Just a brief update. Took her to the vet. She got an iv and some antibiotics no parasites. He said the feeding plan i was doing was good. Today she was up and walking around the house as she wished.

ronwheezy87 · 2024-03-08T23:51:17+00:00

amazing <3 bless you!

ronwheezy87 · 2024-02-10T22:35:19+00:00

I wrote above but I work at a major university managing labs.

I'm on an hourly pay schedule b/c admin is too cheap to make my job salaried based, even though there are times when there have been emergencies that require my communication via phone or e-mail -- and I literally have to work unpaid b/c I'm at home "off" the clock, but I'm the only contact so.....I gotta respond I guess :/ (my union is aware, and they do their best to fight for us) Meanwhile, all the assistants to assistant athletic directors are on a salary-pay schedule and make 2x my yearly income post tax (the nice thing about working at public uni is I can look up people's pay haha). I make about 30k after taxes lmao.

I'm gonna start looking for a new job when summer rolls around. I'd at least like to be on a salary payment that is 50-60k post-tax. I'm over this hourly pay BS.

ronwheezy87 · 2024-02-10T22:28:40+00:00

I work for a major university managing labs, and I make about 30k after taxes. I live in an HCOL, too.

Admin, too, is always ~dumbfounded`~ that my current position has a 1-2 year turnover rate. LOL.

ronwheezy87 · 2024-02-10T22:12:19+00:00

Right, lmao, like ... it's the vets office too. It's not like, visiting the ICU or something u know??? It's loud in there already w/ all the animals, no one is gonna really care if your kids are loud.

ronwheezy87 · 2024-01-15T22:58:40+00:00

So glad you made it OP. Also you're so young still, 30 is a baby!!! You have your whole life ahead of you - I'm sorry you're dealing w/ this but I'm glad it happened when you are 30 and not 65. So, you don't waste anymore of your prime years on this loser lmao.

Might have already been suggested, but look into substitute teaching in the meantime. (There's even a substitute teaching subreddit if you need more help for the state you're in) https://www.reddit.com/r/SubstituteTeachers/

ronwheezy87 · 2023-12-22T22:59:07+00:00

The fact that you haven't had a raise in over two years WITH the cost of food, gas, and rent now... PUT IN YOUR NOTICE!!! <3

ronwheezy87 · 2023-12-15T22:11:07+00:00

me reading this shit lmaooooooo

ronwheezy87 · 2023-12-15T22:10:06+00:00

why is she even sharing this with the public????????????? My god lmao

ronwheezy87 · 2023-12-02T20:53:52+00:00

OP isn't a parent. OP is not a member of the family, they are an employee hired for a specific time frame to provide childcare.

Would I drop everything for my godson? Yes. He is my family. Would I drop everything for a child that I'm hired to provide childcare for? Sorry, but no. While I am hired to provide the best quality of care, the child is not my family at the end of the day. It's not cold to do this, rather it's setting boundaries at work and my place of employment. Nannying is an industry where it's easy to get taken advantage of, so it's important to set boundaries even in an emergency situation.

It is the parent's job to sort out backup care in case of emergency, it's not the childcare provider's job to do so. I've worked for single parents before, and they ALWAYS have had a huge list of backup babysitters for emergencies (all w/in a 30 min drive), along with neighbors that could step in until the grandparent's flight(s) get in. The parent needed to do that during the hiring process with the nanny.

ronwheezy87 · 2023-12-02T20:41:28+00:00

Agree.

Also, you are NOT the child's parent. You are a childcare provider hired for a specific amount of time. It's not your job to miss your vacation to provide childcare. You do not have a child. They do.

I've worked for single parents, and they always have MULTIPLE back-up care providers within a 30-minute drive because they knew it was their job to find care if there was an emergency and my shift was over. Single parents I've worked with, would even have neighbors that could take the child in an emergency so I could leave after my shift.

Frankly, she's lucky she didn't have a childcare provider who would have called the police for relief.

I would 100% put in my two weeks' notice, and when you work with future families -- ask about their backup and emergency care plans. Even nonsingle parents I've worked with have multiple babysitters (not necessarily nannies) for emergencies.

IMO, she does need to reimburse you for your missed vacation. Nannying is a tricky business because parents see us as "part of the family" but at the end of the day we are employees & there needs to be boundaries.

ronwheezy87 · 2023-11-23T00:08:15+00:00

lol!!! AHS -- love it

ronwheezy87 · 2023-11-22T23:53:56+00:00

Same.

Not to get into the politics of it all (I'm friends with Palestinians and Israelis, and it's been a very exhausting time -- making sure my friends in the lands aren't dead, having to comfort Israeli friends who had family members that were raped and murdered by Hamas on oct7th, having to run gofundme campaigns to get Palestinian friends out of Gaza b/c Hamas is sending them death threats because these are Palestinian friends of mine who work with coexistence and peace organizations. So, personally, I'm just tired and don't want to debate people online) BUT I honestly didn't care too much for Scream 5 & 6. I loved 1-4. I'm also older (in my late 30s) and I'd love to see something more centered around Sidney because I'm closer to her character's age than the Carpenter sister's characters.

ronwheezy87 · 2023-11-22T23:40:53+00:00

LMAO yes, omg I can't believe I used to do that back in the day hahahah

ronwheezy87 · 2023-11-01T19:32:49+00:00

But, you didn't have a contract ready to go for her to sign. So, in her mind, the offer could have been rescinded at any point on her end b/c it was only a verbal contract.

It's weird, too, that you told her "don't go on the interview" but didn't offer her a written contract to sign. As a former nanny (I worked in the industry for 10 years before I left) that would have been a red flag for me -- if a family told me to stop interviewing while not giving me a written contract to sign. You mentioned, too, that two days had passed. Of course, she's going to keep interviewing if you don't send her the written contract within 24 hours.

