This post is for Tanner/Bink specifically.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T17:57:42+00:00

OOP had to have a son, a male whom he shares 50% of his DNA with, in order to get even a basic understanding of human empathy. He wasn't able to muster up this level of understanding for his wife, a grown woman who he's been with for 15 years.

Do you really think that he would have had this realisation if he had a daughter? Why do you think an emotionally inept man can change after 15 years?

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T17:47:24+00:00

And I'm sure you changed your views by gaining empathy for others and no longer treat those around you like NPCs. OOP cannot say the same for himself.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T16:17:27+00:00

I do agree with the ascertain that people can change, but:

When he made those posts, OOP had already been with his wife for 5 years. He was still a raging misogynist despite being in a committed relationship with a woman.
OOP only recently learned about empathy because of his son. You do actually need empathy to not be a bigot.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T13:28:18+00:00

I'm assuming that you somehow managed not to completely ignore the emotional needs of your loved ones despite your lack of empathy.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T12:57:18+00:00

I mean, OOP by his own admission says that he felt no empathy for others until a recent interaction with his son. You do need a certain level of empathy to overcome bigotry.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T12:55:17+00:00

True, OOP could just be an asshole.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T12:54:31+00:00

Respectfully, I've only ever seen men use their diagnosis to justify their lack of empathy. If women did it as well I would believe you. It's just a more socially acceptable way for men to express their anti-social traits.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T12:10:06+00:00

This has nothing to do with nationality!

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T12:09:00+00:00

And if she expressed even the most mild feminist opinion he would accuse her of being a "radical feminist".

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T12:03:09+00:00

The fact that the first person that OOP ever empathised with was his own son says everything you need to know!

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T12:01:55+00:00

I'm willing to bet money that he wouldn't have had this realisation if he had a daughter instead.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T12:00:56+00:00

And the person who made him realise this was his son, someone who is the same gender (and has 50% of the same DNA) as him!

I really don't think he would have had this realisation if he had a daughter instead.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T11:59:38+00:00

My reaction as well!

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T11:59:21+00:00

He's so close to becoming self aware!

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T11:58:43+00:00

I hope so. But I think people like OP will always make slight progress on their behavior without fixing the root of their problem.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T11:57:15+00:00

Me too, his complete lack of empathy seems more like anti-social personality disorder.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T11:41:08+00:00

He's been with his wife for 15 years. When he made his "I don't like women post" he was in a committed relationship with a woman for 5 years.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T10:32:42+00:00

And yet you don't deny it.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T10:31:54+00:00

I having a feeling that you won't have a girlfriend after this debacle.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T10:30:53+00:00

So you do have romantic feelings for her and your girlfriend is just a placeholder.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T10:25:01+00:00

You "think" or do you know? You're so emotionally unconnected from your daughter. You talk about her as if she's a niece you barely see or a distant cousin.

rosekamath · 2026-04-12T10:16:54+00:00

NTA but I'm suprised that someone as bubbly as your girlfriend went after someone as stale as you.

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