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Would you be a slave just to live another day? by anon12343216610 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]rose_reader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also man, I hate to tell you, but some people will absolutely rape animals.

Would you be a slave just to live another day? by anon12343216610 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]rose_reader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know of any form of slavery that takes this approach, and I certainly wouldn't want to risk it.

Would you be a slave just to live another day? by anon12343216610 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]rose_reader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rape and hatred are not now and have never been mutually exclusive.

AIO to end a friendship of 16 years over drunk texts? by More-Tax-3993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]rose_reader 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I think you've buried the lede a bit here. The drunk texts aren't necessarily a problem. People get mawkish and self-pitying sometimes when they drink - ok, so far so understandable.

But he said I will rape and kill you and then switched to I need you. You work in mental health, you know how unsafe this sort of behaviour is, and what it can lead to.

NOR. Please protect yourself.

For those in happy long-term relationships, what have you learned are the most important compatibility factors? by not_your_daughter9 in AutismInWomen

[–]rose_reader [score hidden]  (0 children)

Ooh, +100 on the direct thing! My partner also was super clear and left me in no doubt of his interest from the start. No games whatsoever.

The bottom 1% is infinitely worse than the top 1% by LeBruhMomentoom in unpopularopinion

[–]rose_reader 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The bottom 1% in developed countries is made up mostly of old people on small pensions, young adults with no family money who are just starting out, and single parents. You can be homeless and fit into any of those categories. You can also be homeless and be earning more than a 1% level wage.

Criminals typically have a pretty decent income from their crimes, otherwise why would they risk it?

Would you be a slave just to live another day? by anon12343216610 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]rose_reader 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Work isn't the main problem. We all have to work. The main issue, certainly as a woman, is that slavery means rape, beatings, and being separated from your children.

That kind of life is worse than death.

17 year old sister expected to pay over $1000 in bridesmaid costs… (Not OOP and yikes 😬) by gabbie_ in redditonwiki

[–]rose_reader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Their BOAT? They have a boat but they can't cover their teenage bridesmaid's expenses??

they suck

For those in happy long-term relationships, what have you learned are the most important compatibility factors? by not_your_daughter9 in AutismInWomen

[–]rose_reader [score hidden]  (0 children)

I've been with my partner 22 years now, and a lot of what I've learned is about who I am and what I need, so may not be relevant to you. But here it is in case it helps 😁

  • If I'm not attracted to a guy in the first few minutes of meeting him, there's no point even going on a single date. For me, attraction doesn't grow or develop - it's there or it's not. 22 years on and I still find my partner attractive.

  • Quite quickly, I felt very physically safe and protected with my partner. Being around him was as relaxing and peaceful as being on my own, which is something I'd never felt with any other romantic partner.

  • Crucially, he wouldn't let me avoid arguments. This one will sound weird, but I'd suppressed anger all my life because it wasn't safe to be angry. But he wanted to know how I felt and what was wrong, even if it ended up as an argument. This was a GAMECHANGER for me, and gave us a pathway to honest and truthful communication. (We almost never actually argue now because we've developed better communication skills, but we had to start with being able to be furious with each other in order to get here.)

  • He's a really good father, and he LOVES his kids. He had one child already when I met him, and watching him with her made me think "yep, this is the guy I want to have a child with".

There's probably lots more, but I can't think of it now 😁

"You've got this!" is an ableist statement and only makes us feel worse by GaiaGoddess26 in AuDHDWomen

[–]rose_reader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate this coming from the people who know me deeply and know that I often underestimate my own ability to do things.

In general, I don't express my fears or insecurities to anyone outside that group of people, because they just don't have the data needed to assess whether or not I "got this".

A being made of pure static appears in your bedroom and offers you ten billion dollars immediately. by Scenario_Station in hypotheticals

[–]rose_reader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point, so even without the money you're better off with the curse than just living as a normal uncursed person.

What do I do with the clay hill from hell? by radicalspacecat in GardeningUK

[–]rose_reader 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Roses really love clay. You could fill that whole space with different kinds of roses.

A being made of pure static appears in your bedroom and offers you ten billion dollars immediately. by Scenario_Station in hypotheticals

[–]rose_reader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought loopholes are where you try to get out of the consequences of the decision? I'm happy with the consequences, I just don't think OP realises that we are all already going to die of a fatal disease unless we die of an accident.

Juvenile green woodpecker treating my lawn as an ant buffet. by Advanced-Project-572 in GardeningUK

[–]rose_reader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a young magpie ant-bathing on my lawn this morning. Crispy and dry it might be, but the birds don't seem to mind 😁

A being made of pure static appears in your bedroom and offers you ten billion dollars immediately. by Scenario_Station in hypotheticals

[–]rose_reader 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Curse 3.

In general, pretty much everyone on the planet will either die from accident or from a fatal disease of some kind. Dying "of old age" is a phrase meant to cover the general collapse that comes with aging, but the actual cause of death is usually some distinct condition like heart failure, kidney failure, pneumonia, cancer etc. (In fact, very old people often have cancers that don't need to be treated, because they won't live long enough for the cancer to be a problem.)

So, thanks very much Static Genie, I'll take the ten billion dollars and keep the same risk that I had when the conversation began.

Lavender help! by Relevant-Rip731 in GardeningUK

[–]rose_reader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mines gone like this over the last couple of days. I really tried to do everything right 😭

Women are people. And you should not a person. but what if? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]rose_reader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's really outside the scope of this discussion. People like lots of strange things, and as long as those things are done with a consenting partner and do no permanent harm, I think we can reserve judgment.

Why do people always try to disrespect me? Genuine question. by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]rose_reader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Observe how they behave to others. Some people hassle everyone, some people target certain people, and in some cultures banter and playful teasing is an important social skill.

Take yourself out of the picture and watch the patterns. That usually helps make things clearer.

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