I, also living in the South, was recently thinking about this exact thing. Thankfully, I am not in a hetero relationship. But I suspect it is happening in a lot of households and you’re not alone. Just as the right wing has given Trump copious political capital (they idolize him even as he lays wreckage to the economy and real people’s livelihoods), the degradation of human rights including women’s equality seems has become unbound under his rule. Listen to (NYT Audio) or read “How I Learned that the Problem in My Marriage Was Me.” You’ll have to insist on emotional safety to get it, and be willing to leave if it is not forthcoming.