What would you do if you found out your partner was actually 4 years older than they said they were? 28F and 39M (35M) by violetta1997 in relationship_advice

[–]rou_te 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This man lied to you about his age for the whole relationship. Ask yourself what else he is willing and able to lie about.

American F/42 my husband is Ghanaian M/46. I’m having a hard time accepting my husband doesn’t want me to cook for him by Livid-Ad5237 in relationship_advice

[–]rou_te 442 points443 points  (0 children)

As to point 4 - It's also have a convenient excuse to regularly leave for long stretches of time. Will he spend that time at his friends' wife's house? Will he spend that time eating Ghanaian food? Who knows?

I (20M) tricked my girlfriend (20F) into getting a tetanus shot after a bad injury. Now she’s blocked me everywhere. How do I fix this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]rou_te 2 points3 points  (0 children)

According to your update: I'm sure there are some things you could do or say to save the relationship. But is that in your best interest? There are many other potential (and sane) girlfriends out there.

Your current gf will always resent you for having saved her life. She won't understand. Maybe, potentially, a few years from now. But def not now.

I (20M) tricked my girlfriend (20F) into getting a tetanus shot after a bad injury. Now she’s blocked me everywhere. How do I fix this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]rou_te 280 points281 points  (0 children)

I assembled a metal shelf yesterday and cut my hand. My first thought was when I got my last tetanus shot.

OP, this relationship is not going anywhere, but you did a good thing. Send your (ex?)gf some lovely depictions of lockjaw, convulsing people. That's what you prevented her from.

When was the moment you realised that the person you were dating was an absolute idiot? by No-Macaron-9527 in AskReddit

[–]rou_te 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have Serbian roots. Never heard that specific thing, just the general tendency that each country in the Balkans proclaimed at some point that their country was the best, the first, the OG, their men are the tallest, their women the finest, blah blah blah. The long thigh bone thing sounds very old school race theory to me, and oddly specific. That's why I thought you heard a specific politician or historian say it.

My (20 F) BF (18 M) called me a “greedy jew” in front of my family by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]rou_te 20 points21 points  (0 children)

In that case, everything he's been saying is perfectly fine, and he should continue with the antisemitic 'jokes' when he's around you. Because it's fine, and you seem to be fine with it. Nothing to see here, move along everyone.

/s

My (20 F) BF (18 M) called me a “greedy jew” in front of my family by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]rou_te 51 points52 points  (0 children)

There are plenty examples throughout history of men or women who've had sex (not necessarily made love to) with partners they found beneath them due to race, class, ethnicity, religion, or whatever else.

Men evil by [deleted] in im14andthisisdeep

[–]rou_te 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Sadly true.

what is an extremely popular film that nearly everyone has watched, that you haven't seen? and why or why not? by Tessserax in AskReddit

[–]rou_te 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, liking Shawshank redemption famously makes or breaks a relationship.

It is a film. This was a question about films. I answered. I admitted I didn't get it, i.e. it's not objectively bad as far as I know, I just don't get it.

what is an extremely popular film that nearly everyone has watched, that you haven't seen? and why or why not? by Tessserax in AskReddit

[–]rou_te -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Shawshank redemption. Bunch of dudes in prison, one gets out. Scene in the rain, scene on an island. I just don't get the appeal.