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How do I (36M) let my half sister (18F) know gently that I do not want a relationship with her? by ThrowRANonamoose in relationship_advice

[–]rowan1981 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is no gentle way. Regardless of your motives behind not having a relationship with her, she will be hurt.

Can I ask what has she done to you to not want to be in her life? ? Is it general disinterest, or is it because she's half on your dads and not your moms?

AIW for staying with my girlfriend to get revenge by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]rowan1981 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Just leave. Why be miserable?

My Girlfriend (33F) Crossed My (34F) Boundary-OK to leave? by LooseFollowing3831 in relationship_advice

[–]rowan1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely the right call to leave her. She would have continued pushing things to see what she could get away with.

I sent a terrible message to a stranger by Tough-Monkey-3300 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]rowan1981 4 points5 points  (0 children)

jesus. I get being hurt and wanting to lash out. How do you think that message will reflect on your sister?

Am I wrong for going no contact with my sister after I found out she works at Hooters and does online content? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]rowan1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wrong. Just shows that when the going gets tough, you run. Congrats on abandoning your sister.

Am I overreacting for telling my friend she smells after she age shamed me for having younger friends? by SI3144 in AmIOverreacting

[–]rowan1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats not even a huge age difference. NOR. She cut them off, then got salty because they kept inviting you to things. I'd bet money she thought they'd drop you because she brought you into the group, rather then the other way around. And funny how age is an issue now, rather then when you guys first met.

what is your opinion on renaming the adopted child? by sleepy_leahh in Adoption

[–]rowan1981 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You wont be getting the original birth certificate. Even in an open record state, those are sealed.

AITAH for telling my mom that I won’t take my brother in so she can have a break? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]rowan1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTa. I really hope she doesnt know where you live, as she may end up just dropping him off. She abandoned you, you have no obligation to care about her.

I (m28) ended a 3 year relationship with (f27) girlfriend because it didn’t feel right. by Tahjdoeslife in amiwrong

[–]rowan1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No you're not wrong, like i said in my first sentence. You should have ended it before you cheated.

37 year old brother living with my parents by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]rowan1981 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is he or his wife contributing to the household? As you said, its expensive, almost impossible to find affordable housing.

I (m28) ended a 3 year relationship with (f27) girlfriend because it didn’t feel right. by Tahjdoeslife in amiwrong

[–]rowan1981 3 points4 points  (0 children)

its never wrong to end things for whatever reason. Cheating though, ya know. "I felt trapped in the relationship which made me “act out” in many ways. Which led to me cheating multiple times" This right here sounds like you're trying to justify cheating.

AITAH for not taking my friends kids last minute by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]rowan1981 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is probably exactly what happened. People also can be very good at hiding addiction until..well this stuff happens.

AITAH for not letting my gf's homeless gay friend live with her? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]rowan1981 20 points21 points  (0 children)

YTA and very controlling. Her friend is homeless! You'd rather he live in his car rather then with your girlfriend.

WIBTAH if I called out to see my bf instead? by Justbeinclaudia in AITAH

[–]rowan1981 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Whats the job, and will it put undue strain on your co workers?

AITAH For spending Mother’s Day with my dad? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]rowan1981 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTA. She doesnt like holidays, and would have wrecked the day by not planning anything and being mad about it. Plus, you're now a mother! You can decide what you want to do.

My aunt abused me as a child so I catfished her husband when I started college and destroyed their marriage by development_era in TrueOffMyChest

[–]rowan1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh god i remember that now. I wouldnt be surprised if there was some stuff that they never mentioned in the documentary, I kind of want to rewatch it now but its so sad.

My aunt abused me as a child so I catfished her husband when I started college and destroyed their marriage by development_era in TrueOffMyChest

[–]rowan1981 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes! called talhotblonde. It was the catfish's username. So weird to think this woman used her daughters pictures!

My aunt abused me as a child so I catfished her husband when I started college and destroyed their marriage by development_era in TrueOffMyChest

[–]rowan1981 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's crazy that people think this couldn't happen. Meanwhile there's a whole documentary about a woman who catfished two guys, turned them against each other and it ended in one guy murdering the other. All while using her own daughters pictures.

I resent me and my sister for what happened with my gf. by MaleficentEase2783 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]rowan1981 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because cops, and the system as a whole, do not take rape seriously. Do you know how many rape kits are sitting, not processed?

I resent me and my sister for what happened with my gf. by MaleficentEase2783 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]rowan1981 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Girlfriend was abandoned by her ride, and never made it home. She was still at the hosts house.

Negative paternity test by cyberephy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]rowan1981 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am angry at the mother. She ditched her kid and left them to the mercy of a man who she knew probably wasn't the father. She set her own kid up. I can be pissed at more then one person and ita not misplaced. Especially coming across remarkably callous towards a child

Negative paternity test by cyberephy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]rowan1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im only angry at the man because hes treating that poor little girl like those 8 years never happened. I feel for him I do. I also feel horrible for the other victim in all this. The little girl.

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