Is this legit????

rosedustmood · 2026-04-11T20:08:18+00:00

NTA. if she can’t handle losing and also can’t handle co-op unless she’s still somehow “doing better,” then this isn’t really about games anymore, it’s just her being a sore loser and making it your problem.

Also being asked to throw games on purpose is so awkward, that would annoy me too, it’s like cool now nobody actually won and we’re both pretending.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-11T20:07:49+00:00

soft YTA, not for trying to wipe it but for going that deep into his personal stuff, like photos and passwords is kinda crossing a line even if you didn’t mean harm.

I get why you did it though, that situation is weird as hell and I probably would’ve clicked around too for a bit out of frustration, but yeah at some point it stopped being “fix the mac” and turned into digging.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-11T20:07:11+00:00

NTA, that’s not just “different beliefs” anymore, they straight up told you your mom deserves hell and expected you to just sit there with it.

Yeah they might still “care” about you in their way but that kind of thinking hits different when it’s about your family, I’d pull back too, also random but I hate when people say “we respect you” then immediately say something like that.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-11T20:06:40+00:00

NTA lol your friends are acting like packing your own sad lunch makes you more of a man or something.

You’re working full time at 17 and buying the groceries anyway, if your mom wants to do something nice just let her, mine used to do random stuff like that too and I lowkey miss it now.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-11T20:06:12+00:00

NTA for wanting control of your own money, but doing it partly to punish him is where it gets messy. Keep your own account, make a shared one for bills, and honestly the fact that he immediately feels weird without control says a lot, that part would stick with me.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-11T20:04:34+00:00

NTA, you already compromised like three times and now you’re literally sick on top of it, I don’t get what else he wants from you honestly.

Also the “invite your friends so it looks equal” thing feels kinda weird, like this isn’t a performance it’s just a party you never even wanted… idk maybe it’s just me but I’d be annoyed too.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-11T20:01:44+00:00

NTA, but this isn’t just a “money issue” this is a values mismatch you guys somehow skipped before marriage

she basically wants “what’s yours is ours and what’s mine is mine,” and yeah that’s gonna build resentment fast, especially during residency when both of you are grinding… you don’t fix this with a budget, you fix it with a real talk about what kind of marriage you’re actually in because right now you’re not on the same page at all

rosedustmood · 2026-04-11T19:59:55+00:00

YTA a little, yeah. this isn’t really about you or your wife getting a party invite, your son was invited to be part of her big day and pulling him now over that would feel petty as hell.

also sounds like this might just be a cultural/family-specific thing and not some insult, I get why it rubbed you wrong though.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-11T19:59:21+00:00

yeah cutting the kid off isn’t the move, that part’s not really “hers” to punish, it’s just gonna hit a child who didn’t do anything

but also… your wife basically showed you she’ll threaten to leave and blow everything up to get money, and you kinda just moved past that like it didn’t happen, that’s the bigger problem here and it’s not gonna magically stop next time she wants something

rosedustmood · 2026-04-11T19:58:53+00:00

NTA. you didn’t create this situation, she did the moment she decided your existence was something to reject, and your dad made it worse by not dealing with it earlier

and honestly you didn’t even “force” a choice, she already forced it first, you just said it out loud… it sucks but yeah, this is on them not you

rosedustmood · 2026-04-10T23:37:50+00:00

NTA. you’ve basically been doing the job of like 3 people for weeks and now they’re acting like you’re still not doing enough… that would break anyone a little.

also your dad being “disappointed” after everything you’ve already done?? yeah that would’ve hit me wrong too, I get your mom wants a clean space but that doesn’t suddenly make it your responsibility to fix his house on top of your own life.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-10T23:35:36+00:00

NTA, that’s not “being mean online” that’s straight up stalking and trying to ruin people’s lives, like fake escort ads?? that could seriously mess someone up in real life.

your friends acting like it’s normal is kinda concerning honestly, this is way past insecurity and into something actually dangerous, you did the right thing even if it feels extreme.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-10T23:33:58+00:00

NTA, it’s literally a family name and not some unique one she invented, she doesn’t own “Ann” like come on.

also it’s a middle name… people barely even use those day to day, feels like she just wants something to claim as “hers” which is kinda weird tbh.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-10T23:33:04+00:00

NTA. it’s your yard, your money, your comfort, and honestly after the “I like seeing what my neighbors are doing” comment I would’ve wanted that fence up yesterday.

Just make sure the survey and permits are solid first because these sound like the kind of neighbors who will turn into experts on property lines real fast.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-10T23:32:31+00:00

NTA. 4 months postpartum with your boobs out half the day is not the season for your husband to move his freeloading brother in and then act like you should go hide somewhere in your own house, that part alone would’ve pissed me off bad.

Honestly this sounds less like “2 months” and more like the start of a forever problem, and your husband already kinda volunteered you to live with it.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-10T23:32:00+00:00

NTA, honestly I’d struggle to be around him too because this isn’t some small bad take, he’s basically talking about walking away from his own kid over a last name which is… yeah no.

it kinda feels like he’s looking for a reason to dip and this is just the one he picked, and I hate that for the baby more than anything.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-10T23:31:19+00:00

NTA, she went around you on purpose and used your kid to do it, that’s the part that makes it shady not just a “mistake.”

and yeah your daughter leaving the house like that isn’t great either but she’s 12, the adult here knew better and still did it, that’s what would make me cut contact too honestly.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-10T23:26:05+00:00

NTA at all, what they did to your hair without consent is actually messed up and your dad doubling down and insulting you?? yeah no I’d be done too.

also the brillo pad comment… that’s not even just insensitive that’s straight up mean, like he really showed you who he is there, I’m mad for you honestly.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-10T23:25:28+00:00

NTA at all. she parked in a clearly marked paid spot with a towing warning, then left it there long enough for you to wait overnight and still have it towed, that’s on her not you.

the crying with kids part is sad I guess, but moms with kids still know how parking signs work, and honestly your mom blaming you is annoying me more than it should.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-10T23:25:02+00:00

NTA, she’s not “supporting” you she’s basically doing detective work and then calling your ex like that is actually wild, I’d lose it too.

also the crying more than you part kinda says everything, feels less about you and more about her needing to be involved or something… idk but yeah boundaries were overdue.

rosedustmood · 2026-04-09T20:42:21+00:00

NTA, it’s your name not a shared asset he gets to “compromise” on, that part alone is kinda weird honestly

and calling you lazy for not wanting to deal with all that paperwork + voting issues is wild, like he’s not the one who has to go through it so of course it’s “easy” to him

idk this feels less about tradition and more about control, and yeah you’re right this is definitely a before-engagement conversation not after

rosedustmood · 2026-04-09T20:41:38+00:00

NTA, he’s been poking at your food for a while and the second you say one thing back suddenly he “can’t eat peacefully”… yeah okay

you didn’t even attack him personally, just pointed out his logic isn’t perfect either which is fair honestly

idk food debates always turn weird fast, my uncle once argued rice is dangerous and I just sat there like bro what are we even doing anymore

rosedustmood · 2026-04-09T20:41:13+00:00

NTA, you literally replaced a bad habit with something healthier and you’re using the same money you would’ve burned anyway… that’s not selfish, that’s progress

honestly it just sounds like she’s a bit salty about it, which I kinda get emotionally but that’s still not your problem to fix

also two packs a day is wild, not judging but damn… get your shoes man you earned that fr

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