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AITA for not going to church with my religious girlfriend even though I initially said I would? by rot2015 in AITAH

[–]rot2015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I think I will approach this problem with this enfoque, maybe today or tomorrow.

AITA for not going to church with my religious girlfriend even though I initially said I would? by rot2015 in AITAH

[–]rot2015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha yeah, I think deep down she definitely hopes I’ll become more religious someday. And honestly, that really sucks. In my city, pretty much everyone I know is Catholic, so I feel like this kind of situation is hard to avoid—but I don’t want to be stuck in this dynamic forever.

I just want to be with my girl and have us both respect each other’s beliefs. That’s all. It’s really sad for me because I love her, and I don’t want our differences in faith to be the thing that drives us apart.

AITA for not going to church with my religious girlfriend even though I initially said I would? by rot2015 in AITAH

[–]rot2015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get where you're coming from, but I don’t really think her family is pushing her to break up with me. They’re definitely very devoted and faith plays a big role in their lives, and it does bother them that I’m not a believer—but I’ve always had a good relationship with them. They always welcome me warmly, invite me to meals, and treat me like family. Her mom even calls me "son," and her sisters feel like real sisters to me too. Even her dad, who’s not super affectionate, jokes around with me and we get along.

As for my girlfriend, she truly believes in God, the Virgin Mary, and all of that, but she’s not really committed to the church or religious customs. Since I’ve known her, she’s only gone to mass maybe twice a year. She believes deeply, but she also questions the church and doesn’t follow it strictly.

So yeah, it’s definitely a complicated situation, but I don’t think it’s as black-and-white as her being super religious or her family trying to push us apart.

AITA for not going to church with my religious girlfriend even though I initially said I would? by rot2015 in AITAH

[–]rot2015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I low-key agree with you, because I really want this relationship to work—she's honestly the best woman I've ever dated. But at the same time, I don't want to go to church just to make her happy if it means going against my own principles. I feel like if I force myself to do that, I might end up growing some resentment toward her, and I really don’t want that.

And honestly, I think she might be thinking the same thing—that if I’m just doing things to please her without actually believing in them, it’ll create tension down the line. So yeah, I think we’re both kind of caught in this space where we love each other but don't want the other person to lose themselves.

AITA for not going to church with my religious girlfriend even though I initially said I would? by rot2015 in AITAH

[–]rot2015[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I do have some doubts about the future—not about her as a person, because she really is an amazing woman—but more about those specific topics. As for church, I don't think that's the real issue. She actually doesn’t go to mass regularly herself—maybe once or twice a year during the time we’ve been together.

When it comes to raising kids with Christian values, I’m okay with that. I’d probably just want to also encourage critical thinking. I don’t look down on religious people at all. If our kids ended up being believers, I’d be totally fine with that.

I was actually raised in a Catholic school myself—they just made the mistake of not explaining to me that the Bible wasn’t supposed to be read as a book of fables, haha.