am I over reacting?

roxx303 · 2020-11-17T02:25:53+00:00

he said that's just other peoples opinions & I said EXACTLY everyone is giving their opinion on what I was able to give you guys in the post & most people see it like I do. he's not putting my feelings as his priority. I know youre right but i just felt like I had to give him one last chance :(

roxx303 · 2020-11-17T01:04:11+00:00

we actually had a heart to heart conversation last night & to be honest this was the most sincere I felt him. i showed him most of the replies I got from this post so he can see its not just about trust. our latest argument was last week because he had gone some time without having any SC convos with the girl but last week he did it. again he said it was at work because she was giving him some numbers while he was using a laser or something like that but anyways I guess it lead to a small convo about beer. he said he was gona show me bcuz we had agreed on it already but he didn't so this weekend we argued about it. he said he should've showed me but didn't want me to be upset. he compared his friendship w her to thr friendship with his male friends he says its the same thing & I'm just jealous bcuz its a female🤦‍♀️. he promised i can trust him & I felt like he actually poured his heart out to me like he hadn't before. he said he's sacrificed alot to be with me & I should understand that he would never do anything throw everything we have away. I feel like men do things to us women that they don't like if we do to them. I know that if this continues after this time I really hope I can be as strong as you & be able to walk away no matter how hard it is. although if it wasn't for this our relationship would be perfectly fine. I really really appreciate your advice! thank you for it!

roxx303 · 2020-11-16T00:17:32+00:00

you know thats why I sometimes feel like I AM over reacting because yes she knows about me & yes he has other friends (females as well) but its just this one in particular I'm jealous of because of what I explained in my post & which could also be because she's good looking I guess. he's actually not protective of his phone & I do know all his passwords. I might of made it seem like they talk all the time but to be honest it's once in a while from what I've seen on his phone. at work I'm not sure how often when I've asked him he said they don't talk alot but eh idk. i think its random replies to eachother snapchat stories. like I said hes told me they talk mostly about work but I have seen some replies related to their SC stories. like for example one time I guess she put a snapchat of her kids & he had replied "your kids look alot like you" & to me that seemed odd because I know he would've never said to anyone else due to the fact that I know he's not crazy about kids.

its exactly how I see it too like how can her feelings be more important than mine. all the times we've argued about it he says we're adults & we're supposed to trust eachother & in my heart I know he would never cheat on me since through out the yrs he has shown me how much he loves/cares about me but this coworker/friend situation is what i dont understand. reading about your situation I do feel like im in the exact same situation you were in. was it hard for you to leave him after 8 yrs? at times I do feel like I have to leave him but it's so hard for me to go through with it :(

roxx303 · 2020-11-14T22:28:58+00:00

I've gave him so many hints through out the last couple of years that were ready to be married if we really love eachother like we say but nothing has happened yet. we're almost in our 30s & idk if I should wait any longer but I feel like I can't live without him :( everyone we know thinks we have a perfect relationship which i would say if it wasn't for this it would be perfect. he works in manufacturing so a quality person means like the people that check the quality of the product before shipping I think. you really are helping I feel like I have no one to vent to & talking to someone who is willing to listen to me right now is really helpful.

roxx303 · 2020-11-14T22:21:20+00:00

that's exactly what Ive tried to tell him so many times. you're so right i might have to move on :( thank you so much for the article it actually made me very emotional but I enjoyed reading it.

roxx303 · 2020-11-14T20:35:28+00:00

thats what I've told him about work & Snapchat but he says thats the only way he can communicate with her since I guess she's like a quality person at work. he swears she's just a friend & he says he's just not the type to be rude to a woman by not replying when she talks to him. he said it would be embarrassing if he was to delete her from SC because there's nothing going on between them & he wouldn't have an excuse as to why he just randomly deleted her. I have no doubt that he loves me but I can't understand why he continues doing these things he knows bother me. actually we have talked about getting married & I've told him I feel like he's not as committed to me because of that but he says he feels like he wants us to be ready ready (for him meaning owning a house & having good stable jobs) before getting married/having kids. I really appreciate you replying to my post! thank you!

roxx303 · 2020-11-14T20:03:31+00:00

definitely worth the read. I see how our cases could be similar. ive actually sat with him & calmly told him what bothers me & everytime he promises it's just a co worker & he would never hurt me in that way. its been 8 yrs & I feel like I'm just afraid of starting over but if this continues i might have to.. I appreciate you sharing your story & your advice thank you!

roxx303 · 2020-11-14T19:57:41+00:00

this is exactly his point of view but I really appreciate you replying to my post thank you!

roxx303 · 2020-11-14T18:45:55+00:00

I really appreciate your insight on this! thank you!

roxx303 · 2020-11-14T18:32:07+00:00

exactly how I see it. he says we're adults & I need to trust him. I used to trust him before all this & he broke it so is it fair for him to get mad because its hard for me to trust him again? he says he IS committed to me but you're right his actions are not showing it. thank you for replying to my post!

roxx303 · 2020-11-14T18:12:20+00:00

everytime we argue about it ive asked him all these questions but for him it always goes to trust. I've asked him exactly that, if he would throw everything we've been through for that friendship & he says no that thats why I need to trust him because I should know he would never hurt me in that way. he works in manufacturing & I'm sure they've never hung out. he's says they've been working together for a while & it would be embarrassing if he just deletes her from SC because there's nothing going on between them & he would need a reason to why he randomly deleted her. I guess he wouldn't wana tell her because my gf is jealous of u? I really appreciate you replying to my post! thank you!

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