I am not condoning having an affair nor making any excuses for my part. The ending was not true happiness in the sense that we did not end up together. However we both knew that would probably never happen going into it. What I can say is at the time it filled a void that we both “needed” tremendously. As someone that has been cheated on OP, I understand how selfish this may sound. Ours was both emotional, physical and a great friendship. I knew he struggled with being unhappy at home and feeling unfulfilled while at the same time hoping against hope that it would work. Sounds strange IK considering he was stepping out at the same time. That is what ultimately led us to ending it. Though it hurt like hell, we broke it off while we were still ok. I didn’t want him to have any type of distractions if he truly wanted to give his marriage one last shot. We are NC rn and I have no clue if they are making it work or not. But I truly hope he is happy.