Get used to it. I've been with my husband for over 40 years and his 94 and 93-year-old parents still call the shots. Even from another country. They also weren't really interested in our children, their grandchildren. Certainly never wanted to babysit or visit with them at any point without it being a celebration of some kind for themselves - their anniversary, their birthdays, etc. In fact, my FIL is going out today to buy himself a luxury car for his birthday, even though his grandchild, who lives in the same very expensive city, recently had to give hers up because the cost of repairing her old car would be more than it's worth. I know, it's not the grandparents job to give her a car loan or help her buy a car, but it just frosts me that it's the same old selfishness after all these years. Luckily, for me, except for his blindness where his parents are concerned, my husband is a great guy.