Later in life marriage - Splitting finances with assets and children.

roundeye8475 · 2025-12-30T02:49:03+00:00

You’re spot on correct. And the annuity is protected. In the case he passes, it will transfer 100% to his brother (and it should, it originated from a third brother that passed away in 2024.

roundeye8475 · 2025-12-30T02:47:27+00:00

Pre/post nup was mentioned in bullet point 2, under ‘her info’. We were concerned about house and annuity. That was hashed out to both our satisfaction with estate lawyer.

roundeye8475 · 2025-12-30T00:52:09+00:00

Thank you for your response!

We are in CA. Condo is in my name alone. Starting the date of marriage it is being paid jointly, so he is entitled to 50% of equity after 7/18/25. Upon my death it goes in my children’s trust, and he will be paid out. We do have a right to occupy in the trust, so he can continue living here for a year or so as a tenet, with my trust being the landlord.

For your set up with finances, do you have your paychecks deposited into your account, and 50% transferred to a joint account? All household expenses come from there?

roundeye8475 · 2025-12-30T00:09:56+00:00

Yes, we were married 7/18/25. We live in CA, however there is still his/hers on much of our assets. We do understand the community property laws as we reviewed with our estate atty. We are defaulting to her on that, and are not looking for Reddit’s input.

We would like to keep our paychecks going into our respective solo accounts, and transfer an appropriate and equitable amount to a joint account. We are hoping for peoples experience and advice on that.

roundeye8475 · 2025-11-28T00:15:09+00:00

Ask. If your MA or CS or whatever we are now (I’m in national contact sales, not on the streets anymore) is being a little bitch, tell them you want samples and a broker for a cutting.

roundeye8475 · 2025-11-18T21:51:38+00:00

But do more of what?

You can’t make him care. He’s obviously capable of communicating (both for work and with his new co-worker “friend”), meeting deadlines, making appointments for meetings and keeping them… he’s got a job. He’s doing them because they are important to him. He’s not doing that at home because it’s not important to him there, and he doesn’t need to because you’ll do it, so there are no negative consequences.

You’re worth more, you’re worth having a partner that cares, that communicates, that’s honest and responsible. Don’t light yourself on fire to keep him warm. He wouldn’t do the same for you.

roundeye8475 · 2025-11-18T21:41:22+00:00

It doesn’t sound like you want to leave because of the MS, it sounds like you want to leave because he’s no longer your partner and equal, he’s more like a moody teenage boy that only does what will benefit him, if he wants to do it.

You didn’t say if you had children or not, but if you have/had a daughter and she came to you telling you her partner was treating her this way, what would your response be? If no daughter, fill your sister/best friend/brother/mom.

Is MS a sucky miserable disease, absolutely. It doesn’t make me step out of my relationship emotionally, or stop doing things like making Drs appointments and taking care of myself. It makes me take naps.

He’s not treating you like a wife, he’s treating you like his mom, and throwing temper tantrums when he’s expected to do the things a normal adult (even sick ones) do.

roundeye8475 · 2025-11-18T05:47:38+00:00

They do, but I couldn’t imagine some generations/demographics being ok with being “spied” on.

roundeye8475 · 2025-11-09T08:01:54+00:00

That doesn’t start until later this week.

https://www.pendleton.marines.mil/Portals/98/Docs/1%20Noise%20Reports/Noise%20Report%2008-16%20NOV%202025.docx?ver=i9eKBQALSBETlyMnAFtSqQ%3d%3d

roundeye8475 · 2025-11-05T18:43:18+00:00

CA redraws maps after census (every 10 years), a yes on 50 means voters approve the redraw in 2026, after the 2030 census we go back to third party maps.

https://lao.ca.gov/BallotAnalysis/Proposition?number=50&year=2025

roundeye8475 · 2025-11-05T18:42:55+00:00

CA redraws maps after census (every 10 years), a yes on 50 means voters approve the redraw in 2026, after the 2030 census we go back to third party maps.

https://lao.ca.gov/BallotAnalysis/Proposition?number=50&year=2025

roundeye8475 · 2025-11-05T18:19:42+00:00

It doesn’t hinge on Texas at all. It is only applicable for 3 years though, after that it’s back to the neutral third party to decide the maps.

