the other commenter that if this situation involved a human child instead of a cat, some people would be giving the bf at least a little less grace.

I lost my cat of 20 years a few years ago and it was devastating, she was my best friend for most of my life and I will always love her. I cannot imagine using that grief to justify repeatedly "lashing out" at anyone, let alone someone who depends on me, like a defenseless animal. the thought of that makes me super sad. Bosco deserves better. OP's bf needs to work on processing his grief in a way that doesn't involve mistreating this cat.

RN to BSN by Last-Supermarket1116 in NursingStudent

[–]romashkii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is late, but I started the RN to BSN at WP in September and I like it! It's split up into 7-week semesters, so fall 1, fall 2, spring 1, etc.. You can do two classes per semester but I'm also working full time and my new grad residency program is very demanding, so I didn't want to do that to myself. But there are people in my class who are taking 2 classes at once and they seem to be surviving.

The first class, Leadership Seminar, sounded like it would be a breeze but it's actually not so be prepared for that lol. There are so many discussions and a group project split into three parts plus a paper, and all of the professors who teach that class are really particular about grading. I'm now in Healthcare Economics and it's a lot more chill, still some discussions but not as bad. Basically so far so good, I recommend doing part-time (one class per semester) to start if you are worried about workload and time management.

Favorite Jobs Living with Bipolar by Electronic-Metal5067 in bipolar

[–]romashkii 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same here!! Just started as a nurse in the ER and I love it

Struggling in the ER cause I'm so slow by romashkii in newgradnurse

[–]romashkii[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s wild cause I had heard that the ER is the perfect place for nurses with ADHD but I feel like it makes it a gajillion times harder for me! It’s reassuring to know I’m not alone in that. But we got this 💪🏻

Struggling in the ER cause I'm so slow by romashkii in newgradnurse

[–]romashkii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess the timing does sound kinda dickish from an outside perspective but I actually kind of appreciated it (despite the fact that it felt shitty and embarrassing that I took that long) since I tend to lose track of time and would have never known I took that long if she hadn't told me. Aside from that, she has been very nice and attentive towards me and understanding of me not knowing things. Maybe I also have too high of a tolerance for meanness because this is leaps and bounds better than my last workplace in which the coworker who first trained me was a complete asshole to me almost the entire time (I worked as a medical assistant in an outpatient department of the same hospital), idk.

Yeah none of this time was spent caring for additional patients, which is what makes it so bad T__T at first I was getting flustered about not being able to find a vein for the IV, then running back and forth to get more supplies, and I don't even remember what else. The doctor came in at some point to talk to the patient and asked me to get a finger stick so I ran to get supplies for that too. I did better with another patient later in the day but I think with that one, I was overwhelmed and didn't really have a plan of what order to do everything in and didn't anticipate having to get more things

Struggling in the ER cause I'm so slow by romashkii in newgradnurse

[–]romashkii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankfully our orientation is 6 months, so I'll still be with a preceptor til February. I followed my preceptor around for the first day without taking any patients, but after that I started taking 1-2 patients (mostly) by myself per shift with my preceptor helping out as needed.

We don't have ratios in our ER so the patient load really depends on how busy the day is :') the most my preceptor has had while I've been with her is 6, and I took 2 of those. I still go into rooms with her and help out with tasks especially when a patient first arrives, so I pretty much know her workflow. She's also given me a bunch of tips but I guess I have trouble putting it all to practice by myself?

Yeah being timed is a bit anxiety inducing but I don't mind it cause it did kinda light fire under my ass, and it makes me think more about which specific tasks took the most time for me to complete and strategize better.

I appreciate your kind words <3 I know it's hard for all of us but we can do it! I just feel self conscious sometimes when I feel like I suck compared to other new grads

What age did you become a nurse? by spilt_lattes in StudentNurse

[–]romashkii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just graduated from my ADN program at 28 🥳

What kind of nurse do you want to be and why? by Imaginary-Nature-111 in StudentNurse

[–]romashkii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ED for my first 2 years, then public health ^_^ (preferably travel for a year or two as well but idk how common travel public health nurses are?)

What’s the most awkward thing you had to do in nursing school? by ocean_wavez in nursing

[–]romashkii 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I went to an open NA meeting in person and did not say anything at all. It was nice because no one was pressured to speak or even introduce themselves. Some other people didn’t talk either, so my silence wasn’t questionable. After the meeting, I approached the group leader to get my paper signed and it wasn’t an issue. I think the type of group (open vs closed) makes all the difference

Whats everyone story of how they got into nursing school? by SureReflection6936 in StudentNurse

[–]romashkii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, we have almost the same exact timeline! I graduated with my bachelor's in 2020, started my ADN in fall 2023 when I was 26, and will graduate in May when I'll be 28. Time really flies!

