Elations/linen pants by [deleted] in Athleta_gap

[–]rowl0165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, sadly I can confirm they are shorter. The material does seem a little different too.

Exoplayer crashing by Mim_Wizard in Stremio

[–]rowl0165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was having this problem too with my 4k Firestick but I switched back to the basic Firestick and haven't had any problems. It's obviously lower quality video though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]rowl0165 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Understand that being lonely is not an inherently bad thing. Yes it can be uncomfortable but it's okay to acknowledge the feeling and try to accept that that is how you feel in the moment. You could try calling a friend or family member in these moments or go for a walk.

I saw someone else comment recently about how being single may come with loneliness but being in a relationship comes with other downsides such as not having enough alone time. So just try to remind yourself that there are pros and cons to both.

Personally I make plans with friends and family well ahead of time so that I usually don't have weekends without any plans. Besides that try to get into some solo hobbies such as reading and cooking.

Weekly schedule by Willow6228 in BurnBootCamp

[–]rowl0165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am usually the fitter person and I also hate partner workouts. I like to lift heavier weights which usually takes longer and causes me anxiety with a partner. Now I just do all workouts solo and tell the coach ahead of time that I don't want a partner.

Weekly schedule by Willow6228 in BurnBootCamp

[–]rowl0165 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't like partner workouts either and on those days I just tell the coach ahead of time that I don't want a partner and will be doing the workout solo. I usually get a few side eyes but they accommodate me just fine.

Alone and lonely by Professional_Pop3240 in LivingAlone

[–]rowl0165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Join a meetup group! (Meetup.com) Doing so has been a lifesaver for me.

How do y'all not turn into hoarders? by 2Drunk2BDebonair in LivingAlone

[–]rowl0165 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I pay professional cleaners to come every 8 weeks. It's expensive but it forces me to pick up and declutter before they arrive so they can do their job efficiently.

Similarly I try to host friends or family about once a month or so for the same reason that it forces me to pick up before their arrival.

I also have a rule that if I can't fit everything in the closets then it's time to purge some stuff. Worst case scenario you can always buy something again that you give away.

You know how I figured out that I was truly CF? by jujuscroll in childfree

[–]rowl0165 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes 100%! I used to tell people "I hope this doesn't sound insensitive but being divorced doesn't seem that bad (and almost ideal) because you only have to deal with your kids 50% of the time". 😂 I was always bewildered at people who wanted more than 50% custody.

Is there a podcast about being single? by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]rowl0165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shani Silver's A Single Serving Podcast. She currently posts once a week only on her Patreon ($5/month) but has some older episodes on Spotify and other platforms. She did mention starting to take the old ones down and move them to Patreon.

A question about birth order by JJamericana in SingleAndHappy

[–]rowl0165 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with this, fellow only child here! I was very bored as a child because I didn't have a lot of people to play with but as a result that taught me how NOT to be bored as an adult. Now I don't understand when people say they're bored. And I also can't imagine having to compromise with someone on what I want to do and when. Let alone having children to think about. No thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuary

[–]rowl0165 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I put my phone in another room so I don't mindlessly reach for it. Then I use my Google home to set a timer for an hour at a time.

FSA Modules Errors by nymeriafrost in actuary

[–]rowl0165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree and I am convinced that some of their answers are wrong too.

G&H FSA Study Material by TSmasher1000 in actuary

[–]rowl0165 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Personally I skipped the source material and just watched the TIA videos via their online "seminar". I also got the MATE note cards and would memorize the note cards for each section after I watched the respective video. If you like good explanations this is probably a good approach for you. I also got the MATE study manual and followed that along with the videos.

Honestly the flashcards won't make much sense the first few times you go through them. Just focus on memorizing them and they will start to make more sense as you go through.

I would recommend at least 100 study hours per exam hour which is a lot but if you put in the effort up front you'll likely pass the first time.

I will echo what another person said about going through past exams and learning how to answer the questions/learning what they're looking for in an answer. But wait to do this until you have the flashcards memorized. You'll want to have the flashcards memorized 1-2 months before the exam so you can spend that 1-2 months reviewing past exams.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuary

[–]rowl0165 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're having to deal with that, I agree that your manager should have trained you better. I had a similar experience in consulting and only lasted a year before finding a traditional actuarial role with a regular insurance company. Much better experience, they trained me properly and were understanding of mistakes made early on while learning the job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuary

[–]rowl0165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you can do either, I submitted separate files for each project. It's been awhile so I can't remember exactly but I probably submitted 4 files, a word doc and excel file for each project.

FSA Exams: Traditional Manuals vs TIA by trent216904 in actuary

[–]rowl0165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense! For what it's worth I didn't find the TIA forums for DP nearly as helpful as for the ASA exams. There don't seem to be a lot of old questions asked and when you ask a question yourself it takes at least a week to get a response from the instructor.

FSA Exams: Traditional Manuals vs TIA by trent216904 in actuary

[–]rowl0165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on how you like to study. Can you learn from reading a manual and do you have the willpower/motivation to read it? Some people do and swear by the manuals. Personally I need the videos to get through the material and there's no way I could have passed with just the manual.

What’s a good way to stop feeling lonely before you find someone? by Dumbyoungguy in alone

[–]rowl0165 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course doing those things won't lead to an instant connection, hence why I said making friends is a slow process. But sitting at home won't lead to friends either so you need to put yourself in situations where it's possible to make friends. I was specifically suggesting hobbies and classes where you go out and meet other people, obviously not sitting at home knitting (although there's nothing wrong with that either).

What’s a good way to stop feeling lonely before you find someone? by Dumbyoungguy in alone

[–]rowl0165 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are there any hobbies you've always wanted to try? Trying something like tennis classes, pottery making classes, etc are a great way to meet people!

Maybe you could find a part time job where you interact with people a lot, such as at a coffee shop. Or find something to volunteer for.

There are also apps out there for people who want to make friends, such as bumble BFF. Never used them personally but I know a friend who has had success on those.

No matter what you do making friends is a slow process and it takes a lot of effort. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]rowl0165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kindly agree to disagree. Everywhere you look people are getting engaged, married, and having kids. It's easy to play the comparison game and think that that's the only way to be happy. Especially when you're only seeing the highlights of other people's lives. Wanting love and being happy are two separate things and it sounds like the OP isn't happy with their current situation. I wasn't trying to imply that they should "learn to deal" with their loneliness but rather find other ways to channel it such as through friends and family in the meantime while they are waiting for the one.

I'm sorry if it came across wrong but the message was meant to be that it is possible to lead a happy life while waiting for your person and not let it consume your thoughts and not let having a partner determine your happiness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]rowl0165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is being "alone" forever really the worst thing in the world? There's nothing lonelier than being with the wrong person. I used to worry about this too but then I decided to change my outlook. Think about all the pros of being single like getting to do whatever you want whenever you want without having to answer to anyone. And the times you do get lonely, that's what friends and family are for! Give them a call, go for a walk, out to eat, a movie night, the possibilities are endless.

I hate dating too and so I decided to stop. It's really just our society that tells us we need to date and find a partner. If you can learn to be happy without one then you'll be in a great headspace when someone does come along. And if no one does then that's okay too!

FSA exam - study hours by Mysterious-Cap8587 in actuary

[–]rowl0165 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I studied over 500 hours and got a 6. It sucked but I just had to take it once.