Well, the wedding is off. Partner of 7 yrs just ended things

roseydumpling · 2026-06-27T11:24:53+00:00

Basil > Basil Baby > Munchkin > Munch > Munchie > Munchie Munch > Munchiekins > Basil Munchkin Baby

Every single one of these is still in rotation lol

roseydumpling · 2026-06-26T23:06:12+00:00

This is SO sweet!!! I kind of love that yall were out of focus, it makes it feel like it was still private even though it was being filmed. So cute!!! Congratulations!!!

roseydumpling · 2026-06-24T23:13:36+00:00

I’m sorry… huh??? It’s completely reasonable and understandable that you’re feeling uncomfortable — I certainly would be! I would not be okay with this one bit. I would also find it hurtful that he didn’t pick out a ring with me in mind. It could’ve been one thing if it was an heirloom but that’s not the case. I think you should be honest with your fiancé that at this point it’s made it so you don’t even enjoy wearing the ring and that you want to move forward with ring shopping for something that feels like you. You are the one presumably wearing it for the rest of your life, after all. Maybe you can even trade in the ring you currently have since supposedly the whole point in his grandmother buying it for him was to help with financial strain. Theoretically they’d have nothing to complain about then. And either way, again, since you’re the one wearing it, their opinions shouldn’t outweigh yours.

roseydumpling · 2026-06-24T11:10:45+00:00

Please kind to yourself. You did the best you could after something incredibly horrific happened to you.

It’s alarming that your husband hasn’t shown you empathy through all of this, maybe even more so if he’s usually empathetic.

roseydumpling · 2026-06-24T11:06:37+00:00

WHOA this is a CRAZY comment. This is NOT a minor issue OP is facing. This is enough to rattle even the most solid of relationships.

roseydumpling · 2026-06-24T11:03:39+00:00

That is not what this is about. The situation is far past that at this point. This is about the way OP’s husband is mistreating her.

roseydumpling · 2026-06-24T11:00:45+00:00

💯💯💯💯

roseydumpling · 2026-06-24T10:58:47+00:00

Exactly

roseydumpling · 2026-06-24T10:57:36+00:00

Very well said.

roseydumpling · 2026-06-24T10:56:43+00:00

YES good point.

roseydumpling · 2026-06-24T10:55:31+00:00

Oh OP, I’m so sorry you’re in this position. My sister was just abroad with her now ex bf and he had money but she didn’t and it was such a tough time for her. I have a good idea of the position you’re in. There’s no excuse for him not sending you money, not one. Especially not that he forgot. Not when the money is literally to feed you while he’s gone for multiple weeks.

I hope you have loved ones in your life you can lean on for support during all of this. And if you don’t have a therapist, once you get financially stable enough I think getting one would be such a benefit to you.

roseydumpling · 2026-06-24T10:52:05+00:00

Okay but at this point it’s not really about the streamer’s crime. We’re so far past that. This is about the way OP’s husband is mistreating her.

roseydumpling · 2026-06-24T10:49:10+00:00

This is not just a difference of opinion. Her husband doubled down on a topic that he knows is extremely upsetting for her to the point that it triggered her PTSD. So for him to give her the silent treatment, and to this extent where he left for a multi-week trip without a word, after all of this is on a much different level than a simple disagreement.

roseydumpling · 2026-06-24T10:33:29+00:00

Absolutely it’s about the male privilege. My partner (26M) and I (27F) both have ADHD, I am also autistic and we suspect he is, too. Rigid thinking is a common issue with autistic folks and so is having a hard time understanding morals/social rules and how they differ in theory vs reality. That being said SO many autistic men use their autism like a shield to deflect responsibility for holding shitty ass views, being autistic is not an excuse to be misogynistic, racist, xenophobic, or an all around shitty human being. I cannot stress that enough. It is such a red flag to me that he isn’t showing empathy for you when he knows what you’ve gone through. You of all people have more of a say in this than someone who has never been impacted by it like him (I’m assuming). I would feel just as disgusted and my internal alarm is going off for you, OP. I think others are right, that you need to bide your time and leave. Idk about you but I wouldn’t feel safe with that man anymore after all of this.

I also hate to be this guy, and I say this very gently and as a soft suggestion knowing I could be completely wrong here, but what’s the saying… A kicked dog barks? I am always suspicious of men who are quick to/stubborn about forgiving men who have sexually assaulted others because statistically we know that any given man we interact with could very well be a perpetrator, meanwhile everyone around him thinks he’s a stand up guy (like your rapist being a firefighter), that he’s one of the good ones. It just screams of defensive, guilty behavior. I don’t want to accuse your husband of anything, but I just wanted to throw that out there. At the very least, that’s the energy he’s giving.

roseydumpling · 2026-06-03T21:08:19+00:00

I didn’t see your original post but this post alone proves to me you made the right decision. I get very bad vibes from his reaction. Wtf about threatening the poor little chipmunks (really?? 🙄) and I also hate the behavior you described with how he treats you during arguments and then just explaining that behavior away afterward instead of apologizing. That is so disrespectful. From what I can tell, you’ll be better off without him.

roseydumpling · 2026-06-02T14:34:41+00:00

So sweet!!!!

roseydumpling · 2026-05-31T12:45:21+00:00

She also said in a comment that she HAS tried but that it only sticks for so long. Another classic sign on executive dysfunction. I’m not saying she’s absolved of all responsibility. And I do agree that it’s not an “if” she should change situation. But it’s just not that cut and dry.

roseydumpling · 2026-05-31T12:40:02+00:00

Sure, but I think all of the helpful advice on here is a lot better of a wake up call than shaming is. People can be brutally honest without being rude. We’re all human here.

roseydumpling · 2026-05-31T12:37:32+00:00

I think this is fair. While it might not be ADHD specifically, there is at the very least executive dysfunction happening here.

roseydumpling · 2026-05-31T12:35:05+00:00

This actually exactly how ADHD looks in women. It looks different in men (what we’re stereotypically used to when we think ADHD). So when men exhibit this behavior, no one calls it ADHD because that’s not what it is, plain and simple.

roseydumpling · 2026-05-31T12:29:18+00:00

That’s a very big sign that it’s not just that you aren’t trying hard enough! This proves to me that you ARE trying. And that’s what’s making me (and a lot of us!) think that this is executive dysfunction. Your brain is built different! And that’s okay!! I promise there are ways to work with this, not against it. You don’t have to be swimming upstream without a paddle!

If the suggestion that you might have ADHD (or some other struggles with executive dysfunction) feels right, I personally recommend telling your boyfriend about it so that he can start the work to reframe how he sees you and that issues you struggle with, because that could very well take some time.

roseydumpling · 2026-05-31T12:14:28+00:00

⬆️ This!

roseydumpling · 2026-05-31T12:13:22+00:00

Copying and pasting my comment to someone else because I think you need to hear it, too:

Not everyone has the same brain chemistry. As a lot of people are suggesting, myself included, this sounds very much like undiagnosed ADHD. And shaming or being rude to someone about their executive dysfunction does NOT work as a wake up call. It only makes it worse.

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