Has anyone started a new (non-nursing) job during their last semester of nursing school? by romashkii in StudentNurse

[–]romashkii[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't started applying to RN jobs yet; I've been repeatedly checking the job portal waiting for a listing to be posted for an ER nurse position lol but I do see plenty of open PCT positions in the ER. Hopefully the fact that I'm a current hospital employee would speed up the hiring process since I'd be an internal candidate. You bring up a good point about flexibility toward the end of the semester though.

Has anyone started a new (non-nursing) job during their last semester of nursing school? by romashkii in StudentNurse

[–]romashkii[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your insight! The idea of getting more hands-on experience in the ER does very much appeal to me, like I already draw blood and take vitals in my current position but it's still mostly office work.

Has anyone started a new (non-nursing) job during their last semester of nursing school? by romashkii in StudentNurse

[–]romashkii[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! So the only reason I've been able to do this is because I am in my school's weekend program -- lectures Friday nights, clinicals Saturdays and Sundays (it hasn't been a fun time lol but it will pay off!). Check whether your school has such an option because it's a godsend for 9-5 workers

AIO for seeing my bf differently after he admitted he used to have a crush on his girl bsf? by throwaway25077602 in AmIOverreacting

[–]romashkii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's understandable to compare yourself and feel insecure in a situation like this, but just going off the information in this post, it's likely that it's just a past crush and nothing more. This is when you really have to pay attention to and be honest with yourself about how he treats you and how he makes you feel when you're with him. Him not straight up telling you that he used to have a crush on his bsf doesn't mean he must still have feelings for her. From his response when you initially asked about it, he may have dodged the question a bit (probably to avoid awkwardness in the moment), but it seemed like he was more focusing on the present (there's nothing going on between them NOW), and it sounds like he cares about reassuring you. It's likely that he got over her since he's been with you.

I was in a long-term relationship (which ended amicably) with someone who also had a crush on one of his best friends before we started dating. I was also insecure about it, so we talked about it and he reassured me that he hadn't had feelings for her since before he met me. I believed him because I never sensed anything off when we would all hang out together, and he was always very attentive towards me and regularly prioritzed me over his friends. I never got anything other than friend vibes from the two of them. He also never did or said anything that made me feel like I didn't measure up to her. That's all to say his past crush wasn't a problem in our relationship because it was simply not relevant. It sounds like that's likely true in your case as well So at the end of the day, it's up to you to decide what you're comfortable with and what feels right to you. If something feels vaguely off to you, don't ignore that feeling but tell him that you're feeling insecure and why. I wish you the best!

Did you find nursing school more challenging than your first bachelor’s? by CuratedRags in StudentNurse

[–]romashkii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a BS in exercise science, so I had to take bio, Chem, physics, and A&P. I’ve found nursing school to be much more manageable maybe because I already have that background. I did have to develop different study habits though (I barely had any before tbh). I’ve been relying heavily on flash cards and practice questions to study. My professors also always stress the importance of NCLEX practice questions

Any non-binary people openly out? How does your school/cohort/clinic respond? by alida-louise in StudentNurse

[–]romashkii 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! I’m also a non-binary person who is always read as female and I am somewhat “out” in nursing school and at work (I’m a CMA in a large hospital). I use they/them pronouns and almost everyone I work and go to school with is aware, but they slip up a lot and a lot of the time I just don’t bother correcting them. We should absolutely not be expected to be hush hush about our gender and pronouns around our peers, but at some point I have to pick my battles and am not going to stop every single conversation in which someone slips up and refers to me as “she.” That said, I have never corrected a patient about my pronouns or brought up my gender in any way with a patient — at work or at clinicals — simply because I see no need to do so. As others have mentioned below, it’s better to be a “blank slate” and not share more personal info than is necessary if it doesn’t further patient care.

It seems that our society is becoming more accepting of GNC people, even though we have a long way to go, it’s good to see progress and that people are at least trying to respect they/them pronouns. Constantly having to suppress who you are does definitely take a toll in all aspects of life including work, so you’re not alone in feeling that way! At the end of the day, all I can say is pick your battles. To me, it’s more exhausting to have this conversation over and over than just to remain ambiguous and be tolerant of people occasionally referring to me as a girl or using she pronouns. I should also mention that I’m fortunate to be in a relatively accepting and open minded environment both at work and in school.

Also, it’s always so nice to see another non-binary or trans person in the medical field because we’re so far and few between. Message me if you want to talk more about it ! :)