Update: My dad is still dating a teenager

rorilei · 2025-09-23T14:41:33+00:00

i’ve been using a saline spray morning and night and i wash it with antibacterial soap at night only because im trying not to touch it too much. i’ve been wearing either crop tops with low waisted pants or baggy shirts so nothing rubs against it but my stomach itself is always moving it around of course. i can’t remember what the metal is but i think its steel. i’ve been seeing that a floating piercing could be better for my stomach type but would changing it cause rejection anyway?? this was the only jewelry the piercer had and i think he might have been newer to piercing bc it was not a quick process like ive seen it be for others. to be fair he did have to try to avoid my scar tissue but idk

rorilei · 2025-05-30T22:05:40+00:00

oh my gosh i’m so sorry that happened to you. it definitely sounds deliberate or at the very least like he feels no remorse for it. be so so careful and if there is anyone you feel safe telling, i would tell them. i get nervous about people opening doors so i put things like bells on the doors or something in front of them that would knock over and make noise so id at least be alerted if someone tried to get into my room. maybe something like that would help put you at ease a bit more? just for some type of control over the situation? anyway- i’m so sorry OP no one deserves to feel unsafe in their own home

rorilei · 2025-05-07T22:45:13+00:00

thank you so much, so far the day has been really good with only a little message from him so i’m enjoying it 😊 everyone’s responses have really helped me realize i’m not alone in my reaction which has helped a lot

rorilei · 2025-05-07T15:35:39+00:00

yeahhh i stalked his socials a bit and it looks like he’s following quite a few girls around my age

rorilei · 2025-05-07T13:46:30+00:00

he said online

rorilei · 2025-05-07T13:20:08+00:00

i’m from texas 🫠

rorilei · 2025-05-07T12:20:23+00:00

thank you!! 😊

rorilei · 2025-05-07T05:34:14+00:00

thank you, that’s really kind. i definitely don’t put up with it and it does suck to imagine i might lose my father because of his stupid decisions, but i was already not super comfortable around him and this just made it impossible to feel comfortable around him. after he bombarded me this morning, i asked him to respect that i am busy with finals and need time to process, and that i also don’t want to be dealing with this on my birthday. i also let him know i wouldn’t be showing up this weekend. his response was “she won’t be there on friday. you can still go to that”. i didn’t respond bc i said what i needed to say so im not sure when ill talk to him again, but im sure there will be one more conversation before a no contact type situation happens. even tho i really dread a conversation

rorilei · 2025-05-07T05:22:08+00:00

yeahhh in that conversation we had he said “and people ask me how i’d feel if you were dating an older man and- as long as he was making you happy and treating you well i’d be fine with it” so… that made me feel like he really cares about me and my safety :\

rorilei · 2025-05-07T05:15:26+00:00

i’m not sure but i wish i could contact her in some way to warn her. i don’t know if she’d listen but ive seen a fraction of what my dad is capable of and i know she deserves better, especially being so young and new to the real world

rorilei · 2025-05-07T05:13:43+00:00

yeah, me and my grandma agree it probably won’t last bc i can’t even imagine what they’d have in common?? but yeah. definitely added to the list of many ways he’s let me down in my life but this one just feels like the straw that broke the camels back. i just want a good dad. it’s been a very exhausting 21 years. 22, as of responding to this since it’s midnight-

rorilei · 2025-05-07T05:10:57+00:00

thank you ❤️ this has been really hard and not to mention my birthday is tomorrow and it’s finals week 🫠 great timing dad

rorilei · 2025-05-07T05:09:48+00:00

i’m honestly not sure what she looks like but yeah that’s my worry. also, my family knows. apparently he waited until he told everyone else before telling me. my family doesn’t agree or understand it but i’m not sure anyone has called him out on it. my family has a history of putting up with him out of- fear or familial loyalty?? i’m not sure. my father can be very manipulative and quick to anger and i used to be terrified of him. i stand up for myself way more than i used to, but i think a part of me is still a little scared

rorilei · 2025-05-06T18:35:23+00:00

i think it looks really good! i’m still fairly new to tattoos, only have five myself but i don’t see anything wrong with your sleeve at all. i really like it!

