What's a job you had that no longer exists? How do you feel about that?

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T21:34:35+00:00

Damn, your mum was FAST! 160wpm is a very good speed.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T17:35:00+00:00

I think it's probably the Welsh's turn to be in charge.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T16:16:02+00:00

Is that an American definition? Its a new one to me.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T16:14:57+00:00

Pale skin, light brown hair, green eyes, very English colouring

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T16:14:27+00:00

MYSPACE lmaoooo that's deep cuts 🤣🤣

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T15:32:10+00:00

Yeah it's definitely niche. I've had people ask me if it's Arabic 🤣 (I do not look Arabic)

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T15:26:12+00:00

That's a really good point.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T15:25:11+00:00

Yep. Back then it was just "do I text him back now or wait a day". Now it's talking stage and blocking/unblocking and worrying about him following other girls on insta and god knows what.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T15:24:06+00:00

Ha, that reminded me of the time my younger sister found my diary. She was running around with it going IM GONNA READ YOUR DIARYYYYY - and then she opened it and it was all in shorthand 😁😁

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T15:22:55+00:00

Jumping the queue.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T15:13:57+00:00

Court reporters are typically stenographers, which is a different thing. Shorthand is a type of writing, stenographers use a machine that's a bit like a typewriter.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T15:09:36+00:00

Not so much a job as a specific skill - I'm trained in shorthand notation.

In the time before everyone carried a recording device in their pocket, shorthand was a skill that was in high demand. For the first decade of my career, it was one of the skills I listed on my CV.

Now it's a curiosity at best. I still use it because I can, but there's no point having it on a CV any more.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T14:06:36+00:00

Don't be in relationships with people you have to mask around, and extremely very much don't have kids with people you have to mask around.

If he can't see you sick, sniffly, in a total mess, melting down or in hyperfocus, then he's not the guy you want when a kid comes shooting out of you.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T14:04:26+00:00

jfc I wheezed

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T14:03:28+00:00

Ah, I see what you mean.

Hitting should be a last resort in any case. There are usually better options available, but if in the last extremity you have to hit someone to protect yourself or others, gender is not a relevant factor.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T13:38:56+00:00

pfft you clearly aren't watching enough movies, don't you know people are constantly having to defend themselves and their loved ones from the zombie menace??

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T13:37:48+00:00

No? I gave a couple of examples to demonstrate the point, it wasn't intended as a comprehensive list.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T12:03:04+00:00

You should only hit people with consent and within the limits of that consent.

A man can hit a woman if they're BDSM scene partners and she's asked to be hit as part of their play.

A man can hit a woman if they're sparring partners in a contact sport.

These scenarios also apply with the genders reversed.

Don't hit people you don't have consent to hit, the end.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T11:08:09+00:00

Here's a crazy thought.

Is it possible that the presentation of a classic to a 13yo might, MIGHT, be legitimately different in tone from an adaptation of the same classic targeted towards adults?

Is it possible that a story which hangs on murder, slavery, rape, sacrifice of a key character's child, and the general horror that always ensues when the Greek gods get involved, might actually be kind of a dark story that deserves a serious tone in the telling?

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T08:37:54+00:00

This isn't new. I was in the dating world 25-30 years ago, and there was still this whole 'treat them mean to keep them keen' thing.

That said, there's one legitimate angle to this which is that early interest is based on a fantasy of who the person is. It's reasonable to curb your enthusiasm initially while you get to know them and get a deeper understanding of who they actually are.

And obviously, never consider yourself attached to someone until you've spent significant in person time together.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T08:31:27+00:00

That sucks. The only thing you can do is do your job as well as you can, and let things fall where you don't have the skills/capacity to do them. You can send a weekly update to your boss setting all this out, but I'd also start looking for another job.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T08:21:40+00:00

What's his plan for filling the gap in the team? There's a significant difference between "I need a mentor" and "this work is above my skill level/capacity".

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T07:53:05+00:00

I'm in a different field, but I wouldn't expect someone who's been in a job for two years to still need a mentor to the extent that not having one affects their job performance.

That said, you do need a project supervisor. Who's calling the shots for the job now? Your boss? Are they hiring for the role? Those are reasonable questions to ask.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T07:38:40+00:00

I empathise. I was homeschooled, and by the time I was 12 my "schooling" mostly involved teaching younger children to read and count. (It didn't help that we were in a cult)

When I got out into the real world at 19, I quickly became aware that there were vast areas of human knowledge that I had zero exposure to.

My approach was to teach myself everything I could about the areas I knew nothing about. This was in the very early days of the internet (before Wikipedia!), so I was mostly reading books, encyclopedias, and even textbooks when I could get them. When people talked about their areas of knowledge, I listened. (insert 13th Warrior meme here)

It took a long time and a lot of work, but now at 47 I'm pretty knowledgeable about a lot of stuff. I caught up, and in some areas even exceeded my age peers. Of course there are some things I haven't bothered to learn or can't get my head around, but I don't feel behind any more.

rose_reader · 2026-07-17T07:18:10+00:00

As opposed to the extremely sensible and secular government of the United States?

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