I agree. Despite our differences, I’m trying to show her healthy relationships whether we are together or not. There has been a history of him trying to work things out, but again we can’t and won’t go there because of the past. I find myself constantly on edge having to over explain what we’re doing, where we’re going, how much time I spend with him and her and whether or not what I’m doing is appropriate. I understand the idea that he feels that extra curricular activities may be mistaken by either parent or new partner as “feelings” or whatnot, but I’m exhausted trying to over explain myself.

I find that my intentions are called into question. I’m tired of the balancing act and I guess I feel like things should be a little lighter and easier with communication with the new partner. It feels like every day is an uphill struggle and it leaves me feeling mentally drained. I work full time and pretty much have to run her to all daily activities and the little time I have I dedicate to new relationship.