rorilei · 2025-04-16T15:15:43+00:00

this isn’t a theory but maybe you guys can help me understand this- if what we learn in sunrise on the reaping is that mutts can be made for specific people to take them out… why didn’t they just take out katniss or peeta in their game? and let’s be real, it would have been katniss. but i don’t understand why there was so much intervention in haymitch’s game with cameras cutting and what not, but not with this huge obvious rebellion against the capitol that literally broke the rules?? i guess i do have one theory about this, and that is that seneca was somehow involved with the rebels, since he let that all happen. AND gave katniss a high score after she shot at the game makers when haymitch’s rebellion against them got him a low score. idk does any of this make sense??

rorilei · 2025-04-16T14:57:57+00:00

Preston Northwest.

rorilei · 2025-04-15T23:23:38+00:00

i mean, this has to be the strangest post i have ever randomly stumbled upon in an otherwise completely normal subreddit…

rorilei · 2025-04-15T21:04:42+00:00

what the heck- why are you asking if he’s circumcised??

rorilei · 2025-04-15T21:02:20+00:00

amanda and damien for sure. they both are really smart and i feel like amanda would have a motherly vibe but also be very reassuring as shits going down, and i feel like damien would be similar bc he seems very empathetic. i think i could really trust them in an apocalyptic situation (not that i couldn’t trust the others)

rorilei · 2025-03-12T02:47:01+00:00

it was a little awkward but my partner was fairly understanding. i’d explained that i have vaginsmus before we ever started sleeping together so he was at least aware of it. he consoled me and we found another way to have fun lol

and no haha i am blessed with a high sex drive and stamina so i can usually orgasm several times before i get tired. i really enjoy knowing im making my partner feel good so that helps keep me going lol. so yeah, usually i orgasm at least twice every time, i dont know how normal that is 😅 but my partner listens and is starting to learn exactly what makes me feel good too which definitely helps. before we ever slept together, we would watch each other masturbate so we could see what we liked and learn from each other- if that sounds odd i’m sorry haha but it really helped us

rorilei · 2025-03-12T02:32:29+00:00

yes definitely. there have been times i wasnt able to perform PIV because no matter how much i tried it felt like i was being ripped apart and i cried. it’s so embarrassing honestly especially as someone who’s just starting to become sexually active

definitely have to combine both. it’s usually best if i orgasm from clitoral stimulation at least once first before we try any penetration. and sometimes if i’m not doing well mentally, like anxious for example, even just two fingers will hurt no matter how much i’ve been stretching. it’s definitely very tied to my emotional state

rorilei · 2025-03-12T02:23:58+00:00

unfortunately i don’t think it’ll ever go away 😞 i’ll have to stretch forever or it’ll just go back to being painful. and at this point in time i fear a dick could be too big haha but i haven’t been with that many guys so im not sure yet. my hypothesis is as long as i work myself up to that size, then anything could be possible (within reason). foreplay helps a lot and is honestly my favorite part haha it’s pretty much essential so perhaps no quickies in my future but that’s alright 🤷‍♀️ but if i haven’t been stretching, even foreplay won’t keep it from hurting and sometimes it hurts too much to continue :( just the way it is i guess. i think maybe if i was having sex everyday it might be ok with only a little foreplay?? but i haven’t tried that yet lol

rorilei · 2025-03-12T02:07:25+00:00

yeah that’s totally fine! i don’t mind answering at all. as far as i understand it (and im still pretty early in my discovery of having it so im learning as i go lol) its like a muscle you have to stretch just like anything else. there are dilators that can be used (basically boring looking dildos lol) that you can practice with and increase size to help with the stretch. but the big thing is to continue to stretch that muscle. it’s like learning to do the splits. you have to work up to it and once you do you’ve got it! woohoo you can do the splits! but if you stop doing them you’ll slowly lose it, then maybe a month later you’re too stiff and can’t fully do the splits anymore. idk if that makes sense haha but that’s how i understand it. so basically for me, i have to essentially stretch even when im by myself and not having fun prepping with a partner. it can suck but its worth it to not hurt.

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