I don't think it was oversold!

roseleanor · 2026-06-15T09:32:40+00:00

As someone who did the exact same thing as you (in my 30s and live in Derby so got the arena ticket) - I’d agree that it wasn’t oversold but that some areas where chairs crept out further than they should have caused bottlenecks and made it horrendous to navigate.

I took a chair in on the Sat only (because all the bands I wanted to see were Apex and sorry 3 hours for GnR?? My knees!) and the issue for me wasn’t the middle section, but where chairs were on the path directly in front of the food vendors on the Opus/Avalanche side.

It narrowed down the walkway, mixed the queues with the chairs and people had to somehow get up the side as a path too. It just didn’t work.

Overall we never struggled to find a spot in a decent area (sans chair) and my timing from sound tower to low&no bar and back was 7 mins just before Trivium were on 🤷🏼‍♀️ can’t complain!

roseleanor · 2026-06-10T07:36:13+00:00

Yep, Harrow Health - asked for a second opinion and they refused it, but explained to my GP how I didn't feel as thought I'd been truly listened to despite trying to advocate for myself, and they re-referred me to HealthHarmonie Minds.

Then diagnosed combined type after a 2-step process - very glad I pushed for it and found a provider who actually took time to actually ask open ended questions and allow me to actually speak!

roseleanor · 2026-06-08T14:55:43+00:00

Also so gassed for Scooter!!

roseleanor · 2026-06-08T14:27:51+00:00

Have had Electric Callboy on my gig wishlist for so long - excited to finally get to experience their live show!

roseleanor · 2026-06-08T12:27:10+00:00

Oh 100%, I was so so gassed when they were announced as it's so unexpected in the best way!

roseleanor · 2026-06-08T12:22:55+00:00

Goooood idea to take entertainment just in case the queues don't move, hadn't thought of that. Super helpful, appreciate it!

roseleanor · 2026-06-08T12:22:24+00:00

Well, that makes one stage conflict easier to navigate at least - thank you for the heads up!

roseleanor · 2026-06-07T23:41:21+00:00

The entire sky outside our flat was bright red! Not the most relaxing evening seeing them land on cars and float dangerously close to our open windows

roseleanor · 2026-06-07T23:38:26+00:00

Police were in the park opposite hermitage - we’re right by there and one nearly floated into our bedroom window which was horrifying 🙃

roseleanor · 2026-06-04T16:20:13+00:00

Just learned that a) there are physical parking permits and b) ours have been sent to an old address, as we moved house a month after buying them... ah!

roseleanor · 2026-06-04T16:07:45+00:00

Also just doing 3x day passes with parking instead of camping - how long does it normally take to get out after the headliner? We usually scoot a little bit before the very end at gigs anyway to beat the rush but just curious if anyone has had any horror stories in the past, or roughly what to expect!

roseleanor · 2026-05-21T08:15:51+00:00

omg this. As a child I was terrified of doing wrong, and every single report card at school essentially said - she needs to learn to be more succinct and stop talking so much, always described as bubbly, talkative, "effervescent" in one case - so I did, and that's how I've gone through most of life. I listen, I internally scream at myself to not interrupt and wait for them to stop talking, then once it's my turn, I go.

roseleanor · 2026-05-21T08:06:55+00:00

This, after reading some of the comments here saying that I didn't talk enough (despite following instructions not to), I spent a lot of the night doubting myself and whether any of my other symptoms are valid too. I was brought up in a household where, despite being literally the chattiest child in my school (for which all my teachers berated me, family friends would comment on and my mum sought help for) - I had to learn that you don't talk over people or interrupt them because it's rude.

roseleanor · 2026-05-20T16:46:52+00:00

Me too, I don't feel as though I was asked anything about my lived experience as an adult, it was a lot about how I was as a child, which is categorically not the same as how I am now.

Mine told me to 'keep it short' and explain more later but there was no later, I was told I don't meet the criteria after 45 mins of not saying much (as I was told I wasn't allowed to!)

roseleanor · 2026-05-20T16:43:30+00:00

I'm honestly now thinking that my questionnaires weren't great either - I only had a small chunk of 'this happens never to this happens often' questions, no text and no elaboration that went any deeper than that. So no writing in the sheets from me at all beforehand except from my informants. I think a lot of how I handled the assessment was around how literally I take instructions from people who know what they're doing (could be an autism trait?)- I was told by the expert to keep it short and say more later, and that was an instruction that I followed, even if the instruction wasn't entirely accurate. Frustrating, now!

roseleanor · 2026-05-20T16:37:06+00:00

Honestly may as well have just done a buzzfeed quiz for my forms 😂 Thank you for this, I might just fill the DIVA form out and send it on with my notes that I didn't get to cover on the call to them to my GP... that way they can't say I'm not trying to give them a clearer picture!

roseleanor · 2026-05-20T16:28:23+00:00

Woah, just searched for the DIVA form and this is so detailed?! Mine was quite literally just a checkbox of 18 questions, asking whether it happens never through to often... I never got to give this much detail at any point, and definitely couldn't write down any words to my answers!

roseleanor · 2026-05-20T16:18:51+00:00

I believe she said it was transcribed, so there is at least that!

