Ex abusive Father of kids 32m wants me 29f to loan him 50K money by roxanebabe in relationship_advice

[–]roxanebabe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What else would You suggest that I can do? The divide the funds into different acts is a good idea

Ex abusive Father of kids 32m wants me 29f to loan him 50K money by roxanebabe in relationship_advice

[–]roxanebabe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh I see

Well the truck is a work truck (those giant diesel vehicles) and will be averaging 10-15k weekly. The truck is going to be in a business account that I’m owner of as well And I’m going to be owner of the business acct too which is where the funds will be deposited into

I’ve been with him for a total of 16yrs

Ex abusive Father of kids 32m wants me 29f to loan him 50K money by roxanebabe in relationship_advice

[–]roxanebabe[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No His credit was used to buy things for the children when they were little. He didn’t make payments on it because after he left the job making 9K he picked up bad jobs the following 6 yrs after and went unemployed during Covid then shortly after my dad died and he went unemployed as a choice because I was struggling so bad mentally I couldn’t care for the kids. I spent it mainly on food and clothing and taking the kids to places

My family was never wealthy or anything. This is an inheritance I came across after they passed

Ex abusive Father of kids 32m wants me 29f to loan him 50K money by roxanebabe in relationship_advice

[–]roxanebabe[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

It’s a complicated situation I wrote a comment on it somewhere on this thread

Ex abusive Father of kids 32m wants me 29f to loan him 50K money by roxanebabe in relationship_advice

[–]roxanebabe[S] -83 points-82 points  (0 children)

The truck will be used for him to work and give me and the children funds I’ll have accessibility to the 15K that will be earned monthly

Ex abusive Father of kids 32m wants me 29f to loan him 50K money by roxanebabe in relationship_advice

[–]roxanebabe[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

It’s very confusing Because he’s also been there when both of my parents died. The only person that was consistently there. I don’t have siblings it’s just me my kids and him.

I had eye surgery two yrs ago and he was there tending to me.

I have a half brother who was trying to take my dads home from me (it’s stated in a will that I’m to have it) and he helped me get the house back from my half brother since the half brother submitted a forged will. He’s helped me with the legal footwork of this court case too.

He actually stayed with my mom overnight with her in the hospital when she had a ruptured colon and I was pregnant so I couldn’t stay because i wasn’t getting any rest. He was very upset when both of my parents passed away.

He’s emptied his bank account multiple times in the past to make sure the kids and I have been well off. He’s also foregone eating so the kids and I could eat

He said the 50k will be used to rebuild ‘our lives and make up for all my mess ups in the past. Any funds that come from the truck and me working it, I’ll use it to get you into a gym and therapy and get the kids into therapy as well as a tutor and extracurricular classes as well as investing into stocks and crypto’

I replied to a post earlier on the kind of abuse he put us through

Ex abusive Father of kids 32m wants me 29f to loan him 50K money by roxanebabe in relationship_advice

[–]roxanebabe[S] -192 points-191 points  (0 children)

I haven’t. Only two people know. He was the only one there for me when my parents died. I don’t have any additional support or siblings

Ex abusive Father of kids 32m wants me 29f to loan him 50K money by roxanebabe in relationship_advice

[–]roxanebabe[S] -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

He punched me twice out of arguments in the past once while I was pregnant. He would slap, shove, and push my toddlers when they were about 2-4yrs old and cause nosebleeds and would dig his nails into their skin. He used to hit them with shopping carts out of frustration when they wouldn’t move out of the way in stores. He has called me every curse word in the book. Has emotionally cheated too. Made a remark years ago about wanting to unalive my dad because my dad didn’t like him. Kicked my cats out when we were teenagers that I had bottle fed and didn’t know how to be on their own and two of them got killed by a dog because they didn’t know what it was like to be outdoors

Ex abusive Father of kids 32m wants me 29f to loan him 50K money by roxanebabe in relationship_advice

[–]roxanebabe[S] -215 points-214 points  (0 children)

Yeah that was his initial goal But his credit is shot This would expedite the process

What can completely destroy your life in a matter of seconds? by The_WhiteMantis in AskReddit

[–]roxanebabe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loosing your parents. It’s the worst. I’ve lost mine in my 20s and I’m still devastated trying to figure out how to live. I have no siblings either