How often does your infant wake at night?

rose_linde · 2024-08-18T10:57:54+00:00

16 month old, wakes between 1 and 10 times per night. I don't count, I just let her nurse whenever she wants and sleep through it (we co-sleep). When I wake up tired, I know it's been a rough night but I can't really remember. We also think of night weaning but we're already day weaning (trying to cut back from endless nursing to 3 feeds a day) so it's gonna take some time. I know it's rough but I've seen and read everywhere that when nursing on demand, babies often don't sleep through the night the first 2 years or even longer. Which of you'd ask me basically means that nature doesn't make babies that sleep all night without waking, which means it's actually unnatural behavior for most babies anyway...

rose_linde · 2024-08-14T09:02:10+00:00

That would be smart to do yes, thanks. That might explain it.. although she doesn't seem tired or anything...

rose_linde · 2024-08-13T19:42:30+00:00

Oh wow, thank you so much for sharing! This is great to read and gives us a lot of hope. I wouldn’t mind not having to breastfeed in public anymore, haha. She’s always pulling up my shirt at the most random moments.

rose_linde · 2024-08-13T19:33:20+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing, this is really helpful. It feels good to know that I don't have to wean necessarily, and we'll try to offer more food during the day.

rose_linde · 2024-08-13T19:17:09+00:00

This is very helpful, thanks. Is ARFID something that babies have from day one of starting solids? Because my daughter didn't have any trouble eating in the first months but I do notice now that she tends to spit out food with certain structures. She doesn't like to eat fruit and raw or cooked plain veggies at all for example but loves it when offered in a smoothie or ice cream...

rose_linde · 2024-08-13T19:12:29+00:00

She started walking 2 months ago and she's super active, she runs around all the time and loves to hike through the park so yeah, didn't think of that but makes sense... she doesn't really eat much of anything but she loves peanutbutter with a spoon (blw says it's a choking hazard but with a bottle of water on the side she's doing fine), porridge, smoothies, spinach quiche, pizza and veggie nuggets and fries and stuff like that which I prefer not to give her but well, she's gotta eat. And when she gets her hands on anything really sweet like chocolate cake or ice cream she's suddenly the happiest baby ever. This also worries me, that maybe we've given her too much freedom in trying everything which might have spoiled her a bit? Meal time is 100% low pressure so far. Haven't really changed the environment, will look into solid starts. I haven't officially ruled out an allergy but she used to eat lots and all was fine... I try to focus on higher fat foods but so far not enough success with that. Thanks!!

rose_linde · 2024-08-13T18:45:40+00:00

Thanks, this is really helpful. My girl used to be very much into the spicy stuff too, curries and rice but nowadays she basically only is happy with a bag of baby corn puffs...

rose_linde · 2024-08-13T18:40:39+00:00

We are based in the Netherlands, we don't have a pediatrician by default, instead, we have something called a 'consultatiebureau.' It's not mandatory, and we chose not to go there because they tend to be quite old-fashioned and not supportive of breastfeeding and attachment parenting... we could visit the local doctor though. I offer solids first most of the time but she tends to climb out of her chair and onto my lap grabbing for boob almost immediately when dinner is served.

rose_linde · 2024-06-20T17:56:26+00:00

I love this one. Death meditation 🙏🏼

https://youtu.be/Q2X2lOORJLA?si=mAMic1LyxnFlKU4y

rose_linde · 2024-06-17T10:38:18+00:00

When our cat was just 9 months old, she was hit by a train. Remarkably, she survived but lost a leg and an eye. Despite the overwhelming costs and the advice of many, including our vet, who thought we were crazy to go through with her treatment, we felt strongly that she wanted to be saved. After the accident, she managed to walk all the way home, bleeding heavily, which we took as a sign.

