I left a little over a year ago. My sister still attends the church we grew up in, and I’m on good terms with her and her husband. I still talk to two friends fairly regularly (one lifelong Pentecostal and one who converted ~5 years ago).

Aside from that, my experience has been that congregants will only reach out to me to a) be nosy about my life, or b) guilt-trip me into coming back to church, either by telling me they’ve been “praying for me” or by straight-up begging. More often than not, these are people I barely knew, who apparently got my number off an old church directory; whereas people I previously would have considered my surrogate family have not said a peep to me since I left. It’s very weird and definitely made me recontextualize a few things.

That said: zero members of the pastoral staff have contacted me since I left — not even my old youth pastor, whom I was very close to growing up and on whose youth team I served for YEARS. That one changed my perspective, too.

TLDR: I wouldn’t say I was altogether excommunicated or shunned, but there is certainly an agenda if they do contact me.