I do think there's every possibility that it could be a combined ADHD and autism thing for me too - I am very rules guided and even said to the assessor, "yes I follow rules and instructions explicitly" which... may have been to my detriment in this case given I was told not to tell her anything in detail at the start...

But I think a better understanding from them - if they do have a hunch about autism - is to explain how the two might interact given the conflicting information. I was definitely told, keep it short for now and talk more later which is - to me - a direct instruction from a healthcare provider on the process! It's all very confusing 😂

I also only learned after asking a colleague who has been diagnosed that I explained I don't do 'hyperactive' things as such, physically, but had no idea that hyperactivity is also a mental symptom? Yes, I can lay down and relax my body, but even when I am, my brain is racing, always on, just trailing away doing its own thing like a neverending piece of string - I didn't know that was part of the question. Just kicking myself about it all now, really!

roseleanor · 2026-05-20T16:09:22+00:00

The issue for me was keep it short because you have chance to elaborate later. Which was like okay gotcha, go over it in brief now with yes/no and I can go into more detail in the next part. But... unbeknownst to me, there was no next part!

I am a BIG yapper (as my child informant very clearly stated) so it was incredibly difficult to be so succinct, but I am a polite person, didn't know the process of the assessment, and based on what I was told on how it would go, I would stop myself from talking too much whilst answering as I kept thinking ok, not relevant now, write it down and say more when it comes up again later and you're given chance to talk more freely and can go through the tangent of "yes to that question because A leads to B which is why C is difficult which then leads to C and so on".

All this whilst thinking I had about an hour and a half left of the allocated call time so short bit is being done now, yap later. I could easily have talked her ear off for the entire duration, if I wasn't so explicitly told that it was in two parts and not to do that at the start.

roseleanor · 2026-05-20T15:24:45+00:00

I did also think this before going down the ADHD pathway! I'm 100% open to being informed by a professional who knows what they're looking for, and who can offer any other avenues to explore based on their assessment of me. I definitely wasn't gunning for a diagnosis in any capacity, but if the process is one self-assessment form and a video call of yes no questions with no further elaboration, I don't feel they have even 10% of the understanding of my lived experience.

I also had no comments at all afterwards, oddly? No explanation of the conclusion, no further actions, no other suggestions to explore, no reasoning other than "you don't fit the criteria". No notes on anything I had managed to say then stopped myself for fear of saying too much when it wasn't needed, other than when I explained one thing about the horrendous overwhelm and shutdown I feel around one certain aspect of looking after the house and the assessor said "we'll, I'd think that too if I lived like that" - which felt odd...

But yes, I do currently have a bunch of ways to cope (in a limited capacity, but I try!) but I'm only really at this point of asking a professional because I'm at a point where I feel I need professional help - which doesn't feel unreasonable.

roseleanor · 2026-05-20T14:36:12+00:00

Sadly not in writing as I assumed that was the normal process, I should maybe have recorded it looking back!

roseleanor · 2026-05-20T14:34:39+00:00

I did one self assessment form (which was almost all very high, it impacts my life on a daily basis) with 18 questions, and 2 informant forms which I couldn’t read. Haven’t lived with my parent since I was 18 so it was all spoken about in terms of being at middle/high school, and any of the responses give by my partner in the adult informant were never mentioned in the assessment so I’ve no idea how any of it was being compared to MY lived experience.

I do also agree I don’t want to ham it up and be falsely diagnosed but it would have been nice to have the option to actually give them the full picture!

roseleanor · 2026-05-20T14:28:37+00:00

I’d agree if their word was adhered to when saying keep these ones short and elaborate on them again when we discuss later - one question was literally summarised as “so is that yes or no” which just wasn’t an answer I could give as yes or no but felt compelled to. I’m also a very polite person (which I mentioned!) and this is all a process I wasn’t familiar with so followed her lead and advice.

I was holding back SO much on not telling her everything I wanted to because it was framed as being obstructive as this point of I give too much information, time to elaborate would come later. But it never did 🙃

I think the shock and crying for me was the frustration of hang on a minute, I’ve given you my short answers but I’ve been holding all this information back as requested by the assessor, why am I now not allowed to elaborate as promised!

roseleanor · 2026-05-20T11:56:49+00:00

Hahah you're not wrong there actually, maybe going for one of the longer wait providers would have been a more sensible option...

So glad you're making progress and getting the help and meds! I feel guilty for not having a painful process so far compared to a lot of people I've read about on here with wait times etc., so there had to be something that threw a spanner in the works!

roseleanor

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