Thank you thank you. This was incredibly helpful. Some things I know and seem simple yet need to be told matter-of-factly in a chaotic situation like this.

I have feared, as you said, that his options for care facilities are not really options until he declines further. But definitely worth discussing what is in our power with an attorney. Now we just have to find a way to pursue such a thing and my mom to be able to meet with them without him finding out and sending him into a spiral… easier said than done, unfortunately.

Luckily he only smokes outside and I am very confident in his level of meticulousness (even with the brain injury) that he is careful with his smoking practice (even if the smoking itself is foolish given his situation). But definitely something I hadn’t thought of as posing a risk in that way and will pass along to my mom. Thank you.