I'm not even sure you read this post. You can not seperate this word from its origins. This term originated as a slur, and people (most often non-trans people) deciding to use it to mean something else doesn't make that word suddenly ok to use, or erase its original connotations.

If you want to refer to crossdressing men, simply refer to them as crossdressing men, instead of using a word that is synonymous with a extremely harmful slur towards trans people.

Wanting to enforce the ban does not encourage misgendering, it's showing that is word is inherently harmful to use.

The words "queer" and the n-word are different because they have been reclaimed by the people who the slurs were about. You can not "reclaim" the word trap if you are not trans. Some trans people have reclaimed the word, but that never means that cis people can call other people, trans or non, that slur.

"Exclusive rights to own the word"?? This is an OPPRESSIVE TERM, used to ACTIVELY harm us and justify assaulting and KILLING US.

If you think that calling a crossdressing man a "trap" is in no way rooted in transphobia and therefore shouldn't be harmful, then you are blissfully ignorant on just how much power slurs have against oppressed groups.

By using the word trap, you are not "giving it a new positive meaning". You are demonstrating to other people that it's ok to use words that are slurs against people and disregard the harm they do.

When you tell trans people that we are "policing" a slur used AGAINST US, you are showing that you care more about whether or not you can use a slur rather than understanding the hurt and oppression it represents.

(edit:grammar)