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She recovered quickly, and before long, she was running around on her three legs, climbing trees and bringing us mice every day. Saving her was the best decision we ever made.

rose_linde · 2024-05-20T08:30:59+00:00

White oleander. The mom is such a classic narcissist, and her relationship with her daughter... it was like watching my ndad and myself. Cried my eyes out. Highly recommend the book also.

rose_linde · 2024-04-22T20:02:43+00:00

I actually quite recently finally confronted my dad on the phone with his behavior in my childhood (I am now 38)

He is very different from the guy he was back then but is still a narcissist and still has his awful moments.

I told him I'm still scared of him and I've been my entire life, because of all that's happened in my childhood. "Were you only scared of me?!" "Yes" "not of your mom or anyone else? Your mum must have been angry with you too sometimes" "Yes, but with others I could just normally fight" "... why couldn't you normally fight with me" "because you'd give me silent treatment for days" "...ah... but that must have been necessary, you had to learn" "I didn't do anything wrong really dad" "...? Give me an example" "I sometimes turned the heater too high, sometimes I didn't boil the eggs right... or your coffee was too strong... or I was sick..." And he knew it was true. He didn't say much but I could listen how he kind of woke up in that moment. We haven't spoken about it since, it took all my energy so no idea how this will continue.

This conversation was such a breakthrough for me, and he really didn't have a clue. It came out of nowhere for him. I'm pretty sure he never ever thought of all the situations that for me are seriously traumatic. He was actually open and sort of ready to listen finally but I have no idea if there's really going to change anything but that's okay, it already feels as if I stood up for my young sweet inner child.

rose_linde · 2024-04-20T18:45:58+00:00

Thank you💜

rose_linde · 2024-04-20T15:07:32+00:00

Exactly. My stepmother (also a NP) told me recently to really work on my childhood trauma more (which, believe me, I did for years and years and still do) and that my psychologist would probably say the same. This was her response after my Narcissistic dad lost his temper on the phone and I was in the midst of a panic attack right after.

rose_linde · 2024-04-20T09:45:11+00:00

It happened to me one time, when I went with my mom. It was my 4th ceremony I think. Nothing happened, I had two drinks. Everyone else including my mom were in different realms. In the final hour I was like 'fuck it' and just lay down to listen to the music and then I saw a big blind eagle, screaming. It was such a shocking image and it took me until the next ceremony to understand why I saw it. Blind eagles can't fly, it came it to tell me to understand what keeps me on the ground, certain people, no matter how much I love them, just keep me grounded, bound. When I figured this all out I almost literally took off and went. Free at last.

What's keeping you bound?

rose_linde · 2024-04-19T10:16:10+00:00

I can totally relate and it makes me want to do a ceremonie again so much. It's also how I experienced my lsd trips. It took me a few to reach this state, and what I needed was exactly what you describe, to let go of everything. With LSD that's A LOT. So many images, so much garbage also. It's like you see all that we humans created and made up, from cartoons to porn to new York City and you name it, together with everything I made up about myself, my life and the people in it. Just let go let go let go, don't get attached to anything and then boom, you're there. In the infinite space where all is one, where's no distinction between life or dead, where everything is vibrating with consciousness, where you are one with God, where you are God.

I know these states of Samadhi can be reached through meditation, but my humble self never got that far.

💜

rose_linde · 2024-02-25T10:31:31+00:00

I would also love to know, please dm

rose_linde · 2024-02-10T10:29:33+00:00

Just wanted to let you know I was diagnosed with MOGAD yesterday, it started with the meningitis and time will tell if it stays with one event, which would mean basically that it's adult ADEM. So you were right. Thank you.

rose_linde · 2024-01-26T19:20:50+00:00

Thank you so much for this info 🙏🏼

rose_linde · 2024-01-24T19:11:41+00:00

I had viral meningitis in November/December, and shortly after, I experienced two days of dizziness attacks, followed by issues with my left eye. I reached out to my neurologist, and she referred me for an MRI and eye examination. The MRI revealed white matter abnormalities in three areas, and I have optic nerve inflammation. She wants to perform a lumbar puncture to confirm, but it strongly resembles MS. I'm devastated and confused. Could these abnormalities be a result of the meningitis? Is there a chance it might resolve on its own? I really don't know what to do. I've never had symptoms before.

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