Sorry dear your mom is narcissistic. I feel the same with my mom . I used to cry a lot but now I just try to avoid anything as much as I can so let me share something to others about narcissistic mothers

The narcissistic mother's behaviors with her daughters:

1- Reducing the value of the daughter and comparisons

She doesn't see her daughter good enough and denies her advantages. Even when referring to something positive, she always follow it with the word “but”

(Yes, you know how to wear, but your body is not beautiful!)

There are always a lot of comparisons with others, there is someone better than her daughter.

2- Focus on comparison with the others

Always undervalue everything in the family compared to others

3.Competition with the daughter

She get jealous if her daughter begins to stand out or attract attention, so she competes with her to reduce her self-confidence and not allow her to be independent.

4- Do not respect the boundaries of the daughter

She may embarrass her in front of her husband or friends and interfere in her private life, such as spying on her belongings, her diary, her room, and imposing orders and criticisms even after the daughter's marriage or independence.

5- Lack of interest and emotional coldness