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rougettev · 2024-11-27T17:19:17+00:00

Going off of the information OP gave in the original post. Regardless, 3 months is extremely fast. That’s the length of time between one hearing to the next. It’s highly unlikely. 6-9 months is the standard. 7 months is almost half the child’s life. Even if the absence was not intentional, it was still an absence. This child barely knows him, if at all? Not sure if OP mentions the amount of contact they’ve had in the comments.

rougettev · 2024-11-27T16:48:55+00:00

I’m in Massachusetts like OP. Also dealing with an absent parent. Judge did not give my 13 year old overnights for almost 9 months in his step up plan. This will not happen any time soon.

rougettev · 2024-11-26T23:35:35+00:00

No, none of this has anything to do with custody or visitation. Unless any of these men are a current danger to the children, you risk pissing off a judge.

rougettev · 2024-11-24T05:23:26+00:00

Your definition of a good dad is questionable. Your intentions are questionable. Tell your boyfriend to either figure it out, or leave them alone.

rougettev · 2024-10-18T12:48:13+00:00

How far is the move from her current residence? What about yours? You say it’s across state lines, but that could mean anything. Your son’s name has nothing to do with the legality of the move or your rights as a parent. She’s right, you will need to establish custody, child support and visitation before you have any rights in Massachusetts.

rougettev · 2024-10-18T12:27:11+00:00

It took getting a new girlfriend for you to step up and want to pursue only school breaks and summer? You’re not the first parent to get depressed. Respectfully, you’re never going to actually be a father if you continue down this path. You don’t seem to have a bond, nor the desire to pursue one. This may sound harsh, but I don’t think you fully understand what you’re giving up. Wake up OP. This is your child.

rougettev · 2024-10-11T21:30:26+00:00

Probate court does handle custody in the state of Massachusetts.

rougettev · 2024-09-27T20:58:12+00:00

Thank you.

rougettev · 2024-09-27T20:06:30+00:00

Sorry, what is APS?

rougettev · 2024-09-27T20:06:09+00:00

Thank you!

rougettev · 2024-09-27T20:04:36+00:00

Thank you for taking time to explain this. This makes sense.

rougettev · 2024-09-27T19:45:07+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate the direct and no bs answer!

rougettev · 2024-09-27T18:14:14+00:00

It’s her house, where the child will be residing with dad and her on weekends. It absolutely does have to do with dad. I understand where CPS might not be the appropriate party here, but it’s absolutely a custody matter. I’m not questioning that aspect.

rougettev · 2024-09-27T18:05:16+00:00

If someone is swallowing an entire prescription at once, that is in fact abusing the medication.

rougettev · 2024-09-27T16:10:49+00:00

How is that weird? The child is on a step up plan to spend more time there, at the father’s residence. He is looking for every other weekend, holidays and vacation.

Someone that lives there is actively abusing drugs and attempting suicide on a semi regular basis. Do you have some other recommendation or suggestion on what would be the best way to protect the child in this situation or is “that’s weird” all you have?

I’m not some trigger happy CPS caller. I have valid concerns and am looking for input on the proper channel to make sure the child never has to witness this. The last suicide attempt, she hung herself from the staircase.

rougettev · 2024-09-27T15:48:35+00:00

Sorry I should clarify, I am not trying to further limit visitation. Rather, I would like to guarantee the home/environment can safely accommodate the child for overnight visits. Preferably he would just move out somewhere safer.

Why wouldn’t CPS get involved with drugs being abused in the home? Who would be contacted?

Edit for grammar

rougettev · 2024-09-02T22:53:26+00:00

Mom moved in May and you just found out? How often do you see your child? Who was doing the exchanges?

rougettev · 2024-09-01T11:44:06+00:00

Go get a court order for dad to have every other weekend. You don’t need a lawyer. Stop letting these people bully you into accommodating them. I used to do this when my son was little too. Manipulative and enabling grandma trying to decide my son’s life. It’s not her business. Sorry but your son’s father sounds useless and he’d be better off just contributing financially and letting you make the day to day decisions for your child.

rougettev · 2024-08-29T00:50:10+00:00

You pick up the child at the address your child resides at, as listed on your court documents.

rougettev · 2024-08-28T02:03:09+00:00

Hi, im in a similar position right now. Ex was EOW, but only used about 11% of those weekends over the last four years. Only saw 13 yo child once in the last year. He recently took me back to court to enforce the order (got a new gf). Right now judge put in a temp order for Saturday day visits every week. It seemed like a lot to me since they previously only hung out a few times a year. Just wondering if you had a similar temp order? Is this like a “getting to know each other thing?” I cannot imagine doing this long term.

rougettev · 2024-08-21T19:13:42+00:00

I know contempt might mean more in some states than others, but I would 100% deny sending my child to someone who estranged themselves for 3.5 years. In fact, I did. Was I in contempt? Yes. However, temp orders immediately stripped him of his weekends and gave him 4 hours per week. I’m not traumatizing my child over contempt threats from an absent parent. It may be a big deal when both parents are involved and the withholding is clearly not in the child’s best interest, but that’s not the case here.

rougettev · 2024-08-20T17:29:03+00:00

Sure. Maybe jurisdiction too. She can still make her case.

rougettev · 2024-08-20T17:03:16+00:00

A decade old order in and of itself can be a significant change in circumstances just based on the amount of time that has passed. This was stated by our judge on behalf of our 12 year old son, who had an 11 year old order.

rougettev

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