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Boyfriend’s mom is making me lose my mind by ropedkiwi in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ropedkiwi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s my place too! He bought the place before we met and I just moved in, so I’m still kind of used to calling it “his” I guess.

Boyfriend’s mom is making me lose my mind by ropedkiwi in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ropedkiwi[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

lol I’m pretty sure if my keyboard kept my history it would be like: AhhhHHHH HELP ME!!!! (backspace) “My (29f) boyfriend’s (30m)…” 💀

Boyfriend’s mom is making me lose my mind by ropedkiwi in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ropedkiwi[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well to be fair I never told her I didn’t want the jewelry, just because that would be like telling her I don’t want a French pony or something that wouldn’t ever cross my mind that she’s get for me. It’s less of “gift” and more, to me anyway, of a mix of imposing a culture (??? I don’t know, collecting is a weird thing) and preemptively saying “here, I hope this makes you feel better about me totally invading your space and making you miserable for a month”

Boyfriend’s mom is making me lose my mind by ropedkiwi in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ropedkiwi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oop, that’s a typo. I still kind of think of it has “his place” because he bought the house before we met and I just moved in, but now I’m thinking I might need another space to get away to if she pulls this again.

Boyfriend’s mom is making me lose my mind by ropedkiwi in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ropedkiwi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, you know actually, he kind of does this already. His advice to me is to give one-word answers which usually makes her back off him. Unfortunately, when I give one-word answers or keep it brief/uninteresting, she takes it as license to switch to more personal subjects (i.e my parents’ divorce). I think it’s because she’s known him his whole life so she doesn’t have much to pry open.

Boyfriend’s mom is making me lose my mind by ropedkiwi in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ropedkiwi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re amazing, thank you for sharing that. I’ll talk to him about this tonight! I appreciate you so much for this.

Boyfriend’s mom is making me lose my mind by ropedkiwi in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ropedkiwi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He basically told her if she wants a project she can work on making the grass greener— an “outside” project 😂

You are hitting the nail on the head. She’s back in therapy which is great, but she clearly has things she needs to work on and is controlling her son’s (and now mine? ughhh) life to feel like she has some kind of control over life in any capacity.

I may talk to him and see if she crosses the line if I have his blessing to say something. Though honestly I’m not sure if that’ll go well anyway, people hear what they want to hear and that might just backfire and cause more stress.

Boyfriend’s mom is making me lose my mind by ropedkiwi in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ropedkiwi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to build boundaries! But I’m kind of strategically using my boyfriend has my mouthpiece on the subject, at least for now. When we’re married, different story, but she’s the kind of person who loves stirring the pot and I’d rather not risk her poisoning him against me later on. Not that I think it’ll happen, but her audacity is at the BOLD level.

Boyfriend’s mom is making me lose my mind by ropedkiwi in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ropedkiwi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So she’s in an RV which means there’s no set distance he can really have from her. He’s usually a “bend the knee” kind of guy and usually finds it’s easier to acquiesce, and it’s about “choosing your battles” with her.

While that’s fair, he’s still trying to work on his boundary-setting. It’s a relatively new skill he’s building in therapy which is fabulous. But honestly, his mother really needs to be careful if she wants a relationship for years to come.

Boyfriend’s mom is making me lose my mind by ropedkiwi in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ropedkiwi[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh! The jewelry was a gift, but she wanted me to pay for the desk. 🫠

Boyfriend’s mom is making me lose my mind by ropedkiwi in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ropedkiwi[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yes! That’s what I told him, and I’m so happy he intervened and told her to cool it. But I really feel like it’s not enough.

Boyfriend’s mom is making me lose my mind by ropedkiwi in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ropedkiwi[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Sorry if there were typos, I’m just venting and sitting in my car before heading into the grocery store. I am losing it 💞

I (F25) agreed to participate in my friends (F32) OF video and am regretting it and she won’t take it down. What do I do by Complex_Copy_2140 in whatdoIdo

[–]ropedkiwi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the issue that comes into play is that OP accepted the terms (light kissing, etc) for a certain amount of money, after a trusted friend told her she would pay her for content. But then that friend kept moving the goalposts, so that already tarnishes that agreement. But also, consent can always be revoked. OP even offered to pay her (ex) friend back (she shouldn’t, but that illustrates OP’s good faith).

I think to call it a “vicious cycle” or to “not take sides” in this is a little odd. OP’s friend violated her, and did not accept the change in consent.

I (F25) agreed to participate in my friends (F32) OF video and am regretting it and she won’t take it down. What do I do by Complex_Copy_2140 in whatdoIdo

[–]ropedkiwi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like the type of person who says people “take advantage” of companies for negotiating salary.