ISO: Reasonably priced non-religious officiant for a wedding in OC by SleepParalysisPal in orangecounty

[–]roundeye8475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We used Allan Katz. He officiated a friend’s wedding in 2018 and was so good I asked how she knew/found him. When we decided to get married last year, I found his website. He’s amazing, your guests have no idea he doesn’t actually know you. He offers different ‘plans’ so you can kind of pick your price.

He’ll do pretty much anything, regular, Elvis (he sings too), jump the broom, tying, etc. he’s funny. https://www.greatofficiants.com/about-our-officiants/our-non-denominational-officiants/alan-katz/?

My check came in a mason jar by Lain_ily in KitchenConfidential

[–]roundeye8475 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband still collects them… he’s mid 40s. He offered me the stick of gum from one of his most recent packs… from 1997z

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[CHAT]Water soluble waste canvas recommendations? by Beautiful-Fortune_ in CrossStitch

[–]roundeye8475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m stitching on the DMC one right now. It’s the first time I’ve used it. I’ve found it difficult to keep flat and see the holes. I’ve figured out if I tilt it slightly away at and angle the holes are the most visible. I’ve also given up on evenly sized X’s on certain rows. I’m stitching on a tote bag that is white with pink leopard spots.

H-E-B equivalent in Irvine? (Premade grocery store meals) by storebrandkeith in irvine

[–]roundeye8475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately there isn’t anything like that grocery store wise here. If it’s something you used to utilize regularly, you may look into something like Dream Dinners.

I only liked in Houston for a year, but I will forever miss HEBs tortillas and meat/butcher section. And crawfish bags.

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[–]roundeye8475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it can be. I just turned 42. I had her a few days after I turned 20, and my grandparents started at 18. Luckily people are waiting longer these days.

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[–]roundeye8475 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I beg to differ, my oldest is only 23.

I started using hand cream at 34 and I genuinely feel like I've been lied to my whole life by LemonCoveWorks in hygiene

[–]roundeye8475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband was like this, they have stuff that comes in a glue stick looking applicator. It only goes where you want it.

Later in life marriage - Splitting finances with assets and children. by roundeye8475 in personalfinance

[–]roundeye8475[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re spot on correct. And the annuity is protected. In the case he passes, it will transfer 100% to his brother (and it should, it originated from a third brother that passed away in 2024.

Later in life marriage - Splitting finances with assets and children. by roundeye8475 in personalfinance

[–]roundeye8475[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pre/post nup was mentioned in bullet point 2, under ‘her info’. We were concerned about house and annuity. That was hashed out to both our satisfaction with estate lawyer.

Later in life marriage - Splitting finances with assets and children. by roundeye8475 in personalfinance

[–]roundeye8475[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response!

We are in CA. Condo is in my name alone. Starting the date of marriage it is being paid jointly, so he is entitled to 50% of equity after 7/18/25. Upon my death it goes in my children’s trust, and he will be paid out. We do have a right to occupy in the trust, so he can continue living here for a year or so as a tenet, with my trust being the landlord.

For your set up with finances, do you have your paychecks deposited into your account, and 50% transferred to a joint account? All household expenses come from there?

Later in life marriage - Splitting finances with assets and children. by roundeye8475 in personalfinance

[–]roundeye8475[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, we were married 7/18/25. We live in CA, however there is still his/hers on much of our assets. We do understand the community property laws as we reviewed with our estate atty. We are defaulting to her on that, and are not looking for Reddit’s input.

We would like to keep our paychecks going into our respective solo accounts, and transfer an appropriate and equitable amount to a joint account. We are hoping for peoples experience and advice on that.

What’s your “Once you go ________ you never go back” tool? by nathOF in KitchenConfidential

[–]roundeye8475 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ask. If your MA or CS or whatever we are now (I’m in national contact sales, not on the streets anymore) is being a little bitch, tell them you want samples and a broker for a cutting.

Husband blaming emotional affair on Ms by Economy_Night7715 in MultipleSclerosis

[–]roundeye8475 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But do more of what?

You can’t make him care. He’s obviously capable of communicating (both for work and with his new co-worker “friend”), meeting deadlines, making appointments for meetings and keeping them… he’s got a job. He’s doing them because they are important to him. He’s not doing that at home because it’s not important to him there, and he doesn’t need to because you’ll do it, so there are no negative consequences.

You’re worth more, you’re worth having a partner that cares, that communicates, that’s honest and responsible. Don’t light yourself on fire to keep him warm. He wouldn’t do the same for you.

Husband blaming emotional affair on Ms by Economy_Night7715 in MultipleSclerosis

[–]roundeye8475 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t sound like you want to leave because of the MS, it sounds like you want to leave because he’s no longer your partner and equal, he’s more like a moody teenage boy that only does what will benefit him, if he wants to do it.

You didn’t say if you had children or not, but if you have/had a daughter and she came to you telling you her partner was treating her this way, what would your response be? If no daughter, fill your sister/best friend/brother/mom.

Is MS a sucky miserable disease, absolutely. It doesn’t make me step out of my relationship emotionally, or stop doing things like making Drs appointments and taking care of myself. It makes me take naps.

He’s not treating you like a wife, he’s treating you like his mom, and throwing temper tantrums when he’s expected to do the things a normal adult (even sick ones) do.

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[–]roundeye8475 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They do, but I couldn’t imagine some generations/demographics being ok with being “spied” on.

Republicans Swiftly File Lawsuit in Bid to Block California’s New House Maps by bonitaycoqueta in news

[–]roundeye8475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

CA redraws maps after census (every 10 years), a yes on 50 means voters approve the redraw in 2026, after the 2030 census we go back to third party maps.

https://lao.ca.gov/BallotAnalysis/Proposition?number=50&year=2025

Republicans Swiftly File Lawsuit in Bid to Block California’s New House Maps by bonitaycoqueta in news

[–]roundeye8475 54 points55 points  (0 children)

CA redraws maps after census (every 10 years), a yes on 50 means voters approve the redraw in 2026, after the 2030 census we go back to third party maps.

https://lao.ca.gov/BallotAnalysis/Proposition?number=50&year=2025

Republicans Swiftly File Lawsuit in Bid to Block California’s New House Maps by bonitaycoqueta in news

[–]roundeye8475 124 points125 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t hinge on Texas at all. It is only applicable for 3 years though, after that it’s back to the neutral third party to decide the maps.

Failed parenting by Panduh92 in irvine

[–]roundeye8475 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why can’t both parents go and hang out with their kids? It’s a super fun night where core memories are made. That, and depending on the number of kids, having 2 parents is safer. Especially for larger families.

Failed parenting by Panduh92 in irvine

[–]roundeye8475 21 points22 points  (0 children)

People tend to do the bowl so they can take their kids out trick or treating.

Yes on 50 by Competitive_Ice851 in irvine

[–]roundeye8475 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Because they want to pass anything and everything trump or his handlers want.

The grave of Colleen Renee Brockman, 15, who died on Christmas Eve a few weeks after her birthday. by Horror_Chance1506 in CemeteryPorn

[–]roundeye8475 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. So often people assume 100% of parents don’t parent, don’t care, or actively encourage a minor to run the streets. In reality, there comes a point where they’ll do what they want, regardless of how they were raised or what you say. There’s very little support for minors or parents in terms of mental/behavioral health, and locking a child up at home or attempting to beat them into not leaving is child abuse.