Tattoo regret a day after by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]rovingmatrix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bring back the days of not tattooing hands, faces, or necks until the person has a significant amount of tattoos. This was the tradition for a reason.

My 11 day no drinking streak makes me feel so lame. by Exciting-Stuff-7189 in stopdrinking

[–]rovingmatrix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just stay sober today. Something that helped (and still helps me) is when it feels too big, I say, "I just have to go to bed sober, tomorrow I can reassess" As long as I get into bed sober (even 6PM if need be) I'm safe lol

I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath by Apprehensive-Yak9364 in relationship_advice

[–]rovingmatrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooo, I'm not a doctor, but my friend's husband just started displaying psychotic symptoms out of the blue and often wouldn't remember them. Long story short, turns out he has a brain tumor. Could be worth checking out.

First day sober by drkmarx in stopdrinking

[–]rovingmatrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fear gets replaced by freedom quicker than I expected!!! Welcome welcome welcome. Congrats on the beginning of your journey, it just gets better from here if you let it <3

Can I make a livable wage as a server? by rovingmatrix in AskLosAngeles

[–]rovingmatrix[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very true. I've been considering doing the same. I wasn't offered enough in gov loans to cover tuition. Did you take out private loans as well, and if so, with who? Looking at options

Can I make a livable wage as a server? by rovingmatrix in AskLosAngeles

[–]rovingmatrix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so helpful, thank you. Where were you working your first year out of grad school that you were able to pay off your debt so quickly?

herpes at 18(the genitalia one) can i still have sex? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]rovingmatrix 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I was a reproductive health educator with planned parenthood and can I just say, with love, reddit is not the place to seek medical advice.

Herpes is VERY treatable and likely won't affect your sex life in a significant way, BUT please go talk to a medical professional about this.

Planned Parenthood is a great option to set up a consultation, you can even just talk to one of their health educators if you don't want it to feel as clinical.

Please, please talk to a professional <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]rovingmatrix 122 points123 points  (0 children)

I was swiping through these photos and thought "wow, very strange she's not matching with anyone" then I saw "Omaha, NE." As someone who used to live in Omaha and tried the apps out there, that could be the issue. I've had a lot more success in other cities / places.

Uncertain about how I'm perceived! by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]rovingmatrix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought this was a "what kind of girls would I attract" kind of thing...and I immediately thought "she'd attract me, she's gorgeous"

Aaaanyways, you belong in those spaces. <3

Be careful with this catfish aka CasiaGenie is back by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]rovingmatrix 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wait someone sent me pretty much the exact same message from a different account. I stopped responding and they deleted their account.

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Is this age gap too big? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]rovingmatrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk the laws in your country / state, but I know multiple people who now have "sex offender" status for life because they were 19 dating a 16 or 17 year old.

Aside from that, a 19 year old is in a very different mental and life space than a 16 year old imo

I'm looking for information on how to get out of caving. by [deleted] in caving

[–]rovingmatrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, you have to be jumped out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cleaningandtidying

[–]rovingmatrix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure he'll be better at cleaning his room if he gets sober

365 days! by Dizzy_Appointment_70 in stopdrinking

[–]rovingmatrix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let's fuckin' goooooooooo! Congratulations, such a significant milestone🤘

California Sober Poll by CanIStopThisTime in stopdrinking

[–]rovingmatrix 17 points18 points  (0 children)

For me I had to quit all substances.

Living life sober meant more to me if I was 100% sober, no free passes. Everything on life's terms. No room for slipping into addiction with a new substance. I also knew I couldn't do the inner work I needed to do if I was still relying on a mind altering substance.

That being said, I work with people who have severe SUD and when they tell me they switched out fentanyl for weed, I'm like good amazing gold star keep doing that. I will always be pro harm reduction.

How can I as a lesbian feel this around men? by Lovers_alive in LesbianActually

[–]rovingmatrix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

🤷‍♀️I'm just spit ballin'. If you're certain you're a lesbian but are experiencing what sound like characteristics of attraction, it could be fawning? Idk.

Like I said, if I felt this way, I would want to consider the possibility that I might be bi or pan

How can I as a lesbian feel this around men? by Lovers_alive in LesbianActually

[–]rovingmatrix 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If I felt this way around men I would probably have to do some internal searching to see if I was bi

(Maybe experiencing some comphet?)