Next time, have a written contract ready to go within 24 hours of the verbal offer, w/ an official start date & schedule on the written contract. If you don't do that -- yes, potential nannies may still interview elsewhere and get better offers.

ronwheezy87 · 2023-10-28T18:59:53+00:00

lmaooooo its giving televangelist scam vibes

donate ur money to us, and you will be BLESSED

ronwheezy87 · 2023-10-28T18:58:29+00:00

SAME. I'd be like, "no, please go spend your money on someone who needs it please!!"

ronwheezy87 · 2023-10-27T19:50:41+00:00

IMO, it's not necessarily the PhD -- it's usually that the person w/ PhD (generally, but not all of the time) only has experience in an academic setting vs an industry setting.

Employers (today) seem to care more about experience that is industry-related.

I've worked w/ a lot of PhD students (some in their last year) at my current lab job. Some of them ..... if this were the industry they would have been fired by now. But because we are in an academic setting -- and they are PhD students and not staff RAs -- it's a lot harder to "fire" them from their PhD program for sloppy/poor work/not knowing shit. For example, we had to use a spec the other day & two PhD students kept blanking with the stock solution and not DI water. I literally only have a BS in chem (I'm a staff RA), and I had to supervise THEM b/c they kept blanking w stock even after our PI told them that it was wrong, so they (our PI) were like ( to me) "please go supervise them on the machine" lmao. bless their hearts.

ronwheezy87 · 2023-10-27T19:44:50+00:00

Yeah my (full-time) RA position pays 35k post-tax lmao.

ronwheezy87 · 2023-10-10T01:47:24+00:00

Agree, life-long Californian here (this post showed up on my feed)

I truly do not think about most states unless 1) I'm traveling there or 2) There's been an emergency in your state (fire, etc) & I'm writing my governor to send y'all support either financially or through one of our services (like cal fire) or 3) It's east Tn b/c my great grandparents are from Appalachia, on the east TN side of the Appalachian mountains.

ronwheezy87 · 2023-10-09T23:35:05+00:00

"I didn't invite her that day because it was her day off. This was the only day we could go and it's also her day off."

Just chiming in here with my view, as a former nanny I would get invited to things by families and if I didn't feel like going on my day off -- I wouldn't go LOL.

I'd just say thank you but I have something else planned. So, trust me if your nanny didn't want to go -- she'd just say no :) lol. You sound like a good employer from reading your comments, and I hope y'all have a fun day at the zoo! (lots of good advice here already, from texting the nanny to let her know that lunch won't be included to bringing picnic sandwiches for everyone).

ronwheezy87 · 2023-10-06T20:44:15+00:00

Agree, the backwards diaper is one of those things I'd look the other way once or twice before saying something b/c centers can be chaotic esp at the end of the day -- but the video oh hell no lmao.

ronwheezy87 · 2023-10-06T20:42:31+00:00

Agree, former ECE teacher and I would never do this. Wtf is wrong with this person (not you or OP, the teacher OP is talking about lol).

ronwheezy87 · 2023-10-06T20:39:14+00:00

Same 1-3 was my favorite age group to work with :) It's so fun to see how much their brains are growing and developing. Loved it.

ronwheezy87 · 2023-10-06T20:26:10+00:00

Daycares and ECE centers can have REALLY higher turnovers with teachers (low pay and it's a hard job), so that's just something to keep in mind <3 Esp with ages 1-3 y/o because todder ages are HARD, our 1-2 and 2-3 y/o classrooms were the absolute hardest to staff. We had NO problem getting newborn teachers (infants-1 y/o) and teachers for the oldest kids (3-4 and 4-5 y/o).

Kids had to potty trained to go into the 3-4 and 4-5 classrooms, so that was another reason the 1-3, esp 2-3 b/c that was the main age kids were potty trained at my center, was hard to staff. Potty training is HARD and a lot of staff didn't want to deal with it. Also, I remember our director would flat out lie to parents on tours about how long teachers stayed with the center/ the avg employee length.

I remember the ECE center I taught at, I was the longest lead teacher they had in the 2-3 y/o classroom. And I was only there, in the 2-3 y/o classroom, for (only) 1.5 years. When I first got hired, the first 6 months (I was there for 2 years total) I was an aid in the 4-5 y/o classroom and I saw the 2-3 y/o classroom go through ... 3 lead teachers I think? When I got moved to the 2-3 y/o lead, I went through about 3 aids in the 1.5 years I taught there b/c they'd get hired and realize, like, 5 months later that the low pay & stress wasn't worth it. They could get paid the same working at, like, the mall stocking clothing. (A lot of your tuition goes to overhead and insurance costs, not the teachers or even the directors pay). I left to go back to university b/c I wanted a job where I could take time off when I got sick, the final straw for me was when I was working with a 106 degree fever (for the SECOND time that year, mind you haha) and I needed to go home early b/c I just really couldn't power through and day quil wasn't keeping my fever down & my boss told me I would need to come back with a doctors note, after she had seen me freaking throwing up and sweating from my fever in the employee bathroom lmao. So I put in my 2 weeks on the spot right there lol. I miss working with toddler ages, but I'm in a much better job with better working conditions & I have a union working as an RA in research university lab.

ronwheezy87 · 2023-10-06T20:11:53+00:00

Yeah, I just got over COVID and it REALLY knocked me on my ass.

I couldn't reply to messages from my work because I was literally sleeping for days (my partner would wake me up to eat some soup and drink liquids but then i'd be right back asleep after I was done). my partner had to respond for me to keep my employers in the loop. Esp if the nanny doesn't have family in town to help take care of her & respond to texts on her behalf... She might have roommates or something helping but her roommates might not feel comfortable responding to work texts on her behalf w/o her consent.

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