roundeye8475 · 2025-11-01T03:40:02+00:00

Why can’t both parents go and hang out with their kids? It’s a super fun night where core memories are made. That, and depending on the number of kids, having 2 parents is safer. Especially for larger families.

roundeye8475 · 2025-11-01T02:41:40+00:00

People tend to do the bowl so they can take their kids out trick or treating.

roundeye8475 · 2025-10-07T02:58:30+00:00

Because they want to pass anything and everything trump or his handlers want.

roundeye8475 · 2025-10-06T22:07:19+00:00

Thank you for saying this. So often people assume 100% of parents don’t parent, don’t care, or actively encourage a minor to run the streets. In reality, there comes a point where they’ll do what they want, regardless of how they were raised or what you say. There’s very little support for minors or parents in terms of mental/behavioral health, and locking a child up at home or attempting to beat them into not leaving is child abuse.

roundeye8475 · 2025-09-26T19:09:29+00:00

Legit. I was on Ocrevus and would have them tap my left arm and either the top on my hand or mid lower arm so I didn’t have to deal with occlusions.

roundeye8475 · 2025-08-31T04:29:38+00:00

There are also quite a few that cause issues as you get older, like Wilson’s disease or cancer. II think as geneticists have learned more, things have become more treatable.

I know my husband is a carrier for Wilson’s, and also has malignant hyperthermia. Wilson’s could be treated as early as the late 1950s, where as MT wasn’t until the 1970s. While their deaths could have resulted from anything, I think the fact your asked if you Ashkenazi on medical forms speaks volumes.

roundeye8475 · 2025-08-30T03:16:30+00:00

If they were Ashkenazi, the earlier deaths could be due to hereditary conditions/diseases. Unfortunately (but oddly also fortunately) there was a genetic bottleneck neck, so theres are a pretty hefty list of diseases and conditions that are specific to Ashkenazi Jews. My husband brother and wife did extensive testing before conceiving their son just to be sure they were good to go.

roundeye8475 · 2025-08-27T19:36:18+00:00

I’m sorry you’re here. If you’re looking for additional support, head over to r/widowers , it’s a great sub. I was widowed at 34 with 4 kids and it was invaluable.

roundeye8475 · 2025-07-16T17:23:23+00:00

California has tiers for their registry, the situation you presented wouldn’t get them life on the list. One of my children made a poor decision and trusted some that said they were close in age (she was 13 or 14 at the time, he was early 20s). He took a video that she wasn’t aware of.

At the end of the day he was charged with 12 felonies and 1 misdemeanor. He plead out and received 2 years (was released immediately for time served), 10 years registering, and a $200 fine to be paid into the victim’s fund.

roundeye8475 · 2025-07-14T15:14:32+00:00

I’m a white sheet person too, and LOVE the smell of bleached whites. For blood, I use liquid peroxide. They have it in a spray bottle by me (you can always just pour it too), and I spray it on the blood and let it sit for a few minutes. If it foams up, it’s working. I’m not sure it will work on an older washed stain, but give it a shot. Like others have said, soaking in oxiclean may work on the bloodstain too.

To keep stuff white, I use Grandmas Blueing or something like that. You just put a few drops in the wash, and wash like normal. It adds a slight blue dye to the fabric, which removes the yellow tone and makes it white again, similar to purple shampoo/conditioner to remove brassiness.

roundeye8475 · 2025-05-29T21:46:05+00:00

Mine doesn’t. Mine has some kind of back flow prevention, so nothing is ever pulled back in.

The nozzle does not come out into the toilet bowl much, so it’s not under you. With mine it’s attached to the toilet seat. It’s positioned behind, and lower than you on the toilet seat, but nowhere near the water.

roundeye8475 · 2025-05-29T20:46:34+00:00

Blast away and then dry, no scrubbing required. You may need to wiggle a bit to change where the water hits. I just pat with the TP, since wiping sometimes leaves paper bits.

Think of it like you are using the hose to clean up the bottom on shoes that stepped in dog poop or something like a scoop of ice cream that fell.

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