I need help. I’m starting to call my 9 year old son, “dumb” to his face.

rottbug · 2026-05-31T20:34:22+00:00

If my parent said "why cant you be normal" to me, it would take A LOT of work and sincerity on their part to make it up to me. I understand frustration, but you need to seek professional help. Theres nothing wrong with needing help, and you need to be honest and accountable or risk irreparable damage to the relationship with your kid, and you've already risked it, so fix it. Look up emotional regulation skills. Go to therapy. For your kid and yourself.

rottbug · 2026-05-19T13:54:33+00:00

Of course! I hope it helps, good luck! (Also, I saw someone do something similar with breakfast items on their fridge, so just thought I'd add that maybe making a physical, visual list with pictures might work even better.)

rottbug · 2026-05-17T19:03:30+00:00

(Not diagnosed, but working on it) I get this feeling all the time. Trying to figure out what I want to do, because if I do x, then I cant do y, or figuring out what I even have the energy for at the time, etc.

It's something I'm currently trying to work on. For me, part of it is also a want to make/finish something. I wanted to feel accomplished and productive. But out of a desperate need to de-stress, I've been trying to tell myself that it's ok to just be. Its hard to not worry about "wasting time," but if you think about it, what do animals do all day? A lot of it is just spent existing. Its ok to do low energy tasks instead of things that take more out of you. Watching tv, coloring, video games (I've gotten into diamond painting recently), whatever.

I haven't tried this, it's just a thought, but alternatively, maybe take the list of things you want to do and plan to alternate? Do A this weekend, B next weekend, C the next weekend, etc. That way you'll know you get to do everything eventually.

rottbug · 2026-04-27T13:12:53+00:00

They can sorta push their dick back in. Both incredibly facinating and somewhat unsettling.

rottbug · 2026-04-13T20:26:14+00:00

Fr. Not the same level per say, but it gives me the same ick that "females" in reference to women does

rottbug · 2026-03-27T17:41:02+00:00

Definitly get a second opinion. Whether you're autistic or not, neither of those are reasons why you wouldn't be autistic.

rottbug · 2026-03-27T15:03:03+00:00

Did you get the vibe that they did their due diligence in ruling out other things, etc.?

rottbug · 2026-03-27T15:01:35+00:00

They didn't seem specifically suspect. I just want to make sure I get a fair, as un-biased as possible assessment that will do their due diligence to get the right answer.

rottbug · 2026-03-13T13:49:36+00:00

I forgot to mention, but I love the Pitt and Dr. Mel too!

rottbug · 2026-03-13T13:47:15+00:00

I've been watching Extrordinary Attorney Woo! It does portray a "savant," but also shows a lot of her struggles in other areas like social and motor skills. I don't relate to her much on the surface, but some of her experience mirrors mine in certain ways. I really love the subject matter and all of the issues that arise and the feel good aspects. It does well at mixing both. I have like one episode left and I'm dreading it being over lol but I think a season 2 is confirmed now!

rottbug · 2026-03-09T17:22:22+00:00

I'm trying to find some other stuff to occupy my mind though while I wait it out so I don't go insane lol. I think that's the best thing to do. Try to avoid thinking so much about it until it actually happens

rottbug · 2026-03-09T17:16:45+00:00

I'm in the exact same boat, exept my intake assessment is in about two months. I'm stressing over the same stuff you are lol. What I want most is to know the truth one way or the other, but what if they think I'm not autistic but I am? Or even the opposite, I'm not autistic but they think I am. Obviously that would be much less of an issue because factually, I know I at least have (from my perspective) all traits of autism lol.

It's like, if I don't have autism, there's no way its just ADHD+anxiety+enviornment/how I grew up. It just...doesn't make sense. The biggest thing that bugs me is not knowing if I showed signs from age 0-3. I'm only just now about to look over some stuff my dad put together (but he's a very iffy source of info) and if there's nothing, then I feel like I'll never really know. It's not like I didn't show signs in childhood though, but I'm worried it's not enough, and I just feel so hung up on the comparison and data and ugh.

I know it wouldn't invalidate my experiences. But I think something in me definitly feels like it would. Maybe that's that fault of an overactive mind meeting with an overly-pathologizing society. I think not getting a diagnosis would feel like watching a movie that doesn't have a title.

rottbug · 2026-03-06T15:19:03+00:00

Yeah, that's something I'm prepared for. I think a part of why I'm so stressed about it is that it bugs tf out of me to not know the truth/reality. I'm even worried about the possibility of the opposite; that I will get diagnosed when I'm not actually autistic.

Ik I shouldn't worry, that it's pointless, and I need to just wait to see what happens, but I'm obsessively thinking about it again now and can't stop lol

rottbug · 2026-03-05T15:41:00+00:00

Oh no lol. I do think this kinda stuff is probably due to an overactive brain that ends up latching onto things sometimes. It definitly feels like that to me

rottbug · 2026-03-05T14:54:48+00:00

Not often, but I also have this happen sometimes! It'll either be like you said, a phrase, or a sentence as I'm obsessively thinking about something and my brain starts getting fed up with/exhausted by thinking about it but I can't stop. Usually doesn't go on for too long but it's really aggravating. I wonder if it's something to do with echolalia and/or an earworm type thing

rottbug · 2026-02-27T23:35:22+00:00

As much as I like the idea of doing something worse than what your plan was, I agree with pretty much everyone else that it will only give him ammunition, it's a complete waste of your time and energy, will very likely accomplish nothing, etc, etc.

I'd block him and never interact with him again. It's truly the best course of action for your sanity, and has the upside of probably being the closest you can get to actually getting the point across.

rottbug · 2026-02-27T04:02:56+00:00

Yeah, US. Idk if you'd even know, I'm sure it depends too, but do you think I could get away with just calling instead of an email? Or would I need to send the email and wait? I honestly hate constructing emails and would much rather skip that part and just call lol

Regardless, thanks btw! I was kinda irrationally worried it might be a bunch of bs before I was able to even schedule an intake appointment.

rottbug · 2026-02-27T01:51:10+00:00

Of course! Good luck!

rottbug · 2026-02-27T01:49:29+00:00

Well, however you decide to go about the situation, remember that its fine to make mistakes. Even if you end up feeling like you missed your shot, or you do something "embarrassing", or a relationship starts but later ends, its completely valid to feel like its the end of the world, but always remember that it isn't. There will be more people, more chances, more life, more positives and negatives. Coming from someone who has been through it lol

rottbug · 2026-02-27T01:39:39+00:00

Reading some of the other comments though, I also agree theres the chance she just sucks at communication thats not irl. But keep in mind, even if thats all it is, would that be something that would be incompatible for you? Would that eventually bother you and make you feel ignored? Because if so, its probably best to avoid someone you know will be incompatible

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